Who knows you're TTC?

MrsTechie · November 2009

Did you tell anyone? Or is it your little secret?

I told my mom. She's my sounding board for a lot of things. She said she's more than ready for grandchildren and is surprised that it took me this long to make a decision- with Mr Techie of course- and to plan it out. (She thought it would be months ago.)

Temp356619000002780 · November 2009

Um DH, my Sis, and my BFF!

ericaandsy · November 2009

My sister and some of my girlfriends. I'm dying to tell my Mom!

WishLuckyStar · November 2009

My close circle of friends know. I wish I hadn't told them but even before we started trying I was talking about how we were going to get pregnant soon (and look at how well that worked out!). I probably wouldn't have told my mom about everything except I couldn't go in for surgery without telling her and I didn't want to lie about it.

But all in all I'm pretty open about it - I don't like the stigma infertility has.

mrs. weber on 8/26/07!! · November 2009

Both of our moms know, my best friend (who is his sister), 1 of my sisters know, and his best friend. And allllll of you ladies. haha SHHH!!

chickpea912 · November 2009

Mrs. Techie - Have you been married long?

So far, my mom knows, I'm pretty sure my sisters kind of know, and my two BFFs know... I have a bunch of other friends who I'm sure know/suspect, but I don't talk about it with them. When we go out with the gang, though, I feel them watching me - does she get wine, is she drinking coffee.. etc. It's a little annoying - makes me want to mess with them - I've stopped drinking with the group. Smile

TryingforBaby1 · November 2009

Initially we didn't tell anyone. But now a few of our close friends and family know.

Teach84 · November 2009

no one knows we are TTC yet... i'm sure some people assume we are, but for now we are keeping it between us.

harleyjo · November 2009

NO ONE thank goodness. ?Although, people are guessing.

ohdrama09 · November 2009

Just my sister and a close friend of mine who's already very very PG.

melodramatic26 · November 2009

I have 4 very close girlfriends that know. My bff (B) is dating my dh's bff (E).

Dh and I work together, at the same company as E. So I assume he knows as well.

Our parents and other family and friends do not- as far as I know.

MrsTechie · November 2009

chickpea912:

Mrs. Techie - Have you been married long?

So far, my mom knows, I'm pretty sure my sisters kind of know, and my two BFFs know... I have a bunch of other friends who I'm sure know/suspect, but I don't talk about it with them. When we go out with the gang, though, I feel them watching me - does she get wine, is she drinking coffee.. etc. It's a little annoying - makes me want to mess with them - I've stopped drinking with the group.

We got married in Feb 09. We've been together since early 06 and feel as though we've known each other forever. All of our friends and family have commented that as soon as we got together they knew we had found "the one".

Nicole_H · November 2009

Outside of DH, just my BF. She's been TTC, too, and she just got her BFP last week! It would be awesome if we were close together.

lindsey913 · November 2009

I have only told a couple of really close friends. If I'm not pregnant soon, I'll probably end up telling my Mom as well. Don't want to tell anyone else that we are TTC at this point.

MrsTechie · November 2009

WishLuckyStar:

My close circle of friends know. I wish I hadn't told them but even before we started trying I was talking about how we were going to get pregnant soon (and look at how well that worked out!). I probably wouldn't have told my mom about everything except I couldn't go in for surgery without telling her and I didn't want to lie about it.

But all in all I'm pretty open about it - I don't like the stigma infertility has.

This is one of the reasons I asked. I'm hesitant to tell any of our social circle for exactly that.

MrsTechie · November 2009

Nicole_H:
Outside of DH, just my BF. She's been TTC, too, and she just got her BFP last week! It would be awesome if we were close together.

I think that would be really cool. Someone close by to shop with and compare notes and bellies to! Good Luck on your own BFP!

scootterbug · November 2009

My mom, bro and the BIL and most of my girlfriends. I'v always said I wanted to start TTC when I turned 25 but now that Im almost 27 I wish I didn't tell all my girlfriends because it sucks to always say no not this month Sad

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rac20585 · November 2009

I don't go out of my way at all to keep it a secret....but I'm pretty much an open book about most things. If someone asks, I tell them. It's pretty much assumed anyway!

MrsTechie · November 2009

scootterbug:
My mom, bro and the BIL and most of my girlfriends. I'v always said I wanted to start TTC when I turned 25 but now that Im almost 27 I wish I didn't tell all my girlfriends because it sucks to always say no not this month .

Looking back at my baby plans for myself makes me shake my head. lol

It's a common sentiment here, but... if I knew then what I know now...

It's got to be a double pinch to the butt to get the BFN and to have to share the info with your friends.

rac20585:
I don't go out of my way at all to keep it a secret....but I'm pretty much an open book about most things. If someone asks, I tell them. It's pretty much assumed anyway!

Do people ask?

When we first got married I heard it a lot but now, not so much. I think it's becuase I convinced them all that it wouldn't be this year. Which is what I thought at the time too.

chickpea912 · November 2009

MrsTechie:
chickpea912:

Mrs. Techie - Have you been married long?

So far, my mom knows, I'm pretty sure my sisters kind of know, and my two BFFs know... I have a bunch of other friends who I'm sure know/suspect, but I don't talk about it with them. When we go out with the gang, though, I feel them watching me - does she get wine, is she drinking coffee.. etc. It's a little annoying - makes me want to mess with them - I've stopped drinking with the group.

We got married in Feb 09. We've been together since early 06 and feel as though we've known each other forever. All of our friends and family have commented that as soon as we got together they knew we had found "the one".

So sweet! I love hearing stories of when couples get together. DH and I have known each other for more than 12 years... this January we'll have been together for 8 years... and yeah, I still feel like I've known him and been with him forever. Best feeling ever!

ElyseBall · November 2009

The plan initially was to not tell anyone...

But I cannot keep my own secret!! So most of my friends know, but the good thing about most of my friends having children is that they know it doesn't happen overnight and that it can take time so I don't get the "sooo.... any news to tell me?" everytime I pick up the phone (only sometimes)!

melodramatic26 · November 2009

When we first got married, people asked all the time, but b/c we were so young (23 & 24) we were easily able to tell them we weren't ready.

However, after being married for 7 years and now in our 30's we get looks and comments like "you don't have much longer", "don't want old parents right". Which to be honest, is really hurtful.

We aren't ready to tell we are trying but the questions seem to be getting more and more frequent from family and friends.

MrsTechie · November 2009

chickpea912:
So sweet! I love hearing stories of when couples get together. DH and I have known each other for more than 12 years... this January we'll have been together for 8 years... and yeah, I still feel like I've known him and been with him forever. Best feeling ever!

Aw, thanks. Mr Techie didn't actually propose, lol. We just... knew. We both started looking at wedding rings on the same day which led to, "So, we're getting married then, right?". And one more little twist, we met when we worked for the same company (me, employee, him, contractor) and when I tried to spark a conversation with him, he said that he didn't get socially invovled with people from work. I emailed him and was snarky, said that I just wanted to talk to you! not have your first born child! Stick out tongue Look where that got us...

8 years of being married to your best friend sounds awesome!

MrsTechie · November 2009

melodramatic26:

When we first got married, people asked all the time, but b/c we were so young (23 & 24) we were easily able to tell them we weren't ready.

However, after being married for 7 years and now in our 30's we get looks and comments like "you don't have much longer", "don't want old parents right". Which to be honest, is really hurtful.

We aren't ready to tell we are trying but the questions seem to be getting more and more frequent from family and friends.

I will never understand those comments, you know?

Things are so much different now than they were for our parents. For the most part, people work longer and harder on their relationships before jumping into marriage and a family. Not to mention the whole career thing. These things both take time in your life.

Mr Techie hears the "you aren't getting any younger" comments from family. He's 34 and his younger brother has 2 kids already. :shrug: He's okay with it for now but he's mildly concerned with having kids in the house past 50. lol (We want at least 2 kids).

Camok87 · November 2009

Only my DH, and two girlfriends know...One is pregnant herself and a midwife, so its nice to have someone to ask questions!!

This is the only secret i've kept from my mum (we are very close) but i really want it to be a surprise for her, and can't wait to see her face when it does happen!

Necee118 · November 2009

Only my 3 BF!!! Hoping for a Christmas announcement for the parents and ILs

hello_im_tash · November 2009

Just me and my husband, we really feel like it is our little secret and we want to keep it that way, in our circle of friends there aren't many secrets!!!

Mrs_JAMY · November 2009

My mom, brother-in-law (he lives with us, and has over heard us talking), sister in law, and best friend.

MaybeBaby2 · November 2009

My Mom, sister and two very good friends. My group of friends all have baby #2 or are PG with baby #2...so, it's practically a give-in.

renafaith · November 2009

My family and some close friends. I wish I hadn't told some of my family, though.

LilacStar11 · November 2009

Just us and my friend of 8 years. I really want to tell my mom and sis but first off, I want it to be a surprise and second off, I do not want to hear their opinion if it is going to be a negative one. (My parents think we rush into everything because they took five years to get married and another five to have a baby)

I want to tell DH's Mom becuase we are really close, but I want it to be a surprise for her as well!

j_luvs_r · November 2009

rac20585:
I don't go out of my way at all to keep it a secret....but I'm pretty much an open book about most things. If someone asks, I tell them. It's pretty much assumed anyway!

This exactly. There are moments when I regret it though, like when AF shows every month.

j&j508 · November 2009

I probably would have told, but I did enough lurking around here to learn that that might not be the best idea. So no one knows. People have been asking... we keep pretending we're not quite ready yet. And I'm SO glad. I can't imagine the last 5 months if people had been asking me all the time... it's hard enough as it is. That said, in a couple of months if I'm not pregnant we'll probably tell our moms and I'll tell a friend or two...

MrsTechie · November 2009

LilacStar11:

Just us and my friend of 8 years. I really want to tell my mom and sis but first off, I want it to be a surprise and second off, I do not want to hear their opinion if it is going to be a negative one. (My parents think we rush into everything because they took five years to get married and another five to have a baby)

I want to tell DH's Mom becuase we are really close, but I want it to be a surprise for her as well!

I can understand ducking the issue in order to avoid negative feedback. It's supposed to be a positive experience.

Do you miss the support of the people close to you?

We haven't been trying for very long so I don't miss anything yet. But I needed to run it by my mom to make sure my reasons for starting TTC were sound and not emotionally based.

PinkLove-S · November 2009

We have not told anyone and will not until BFP! ::fingers crossed in time for Christmas::

MrsQueale · January 2010

I told my sister and Best friend. We wont tell anyone else and plan to announce to the family that we are expecting after the first Tri.

MaybeBaby2 · January 2010

Three good friends , my Mom & sister and you all.

PrettySue · March 2010

My boyfriend and I know we're trying, thats it for now lol

JosiePosy · March 2010

Edited......geezus where did this ancient post come from?

genaruthp · May 2010

well, me and the DH know (haha), and I have told some friends and my Niece in Law and nephew and his mom. Pretty limited, at least with family it seems

brandywine2010 · May 2010

I first told my sister, then my mother. A few friends and co-workers know. The IL's DO NOT know! They would be calling everyday for an update.

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