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Doozieanne
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I think my dad's wife is pregnant too :(
Doozieanne
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My dad remarried almost a year ago and she is 5 years older than me. She really wants a baby but my dad doesn't really. My dad got my real mom pregnant while I was in high school but it was an "oops" and my dad forced my mom to get an abortion or he would divorce her. Well, against her wishes, she did...and they still got divorced anyway. SOOOOO...now I am pretty sure his new wife is pregnant and I want to throw up. I am so upset. The family over thanksgiving was acting very strange (like they didn't want to tell me) and they had special non-alcoholic drinks just for her. I don't know how to deal with this but I was traumatized by the abortion and don't feel like he deserves another child. I want to back out of the family events for Christmas (and not talk to my dad) but I don't want my extended fam to get mad at me. I just can't deal with it...especially being pregnant myself. Sorry I had to vent.
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Re: I think my dad's wife is pregnant too :(
I don't know what would bother me more, the fact that my dad married someone 5 years older than me (because my best friend is just 5 years older than me, and it would be an eww factor for me) or they were keeping a secret from me.
Good luck with whatever you choose.
I have a brother who is 2 yrs younger and doesn't want another sibling either. My dad's wife is from Taiwan and it's hard to understand her...plus she is barely older then me...so I am really not fond of her at all. She thinks having a baby and then sending it off to the grandparents is how you raise a child (like off to Taiwan)...although I doubt that will happen.
I should also mention that I am almost 29 and having a brother or sister younger then my own children is just odd to me. How do I explain that?!
My first thought is that if she is pregnant, you can't hold it against the baby.
You're in a tough situation and hope you can come to terms with it if your suspicions are correct.
I agree with the pp. Do what you want to do and what you're comfortable with.
I would also have a problem if my dad married someone who was five years older than me, especially because that would make her younger than DH, who is seven years older than me!
I'm sorry you have to go through this.
Can't blame you for being upset! Sounds like your dad is nuts.
I know you were just venting, but that's my 2 cents.
DS1 born June 2008 | m/c at 9w March 2011 | DS2 born April 2012
I don't mean to nit pick but its a stupid pet peeve of mine,
Step-siblings are kids that are married into, Half-siblings are those that have one same parent one different parent.
Sorry I don't know why it bothers me so much, but I have a half brother that is 17 years younger than me, and I hate it when people ask me about my step brother.
::steps off soap box::
Have a polite, surface relationship with dad. To be honest with you, my dad's not horrible, but he really doesn't seem to care much about his kids anymore. I just stopped trying. I'm nice and all, but it's a pretty superficial thing.
That's not a big deal. My DH is barely older than his nephew and nieces, and quite a few of them are older than my SIL, and most of them are older than my other SIL. My FIL had a family, divorced, and 20 years later had another family. It's by know means unheard of, or unnatural. My DH and SIL's treat their nieces and nephews like cousins, and they don't go by aunt or uncle.
I understand. My parents divorced while i was in hs. My dad actually moved cross country without mentioning it - only knew from the return address on the cs checks.
His gf -- he's lived with her since he moved out of my mom's 8 years ago - cheated on my mom w/her, told me about it, introduced me to her while my parents were still together, and made me lie about it -- anyway, has a grandson a year older than DD and I'm annoyed/jealous of the attention that he gets vs DD. I think that's mostly her doing, but it still bugs the crap out of me.
Good luck with this. Hopefully she's not pregnant. If she is, hopefully your dad will be a good parent to this child, for the child's sake, certainly not his. And I know this will sound crass, but I really do wonder how they met... since she doesn't even speak English.
Yea not to crazy. I have a little brother 17 years younger than me, and he is only four years older than my niece. Not too weird.
I was wondering the same thing. I worked with two women at the daycare I was at (both wonderful people) who didn't speak very good English (one of them barely spoke enough to communicate about every day things) and were married to American men.
Now, I have absolutely no problem with the fact that they didn't speak great English, I'm not one of those people. But I was always curious how they met their husbands and how they could form a relationship with a language barrier like that. I'm not saying it's impossible, though.
One of them that I talked to told me that she met her husband on the internet, and then he went to visit her once and brought her back with him. She also told me that she waited a while to have her first kid with him because she wanted to make sure that she liked him (this was after they were married).
Is he military??? My dad is in the Army and there are a LOT of soldiers with wives from the Phillipines/Taiwan/Korea.
Actually, 'Nilla, I think you missed the point of the vent.
She's mad at her father for possibly fathering a child with his new wife after he forced the OP's mother to get an abortion while the OP was in high school because he said he didn't want any other kids. He threatened the OP's mother with divorce if she didn't do it, and then divorced her anyways.
That's pretty despicable. I don't think the OP is lashing out at her father's new wife, really, just the crappy situation her father has put the OP and her siblings in.
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