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Miscarriage/Pregnancy Loss
f/u to low hearbeat...
Just to bring you up to speed, I had an u/s last week that showed the baby measuring on time, 8w5d, but with a low HR, only in the 70s. I had my follow up u/s today, and there was no heartbeat, and no growth from last week. The ultrasound tech said that the baby "didn't look right" on last week's scan, but she didn't elaborate, so I don't know if she meant that physically, the baby looked deformed, or if it just looked like a baby that wasn't going to make it.
I'm going to have a D&C tomorrow afternoon. My husband and I had discussed our worst-case scenario options this weekend, and we both think that's our best option. My body has shown no signs of letting go this past week, and I can't stand the idea of waiting. I don't want to see it happen, either. I was almost 9 weeks, according to the bump, my baby was about the size of a raspberry...that's a decent size. As gross and morbid as it sounds, I don't want to miscarry at home, and see the clots and wonder, "Is that one my baby?".
I'm just kind of numb right now. I had my deep depression, grieving last week, and as much as I was hoping and praying for better news today, I do have to say that a definitive answer is not nearly as hard as the waiting. We stopped at Starbucks on the way home, and I'm drinking a gingerbread latte with all the caffeine they could pack into it. I think we're going to have sushi for dinner, and I am going to have a big old drink this weekend.
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Re: f/u to low hearbeat...
BFP #2 4/13/10. Bridget born 12/28/10
BFP #3 Finn born 8/11/15
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Missed m/c 11.09 | Missed m/c 3.10 | We miss you & love you so.
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Formerly toddandjulie
I'm so sorry for your loss. Our Pumpkin's loss went the same - low h/b, to lower h/b, and then no h/b at 8 weeks, 3 days.
I really think, if possible, a D&C is the kindest and gentlest way to end the loss. It's horrible, but at least the physical part is over and you can focus on the healing. That's JMO, of course.