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lauriemel
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I wish I hadn't said anything!
lauriemel
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When DH and I were first thinking of TTC, I told my best friend about it because I was so excited. Now she never misses an opportunity to tell me a) how much it is going to ruin her life when she "loses" me to the baby and b) that I have no business trying because DH and I don't have enough $ (but we both work full time and are working on building our savings). She even talked about it NONSTOP when we went on our girls beach vacay this summer (everytime we saw a crying child on the beach, she would say "ugh, I hate children. I can't believe you want one")
Obviously, I regret telling her we are trying. I've told her it bothers me when she says these things, but the comments continue. I have two questions. First, is there anyone in your life who is not happy that you are TTC? Second, can you offer any advice on how to handle this situation?
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Re: I wish I hadn't said anything!
1. No. Everyone is very happy that after my first husband decided he didn't want to have children, I found a man who wanted to have children a long time ago. Just about everyone in our lives with 1/2 a brain looks at our ages and knows we are trying, although we've said very little to anyone.
2. When she continues to make comments, I would simply stop her and tell her that those kinds of comments bother you. Maybe she doesn't realize how often she is doing it? If she continues, I would distance yourself from her. She'll figure it out eventually. If not, then she's not much of a best friend, IMO.
Besides getting a new friend?? Hmmm.. I'd either tell her you a: aren't TTC anymore or B: Tell yet again she is hurting your feelings when saying negative stuff about babies and if she doesn't stop you'll have to take some time away from her.
Sorry she's not being supportive.
TroubleTTC
Every new beginning comes from some other beginning's end --Semisonic
**TTC since 04/09, C/P 02/02/10; 4 weeks, 3 days**
**Dx: Anovulation, Hypothryroidism, Mild Endo, Pituitary Adenoma (prolactin issues), PAI-1, MFI **
**7/10: Clomid + TI= BFN**
**3/2/11: 1st RE appointment**
**DH= Morph= 2%, Motility= 30%**
**HSG= All clear!!**
**3/11: Femara + Pregnyl + TI= BFN**
**5/17/11: Laparoscopy / hysteroscopy = mild endo**
**7/11: Novarel + IUI #1= BFN (7mil, 75% motility, 2% morph)**
**8/11: Femara + Novarel + IUI #2= BFN (11mil, 35% motility, 1% morph)**
**11/11: Femara + Novarel + IUI #3= BFN (9mil, 2% morph)**
**Jan 2012: Follistim (75ius) + IUI #4= CANCELLED due to cyst -put on bcp**
**Feb 2012: Follistim (75ius) + Novarel + IUI #4.2= BFFN (2.5mil, 13% motility, 1% morph)**
**Mar 2012: Follistim (100ius) + IUI #5= CANCELLED due to 35mm & 14mm cysts**
**On med break indefinitely...IF Sucks!**
Congratulations Cutebride!! --TWINS!! Congratulations, Luvie, on your sweet boy! Congrats, Jess! So happy for you ladies!
~~Also best of luck to Kati, illinigal, and youngin!~~
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BFP #2 12/13/11. Missed M/C at 11w5d, measured 8w6d. D&C 2/1/12
Never in my arms, but always in my heart.
This.
Thanks for the advice ladies. It is hard because we have been so close since we were 12 years old, but she is acting less and less like a friend lately.
You guys are right. I don't need negative people commenting on my TTC journey.
No, you really don't. There may (or hopefully may not) be enough bumps along the road. It is great to have supportive people around you, especially on the days when you are feeling frustrated.