When you go to a party do you take your own alcohol

libby73 · November 2009

If you like to drink alcohol do you take your own when you go to a party or do you drink others? We were at a party last night so I took my own bottle of wine and dh took a 6 pack of beer. A friend of ours & his wife came to the party with no alcohol which is no big deal except they were drinking everyone else's, between us and the couple that rode with us we lost a total of 6 pack. I thought that was a bit rude because alcohol isn't exactly cheep these days. The party invite stated bring your own alcohol but even if it didn't we never turn up to anyone's parties expecting to get free drink.

britishbride05 · November 2009

if the invite says it's byob, then yeah...

but otherwise, no, we've never shown up at someone's house with our own alcohol. i mean, not since college and keg parties!!

eta: we will never show up empty handed and might bring a bottle of wine for the hostess, but not for our own consumption

betsnup · November 2009

To be honest, I think it's weird to host a party and not provide the beverages. I would never host and tell people to bring their own alcohol - we always provide beer and mixers and tell people if there is something out of the ordinary that they may want, they are more than welcome to bring it. Not many people come empty handed, but still.

mlf625 · November 2009

If it's a super casual thing and the host/hostess specifically says 'byob', then yes, we'd obviously do so. ?But I'd never roll up with alcohol if not told to do so. ?I'd assume it was provided.

Echowysp · November 2009

No and I find it an odd habit when people do.

You invite people to a party, you supply the food and beverages unless it's a pot luck. It's low-class to expect people to bring their own, imo.

libby73 · November 2009

betsnup:
To be honest, I think it's weird to host a party and not provide the beverages. I would never host and tell people to bring their own alcohol - we always provide beer and mixers and tell people if there is something out of the ordinary that they may want, they are more than welcome to bring it. Not many people come empty handed, but still.

I could never afford to provide alcohol to most of our friends. 90% of our friends are from Ireland, Scotland, England, Germany, & Malaysia and when they drink they drink. My average international guy friend will drink on his own 12-20 beers and their wives will down 1-3 bottles of wine Stick out tongue I guess maybe it is an international thing to bring your alcohol because the amount drank by most people.

Abby'sMommy · November 2009

If we plan to drink, than yes, we bring drinks, but all of our friends are like that. Last night we had people over and we had extra drink stuff from a different party, so I told people not to worry, so they all brought different things (chips, sodas, rice for the meat we were cooking).

goodtobethelarkster · November 2009

It depends. If we're going to a college Bowl GTG kind of thing we bring a 12 pack of beer as a "gift for the host" but it's kind of understood that the host will put the beer in the fridge since providing enough booze for a dozen people watching football for 4 hours could get $$-y. I'd be weirded out if the host was like "Oh, thanks for the beer!" and then stuck it in their pantry, kwim?

If it's a dinner party we'd bring a nice bottle of wine as a gift to the host and it's up to them whether or if to use it or not. ETA: But I'd expect them to provide drinks unless they said it was going to be a dry party.

I'd be taken aback if we were invited to a BYOB type thing and BYOB was interpreted so strictly that everyone only drank the alcohol they brought. To me, BYOB implies you bring it for the gathering at large not just for yourself.

yo.mama · November 2009

I find the whole byob tacky. If you host, then host. That said, I never come to a dinner or party without a bottle of wine or a six pack to share with friends. Overall, I have to say the couple that came and drank, but didn't bring anything to share, wasn't in the wrong.

lmdbww · November 2009

Dh always brings his own because he never likes the beer that people have at parties (around here, usually kegs of Miller Lite or Coors.) People know DH though and never think anything of it. lol

teg · November 2009

betsnup:
To be honest, I think it's weird to host a party and not provide the beverages. I would never host and tell people to bring their own alcohol - we always provide beer and mixers and tell people if there is something out of the ordinary that they may want, they are more than welcome to bring it. Not many people come empty handed, but still.

this.

fIowerchild · November 2009

We always take a bottle of wine for the hosts, not to drink ourselves.

I can't remember the last time I was invited to a BYOB party.

Bride_Best · November 2009

Only if it says to do so...and then we typically just don't drink. I think it's weird to go to a party and BYOB. We just got an invite to a family party that says, "Bring your favorite beverage and appetizer". Yep, it was the same way last year. They provide a few basic foods (meatballs, chips, dip, etc.), but I find it weird.

punkfiction_v.3 · November 2009

only if it says BYOB. otherwise, i expect them to have alcohol - just as i would have alcohol if i were the host.

eta: and we always ask "hey did you want us to pick up some _____?" they'll either say "sure!" or "nah, we've got some!"

kelbrian · November 2009

We usually take a six or twelve pack of beer, but the parties we go to are usually not 'classy,' I guess. When we attend a nice dinner or something similar, we do bring a nice bottle of wine for the hostess but definitely don't expect it to be served at dinner or anything.

Kiranie · November 2009

We never go to a party without bringing at least a bottle of wine or some good beer, and thats regardless of if the hosts are providing alcohol. We bring it as a gift to the host/hostess, and it usually just goes into a "community bar". I don't make it my business to make sure everyone else brings alcohol as well. Sorry you "lost" six beers, but hope you enjoyed the party and the company of your friends.

babygroves · November 2009

kelbrian:
We usually take a six or twelve pack of beer, but the parties we go to are usually not 'classy,' I guess. When we attend a nice dinner or something similar, we do bring a nice bottle of wine for the hostess but definitely don't expect it to be served at dinner or anything.

This. We have had parties, supplied beer and everyone ended up bringing their own drinks. So we don't supply anymore, too many people who all like too many different kinds of beer.

2bWednDec · November 2009

nobody in my circle of friends every states BYOB but everyone tends to bring things if it's a casual party. I would assume all liquor is to share though, no matter what people bring... to me, that's the point of a party. So I would not hold it against anyone who came and drank my liquor. I might give them the side eye if I noticed they go to every single party without ever bringing anything and drinking tons of my stuff... but generally speaking, I think it's ok.

mamamoos · November 2009

2bWednDec:
nobody in my circle of friends every states BYOB but everyone tends to bring things if it's a casual party. I would assume all liquor is to share though, no matter what people bring... to me, that's the point of a party. So I would not hold it against anyone who came and drank my liquor. I might give them the side eye if I noticed they go to every single party without ever bringing anything and drinking tons of my stuff... but generally speaking, I think it's ok.

ditto this. it's only side eye worthy if it's habitual. last night we went to my friends engagement party and didn't bring anything bc were were told we didn't have to. i would feel terrible if i knew my BFF's bro got upset bc i had one of "his" beers.

Mjmksb04 · November 2009

Depends on the party. If it says BYOB, I definitely make sure to bring my own.

Susan_KW · November 2009

Um no ... I have never heard of this. I've never heard of BYOB among adults. In all honesty it seems kind of high schoolish.

Sure I bring a hostess gift, but that might be flowers or box of chocolates ... not necessarily a bottle of wine. If it was a situation like Larks described I could understand bringing a six pack, but I certainly wouldn't track it! I'd never expect to bring it home either.

I think you might exaggerate a tad at the amount of alcohol people could throw back. Or you go to weekend long parties!

jamie5315 · November 2009

I always bring my own.

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