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Is your bedroom "sacred?"
My cousin's is. Her DS is sick (H1N1) and she is letting him sleep on the floor in the hallway next to her bedroom and she's sleeping on the floor next to the doorway, so she can be by him.
I asked her why didn't she just let him sleep with them and she said that the bed is sacred. I said, umm okay, why not let him camp out on the floor in your room so he's close and she said that her room is sacred. Okay then, I suggested that she camp out in his room so he can be in his bed and she said that her and her DH have a policy that if they are home together, then they sleep in the same room.
As much as I would love to have DD stay in her room all night long, I am thinking my room is not sacred. It'[s just a bed IMO. I told her that she must not be creative enough, but I don't think she got it.
Audrey Elizabeth 11-11-06
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Re: Is your bedroom "sacred?"
we have rules about no kids in our room or on our bed, (mostly because we don't want them in our room or jumping on our bed) but when a kid is sick or hurt or whatever, rules get thrown out the door and you do what you have to do.
When A broke her leg, we HAD to let her sleep with us until she got her cast because she couldn't walk tot he bathroom.
When kids are sick, its easier for them to be near us.
its weird that she would sleep on teh floor with a door seperating her and her kid.....no way in hell I'd do that.
I know people who are like this. Us, not so much. We don't co-sleep...or at least not when I'm conscious enough to get a baby or kid back to bed/crib, but the girls are in our room a lot. Our bathroom is the only one with a tub. The girls curl up on our bed to read books at night before going to sleep. They snuggle up with us (if we can get them to) in the mornings on weekends so we can doze and they can watch cartoons. We would have had them in with us when they/DD#1 had H1N1, but they sleep better in their own beds so I turned the monitor all the way up. We asked whether she wanted to sleep on the floor (neither she nor I sleep well with her in our bed) in our room or in her own bed. I would have let her in the bed if I thought she'd sleep well. DD#2 has slept there as recently as September when we were traveling and she fell out of the bed she was sharing with DD#1 and was too upset.
Also - FWIW - When DH had H1N1, he moved into the guest room for the week to keep from exposing me any more than I already was. I think he did that when he had pneumonia back in May too, but I can't remember. Then it was just to let me sleep so I could take care of the girls and him and because I was in my first trimester. We prefer to sleep in the same room/bed, but it's not a "rule" or one we'd attempt.
This was the most confusing and ridiculous thing I have ever heard.
So, her kid is sick, and she would rather make sure her and her dh sleep in the same room than let her poor sick son sleep in his own bed or even on the couch? Sorry, but picturing a kid sleeping in the hallway and her next to the door...that is stupid. I don't get it at all.
What if the kid's arm happens to cross the threshold of the door in the middle of the night. Their room would no longer be sacred! GASP!
All of this.
Our room is far, far from sacred. The kids have their own room and they start off in there every night, but most of the time at least one of them (if not both) end up in our room by morning.
Then again, I don't even sleep with dh. I work 6 nights a week.
The thought of a parent and child each sleeping on the floor with just a door separating them is utterly ridiculous IMO. It's not like your cousin can be getting any decent sleep if she's on the floor and unless her husband is down there with her they're not sleeping together anyhow. I just don't get that kind of rigidity.
I thought the same thing too.
I will add that there are tons of times, where I just assume that DH and I sleep in other rooms. He's a snorer and I can't sleep with his breathing
This. How absurd! Is she always so irrational?
Nope. Not at all. She's usually very practical and warm.
Well, its good to hear that, at least.
I'm still shaking my head over this post though.
Hold on. Her kid is sick and he has to sleep on the floor?
WTF?
No holy water has ever been applied to our bed or bedroom.
Your cousin sounds nuts.
The only logical explanation would be her DH. I really do not understand, because we let DD in our bed almost every night at some point.
This is the most ridiculous and disturbing thing I've heard in a long time. Obviously your cousin never ever goes to hotels with her DC. Gosh...he would be in the next bed!
Making a sick child sleep on the floor is disturbing. Floors are drafty (even upstairs floors and especially hallways). Sounds like she has a few screws loose.
No it's not. Our kids generally sleep in their own beds but once or twice a week in the wee hours of the morning you might find one, maybe two kids, and possibly a dog snuggled up with us.
I don't get extreme parenting like that. As my DH says "keep simple things simple" and that sick kid on the floor weirdness is not keeping things simple.
Nope - they don't travel with their kids. I am wondering if this is why?
That is just so sad, making your sick kid sleep on the floor. I'd rather sleep on the floor in my kids room and them in bed. Dang.
It reminds me of a Nestie, years ago who posted that they don't let their kids on the bed or in their room due the 'sacred'ness of the bed, saying they don't want their kid on the bed they have s-e-x on. Um, ok? If that policy holds true, I imagine there are lots and lots of surfaces in a house a kid can't be around... I totally get needing your own space as a parent and poo-poo'ing the bed as a play area, but I thought it was the strangest thing.
Christmas 2011
considering DS2 has been sleeping with us for almost 3 months now - not at all
DS1 comes over to our room first thing in the morning too, 99% of the time he ends up in our bed too.
Oh, and poor sick kid is sleeping on the floor? that's just wrong.
ditto.. half the time I don't even realize dd has climbed into our bed. she's like a ninja. lol. I work 2 nights a week. both kids go to bed fine. all on their own... but sometimes they wake in the night and need us... sometimes dd wakes and feels more secure coming to our room. some nights we don't hear a peep or see them until morning. varies.
my parents did not allow us in their room... but my mom tells me now it was b/c my dad had a gun he kept in his closet... so we were not allowed in their room without them (awake them). if we were sick, they came to us.
sacred bed.
I haven't read any of the responses, so I'm sorry if I offend anyone, but I think that is absolutely sh*tty of your cousin to do to her kid.
We co-slept 100% of the time for 2.5 years and Ethan is in our room now while family is in town and DH is away. I guess I consider it "sacred" in that I consider it a family space.
I was raised by parents w/ your cousin's mentality. My pediatrician apparently told my parents that if I wanted to be in their room, they should make me sleep on the floor, at the foot of the bed, like a dog. And that I'd eventually stop wanting to be in there with them if they made me sleep on the floor like a dog. AND THEY WENT ALONG WITH IT. I've got some bitterness about that. LOL
I think she's being ridiculous.
DH and I have slept apart more often than we have together this year. He gets up at O-dark-thirty, and DD is a night owl and cosleeps. He sleeps in DS room or on the couch.
DS - December 2006
DD - December 2008
I grew up in the opposite house. My mom said that there were time when all 4 of us kids were in bed with them and DD still sleeps with us a lot. I don't see anything wrong with it. like I said in teh first post, if your room is that sacred, then you aren't creative enough to take the lovin' elsewhere.
LOL, um, no, not so much! You can usually find a wide array of trains, trucks, action figures and board books in my bed or on our bedside tables. DS sleeps upstairs in his bed but it's not uncommon for him to have a bad dream and come downstairs and climb into bed with me/us.
That's really a strange stance to take on not bed sharing. I mean, she would rather sleep on the floor outside her room with her kid while he's sick than comfort him in her bed or his own bed. Weird.