guess im the douche bag-long

Lexi & Orion's Mommy · November 2009

so i went shoppingt this morning and took orion so DH could sleep in and i could calm down a little. My shopping trip was less then satsfying. (i hate when that happens) So i get home and DH comes out to help unload the bags and clean out all the kids stuff from the car. When we get inside he asks if im ok, and i told him,"no im irratated with you" and went into the whole story about how it was my night and as soon as my friends left, he continued to drink not taking into account that we had the kids and someone would need to get up in the morning. So when i did get up this morning, got everyone breakfast and sat down to FB, i say a status update of his that was very vauge and could be interperted as we have some marriage issues. As far as i know all is good on our side, so was this about his brother and SIL (pending a divorce) or us, or something else. He then starts crying, like really crying. Appearntly his gma is not doing well, and no one knows but my BIL and he told DH last night about how his gma talks about dying all the time and she doesnt want anyone to know. So DH's post was about the drama going on with his gma and BIL (who lives with gma). He is really upset about losing his gma. she took care of him a lot when he was younger and he is by far the favorite. i calmed him down and explained that his gma was going to be ok , and i knew this after talking to mil yesterday. SHe is having extreme back pain due to arthritis inflamation on her lower back. Its pinching off nerves, and thats whats causing all the pain. THe dr's say for her being 72 her bones are doing great and would have expected to see a lot worse in a woman of her age.

i just dont know what to do or say to make him feel better. he is napping with the kids now and then we are heading up to my friends for a photo session and dinner. i just hope he is feeling better about it all.

if you read all this, have a drink for me, cuz ya know, i dont get too! LOL

hersheykiss · November 2009

You are not the douche bag. I am glad you guys got to talk, he should have explained a little better before he went on and drank without thought to you, but that is my opinion. Sorry your shopping trip was not satisfying. Hope tonight goes better for you.

oceanangelbeauty · November 2009

Hmm nobody is perfect. He does own a little of this because he could have comunicated better.

Just hang in there. I am sure he will feel a lot better after his nap.

KellyMRocks · November 2009

You are SO not the douche bag. You couldn't have known he was sad if he didn't tell you :

Mrs_Shmoopie · November 2009

KellyMRocks:

You are SO not the douche bag. You couldn't have known he was sad if he didn't tell you :

What she said.

tiki_t · November 2009

I'm not buying that as an excuse for him to behave that way or discount your feelings. He could have told you about it sooner and asked if it was okay if he had time to process it or something and that he'd make up for it another time. He didn't have to be so secretive and then when you told him why you were upset to start crying to make you feel guilty. That wouldn't fly in my book but then again I had a history of dating guys who when I told them what was bothering me, they'd break out crying to try to make me feel guilty to get away with bad behavior. You know your husband and his intentions.

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