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Miscarriage/Pregnancy Loss
Low heartrate...waiting for Monday
New to this board...I had my 8 week appt with the midwife last Wednesday, everything went ok. This was my first appt, my office typically doesn't schedule the initial visit until 8-10 weeks. She did not listen for a HR with the doppler, a) because I had just hit the 8 week mark, and b) AF had been irregular since going off the pill, so she decided to send me for an u/s instead, just to check my dates. DH had been able to take time off for that appt, but he had meetings all day yesterday, so I told him not to worry, I'd go to the u/s myself, and he could go to the next one. I had to promise to get lots of pictures.
U/S was yesterday. Took about a half hour, the tech showed me the baby, printed some pictures. The baby measured 8 wks, 5 days which is what I expected. The tech did seem really concerned about some cysts on my left ovary, so when she was done with the exam, she asked me to get dressed and head out to the waiting room. She said where it was a holiday week, she wanted to talk to the on call nurse about the cysts before sending me home. I sat in the waiting room for another 30 minutes before I was called back. They brought me back to one of the doctor's offices, and the doctor explained to me that she reviewed the u/s, and while the baby was measuring on time, and there was a heartbeat, it was really slow...only in the 70s, for my entire exam. I'm a nurse, so I asked her to not beat around the bush, and just tell me what she thought was going to happen. She said in her experience, she's seen babies with HR's in the 90s-100s bounce back, but that in my case she thinks this is a sign of an impending miscarriage. I have an appt for a follow up u/s on Monday to recheck the HR and see if there's any growth.
After that I had to go to the lab to have some blood drawn. The lab tech screwed up at my appt last week, she only drew the CF screen, never drew a beta, so there's nothing to compare yesterday's results to. I started sobbing when the registered me for the lab work, and I will forever be grateful to the clerk who rushed me right back, completely bypassing the line of people ahead of me.
Like I said earlier, DH was in meetings all day. It took me 3 hours from the time I left my appt before I could get in touch with him. He left work right away. I was able to talk to my sister and parents while I was waiting to get in touch with him.
I am a mess right now. I haven't had any pregnancy symptoms since Saturday...no more nausea, no more sore boobs, I'm not nearly as tired. Part of me feels like this is going to happen, and I wish it would just happen already. But I don't want to give up on my baby. I know it's only been a few weeks, but I love this child so much, and I already can't imagine my life without her. (Yes, I said her. Ever since I got my BFP I've been sure this was going to be my daughter.) I don't know how I'm going to get through the next few days. I know our families love us, and support us, but I'm absolutely dreading Thanksgiving dinner. Everything anyone says to me just sounds so hollow, and makes me feel worse. "You have to stay positive; things have a way of working out; if not this baby than it wasn't meant to be". Ironically I've said all of those things to a friend who has m/c'd in the past...I never realized what a load of crap it sounds like.
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Re: Low heartrate...waiting for Monday
{{hugs}}
This sounds similar to what happened to me except my baby was measuring 2 weeks behind at the 8wk u/s (6 wks 1 day) with a HR of 91. There was no bounce back for us. She died sometime between 8 wks 0 days and 8 wks 6 days. I had my D&E when I was 9 wks. My DH wasn't with me either and it was so, so hard. I don't think I have ever cried so much.
I hope you have a happier ending to your story and I am so sorry you have to wait around through a holiday weekend to find out. {{hugs}}
Missed m/c 11.09 | Missed m/c 3.10 | We miss you & love you so.
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Formerly toddandjulie
SORRY - I didn't realize I was on the wrong board.
Thoughts are with you. Praying for a turnaround.
I hope your outcome is a happy one. Stay home if you want to on T-day.... You do not have to go to dinner if you don't want to!
I am so sorry. I had a similar story - my baby's heartrate was 65bpm. Waiting until my next u/s was the worst days of my life. Unfortunately you won't hear a lot of positive stories on this board - but we are here for you if you need us.
There are no words that can make this better - the only words I appreciated were "I am sorry" and I truly am for you. My thoughts are with you.
I'm very sorry you are experiencing this.
I had something similar, but slow growth as well.
BFP #2 4/13/10. Bridget born 12/28/10
BFP #3 Finn born 8/11/15
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