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My dad is dying (warning:really really sad)

My Dad has cancer, we recently found out it has spread throughout his body. He is in the hospital right now, getting a blood transfusion and various tests. I really doubt he is going to make it much longer. He has been ripping out his IVs and being a bastard to his doctors. I think he is so tired of dealing with the pain and just wants to die. I talked to him on the phone today and he sounded medicated. I told him I was going to visit him this Sunday (I am flying- he lives in L.A.) and he got upset, saying he didn't want to see anyone. I told him too bad, that I was coming anyways and besides, my flight was non-refundable. He told me that he hopes my plane crashes. He also told me that he thinks I should commit suicide with him. And that he hates kids and doesn't want to see DS. I know in his heart he doesn't mean this stuff, but man, it was really hard to keep the conversation going after that. This is going to be a great visit...I hope he doesn't get too upset when he sees me.

Dying from cancer sucks. I need to go hug my DS now....

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  • I'm so sorry.  ::HUGS::

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  • Oh honey, I am so so sorry.  Your Dad doesn't mean any of that, it's the meds talking.  I am praying for all of you... that your Dad finds comfort in his last days and you're able to see him soon.

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  • ::Hugs:: I'm so sorry! You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers!
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  • Oh I'm so sorry!!  I can't imagine how difficult that is for you.  You and your Dad will be in my prayers!
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  • I am so sorry! I know cancer sucks from experience, please let me know if I can do anything for you! I will keep you in my thoughts!
  • I'm so sorry. My dad also passed away from cancer and it is such a hard time for everybody. I hope your weekend goes better than expected
  • I am so sorry, I cannot imagine how difficult this is. Im glad you're still going to go down despite what he's saying, definitley sounds like the medicine ::big big hugs::
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  • I am so sorry you are going through this.  I know it is hard to hear those things and I'm sure he doesn't mean them.  The pain & frustration of dealing with cancer is the worst.  I can't imagine how hard it is for you to be strong. I bet he will appreciate your visit more than he will admit.  My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family! If there is anything you need even if it's just a coffee & playdate please don't hesitate to ask!

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  • I'm so, so sorry.  I'll be thinking of you.
  • so sorry. big hugs. he probably is embarrassed for you to see him that way and is trying to make it so you don't come.  Left HugmrswomanRight Hug

     

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  • I'm so sorry you have to go through this :( What a difficult time for you and your family.  Like everyone else said, it sounds like the meds talking and he probably doesn't want you to see him looking and feeling how he does.  You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers .. **hugs**
  • Oh, wow, I'm so so very sorry to hear that!! Huge hugs!
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  • I'm so sorry!  Try to stay strong, I hope his spirits will change once you get there!
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  • ((HUGE HUG)) So glad you're going, despite what he said. We all know he didn't mean it. He'll be so happy to see you. I'm praying for you both.
  • Ugh, that is heart-breaking.  I wish we had better ways of treating pain...try to focus on the good memories...
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  • I'm so very sorry! I hope you are able to find some peace at this terrible time. HUGS!
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  • I am so sorry to hear this. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
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  • Oh my god, I'm so, so sorry. ?Definitely keeping you guys in my thoughts.

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  • Oh, I'm so sorry!!  I really hope your trip goes well, in spite of what he said (and probably didn't mean).  Hugs coming from me, too!!
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  • I am so sorry to hear this.  Lots of hugs.
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  • Oh, I am so sorry!  I too think Cancer sucks and you have to go to him and let him see you...he doesn't mean those things.  What you are going through is my worst fear on a daily basis...you and your family will be in my thoughts. 
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  • You and your family are definitely in my thoughts, Sending you huge hugs and strength dust. Left Hug
  • Oh.my.gosh., I'm so sorry you had to hear those things, but so glad you recognize that it was the pain/meds talking, not your dad.  Hope you have a safe journey, and praying for strength and peace for you and your family.
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  • Oh Im so sorry to hear this!!   lots of hugs and good thoughts coming your way!
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  • Cancer is the worst disease. It changes the most loveable people because it is so painful and scary. I am so sorry you are going through this. Don't take anything he is saying to heart. He doesn't mean any of it.

    I hope that he is able to find peace and comfort, in his final days, and I hope that you are able to see him as he was, if only for a moment. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.

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  • I'm sorry sweetie.  I lost my Mom to cancer when I was in school.  That's bad enough.  Your Dad's words are really hurtful and crazy!  But then, maybe trying to bottle everything up and push people away is his way of dealing with this crisis.

    I think you are doing the right thing to go out and visit him and show him that you care.  Good luck.  Be strong.  We'll all be thinking of you!

  • Thank you everyone!!!!!!
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