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It's been 2 weeks f/u appointment this afternoon

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I do not want to go.  This is going to be a hard day. Am I going to hate every Wednesday from now on? Is every week going to be a mini nightmare anniversary?

Not to mention DH was trying to get frisky this morning and when he touched my breast and it didn't cause me physical pain it reminded me that I am not pregnant anymore. My breasts are supposed to HURT and they don't, so I cried. Of course then he felt bad. This all just sucks. At least I was able to explain to him what was going through my head. 

I hope the doctor is able to give us some answers, though I doubt that he will. I do hope at least he can say that my body is doing what it is supposed to be doing at this stage, so we can move forward from here.

 

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  • PixiestxPixiestx
    I hope you have the best outcome and the doctor can tell you physically everything is ok to move forward.  I wish you lots of strength going back there since that is a hard hard thing.  Funny you mention wednesdays, today makes 8 weeks for me and I was just wondering when I'll stop counting too.
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  • Scout05Scout05 member

    I hope the appointment goes smoothly, and that your body is healing quickly.

    It is so normal to have a hard time with sex and being physical with your husband after a loss. For some reason, it brings everything home. I'm glad you were able to tell him what you were feeling - in the end, that is what will help you both overcome this.

    Good luck today, and I hope you get answers too.

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  • JuJuBe3JuJuBe3

    Good luck to you!  I hope everything goes great and you do get the news that your body is returning to normal.  I know you hate to have to go, but hopefully you will get some answers to your questions and work with your doctor on what's next.

    I hate Thursdays now, so I completely understand. 

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  • Mrs. K in TXMrs. K in TX member

    I'm going to warn you right now.  Your doctor is not going to tell you anything that's going to make you feel better.  He'll give you statistics of miscarriage rates. He'll tell you it wasn't your fault or anything that you did.  There was probably something genetically or developmentally wrong.  He'll tell you that there is no reason you shouldn't be able to have a full term pregnancy in the future.

     None of these things help. I told my doctor that I appreciated him telling me these things, but they really did not help me at all.  Logically, I already knew them.  Emotionally, I'm a wreck. I feel like my heart has been ripped out of my chest.

     The holidays are what's killing me.  I don't even know how to enjoy them when something so horrible happened to me.

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  • pepomntpatpepomntpat member
    They've already told me all of those things when I went in for my D&E.  You are right, it doesn't help at all.  The whole situation is out of control and completely devastating. It is nice to know that my chance of losing future babies is not increased, but nothing will bring this baby back and that is what I care about, and no one seems to get that!  This was not just a pregnancy, not just a bit of tissue, this was my baby that died. I wish more people could see it that way.
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