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Miscarriage/Pregnancy Loss
Book recommendations: Warning- pregnancy ticker inside
I have a friend who just experienced a pregnancy loss... she asked if I had any book reccomendations- I don't know of any but thought perhaps some of you might have some ideas for her.
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Re: Book recommendations: Warning- pregnancy ticker inside
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Personally, the last thing I want to read about is loss, grief or mourning.... so a book to get my mind off my loss is where it is at for me. I have been reading the Earth's Children series (Clan of the Cave Bear, etc.) for the third time. I just love the story and tend to get lost in the store.
On a side note, a warning about your ticker would be great.... It is sort of salt on the wound - although not your intensions.
For me, I did read several books about my loss. Sometimes I think they helped, sometimes I think they just made me sad. The one thing I liked about them was they both had a chapter for DH to read. I think it really helped him understand what I was going through. One was just dealing with pregnancy loss and the other was for TTC after a loss. The books were: After Miscarriage by Krissi Danielsson and Pregnancy After a Loss by Carol Cirulli Lanham.
I do think I would ask her if that is something she's interested in before I bought them. It might be more hurtful to receive something like that if she isn't ready for it. Definitely sounds like you are a caring and considerate friend...
Sorry about the ticker... I should have thought of that before I posted.
Thank you for your help, and I'm so sorry for each of your losses.
If your friend is religious Mourning the Child I Never Knew is great..I can't remember the author.
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Kathe Wunneburger. Also, her other book Longing For A Child is appropriate for early loss (as well infertility).
Thank you. I'm pretty sure the clerk at your local bookstore could also have helped with this.
Coming to Term by John somethingorother was very helpful for me. . . but I didn't need emotional support, I needed science on my side, if that makes sense.
I wish this site let you hide your sig line on postings so that our bellied visitors could simply block out their siggie and not even have to worry about preemptive apologies.
It's hard to see tickers. Blech.
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It's fine if you want to offer a recommendation. Just like it is fine for someone to think asking a clerk or Googling would have been a better course of action.
I am personally tired of being treated like a one-stop shop for all things miscarriage, and I am allowed to have that feeling.
Others are allowed to be lovely and gracious, and answer the question.
Kind of how this works.
I apologize if I offended you. You are right, no one was horribly rude, but the sentiment behind some posts wasn't pleasant. This is my board too and I would prefer a bit less sarcasm-especially when someone is attempting to reach out to a friend in need which I wish people had done for me- and I will say so.
This. Thanks, ambrandau.
I'm generally very sarcastic, especially when I'm feeling down or wounded. It's how I cope with things.
None of us knows what's going to help her friend. Reading reviews on Amazon would have been just as helpful as posting here, and we wouldn't have had to deal with her ticker being shoved in our faces. Yes, it's a nice thing she's trying to do for her friend, but there are scores of other places that contain the information she was looking for. Or she could have just referred her friend to this board, since she's the one who might need our help, instead of bringing her happily pregnant ass over here.
I think that's fair. Totally fair.
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