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I'm very, very nervous.

cindy453cindy453
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On Friday my FIL is coming into town with his girlfriend (whom I've never met). He wants to take us to dinner, and invited my parents to come too. We were trying to figure out a way to spend the day downtown, but then come back to our suburb to drop Em off with my grandparents while we went to dinner (back downtown). It was going to be 40ish minutes of driving total to drop her off... which is a big chunk when FIL is only here for a day and wants to see her.

My grandparents just called and said they cannot watch her Friday evening afterall. My parents are going to be at dinner with us. It's not a fancy place- there will be people in jeans, probably... but it's nice enough. I have no idea what to do with Em. If she was a more easy going baby I would just take her and not worry, but she isn't.

Ugh. I have nobody I can leave her with. I really don't trust a teenage babysitter, for various reasons... I don't know if I should not go to dinner, or what.

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  • Sally JSally J member
    I would go to dinner with her.  She may turn out to be having a good day/evening, plus be fascinated with the people and environment which might distract her a bit.  If you have to leave dinner because she gets fussy, any way you can wander around a shopping center while the others eat?
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  • cindy453cindy453

    Hmm... not a shopping center, but a book store. There is a book store very close, I think.

    Maybe if I go into it assuming I will have to get up and leave, it won't be as big of a deal.... like, I'll tell everybody that Em and I are only staying for 15-20 minutes at dinner so that way if I think she is winding up I have already set the ground work to leave. Sometimes I can tell when she is reaching the end of her rope, but other people can't tell and will try to guilt me into staying longer. Preparing them in advance may help.. and if she is doing well then we can stay.

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  • HippinskiHippinski
    Can you go and take turns with dh and wear her?  I had to do this last year for dh's work Christmas party.  I was super nervous too but it worked out okay in the end.
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  • DarcyLongfellowDarcyLongfellow member
    My daughter is also fairly high maintenance! We've been able to take her out to eat a few times. I find the easiest thing is to try to nurse her for as much of the time you're at the restaurant as possible. DD likes going to restaurants and looking at all the people, but when she gets tired of that, I just nurse her. That gives us at least 20 minutes of peace. If that's not working, we all just take turns walking outside with her. Would your parents help you and your husband walk with her outside?
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