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Controversial: would you do playdates with kids of a xxx star?

Hi,

I was watching Oprah yestrday and Jenna Jameson, former "queen of pornstar" was on and was mentioning that it will be difficult for her kids to have/invite friends over do to her carreer.

Would you allowed your child to do playdates with her kids?

I personally think that at this age it would not be a problem, but eventually I will need to explain way too many things...

Just thinking

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Re: Controversial: would you do playdates with kids of a xxx star?

  • Correct me if I'm wrong but they're not shooting porn AT her house, so what's the BFD?
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  • Well, from listening to her speak on Oprah yesterday I doubt she'd be the type of person I could stand to have much of a conversation with, so with very young kids I doubt it'd come up.

    However, with older kids, if they were friends from school or something I wouldn't prevent them from playing together just because the mom comes across as kind of annoying. 

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  • I don't think I would have a problem with it, but I wouldn't have much in common with her. Half the fun of playdates is mommy talk, right?
  • I would have no problem with having playdates w/ an adult film actor if the rest of my lifestlye/house rules requirements jived. 
  • Well, at this age where play dates are as much for me as they are for my son, probably not.  I don't think I would have much to talk to her about.  When they are older and going to friends' houses by themselves....unless there is behavior I disagree with going on in the house, I wouldn't stop my child.
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  • No, I wouldn't.  I like to arrange play dates with other mothers that I have things in common with or that I'm friends with and I just don't see Jenna and I having a lot to talk about.  If my child became friends with one of her kids when they were older b/c of school or common interests, etc. I wouldn't have a problem with that. 
  • I saw that show and wondered about that also.

    I'd like to say if it wasn't obvious that Mom is a former porn star I wouldn't have a problem with it. Would have to be former porn star though, not still an active porn star. And by obvious I mean if she was still wearing clear heels and dressing provocatively and talking about sex and living very loosely I wouldn't be comfortable. I would judge based on the person that the Mom is.

    If I'm ever in that position I hope that I would be able to have an open mind.

     

  • I guess it depends on how you view porn. Some people see it has inherrently/morally wrong, which would equate a person in the porn industry with say a drug dealer. Clearly, most wouldn't allow playdates with a drug dealer's kids, even if they aren't doing drugs in the house, kwim?

    While I don't think it would keep me from befriending someone in the industry (i had friends who were strippers), I understand and do not judge someone who wouldn't hang out with a porn star.

  • imagePattypoundcake:
    I don't think I would have a problem with it, but I wouldn't have much in common with her. Half the fun of playdates is mommy talk, right?

    This is true, and I'd probably hate on her for looking so good after popping out a kid.

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  • I don't see why not.  That would be like blaming the kids for the mom's career choices.

  • It is not about the porn. It is about when the kids grow up and google her name or ask what she does for a living. I know my niece who is 5 is obsessed in asking what do you. I guess you will have to do a lot of explaining if you don't want to lie.
  • I think it depends on the porn star? lol Seriously. Not everyone like JJ walks around in clear heels and miniskirts. A lot of them you'd never know unless someone told you. I think if we had something to talk about, then it would be fine, because I wouldn't want to be bored out of my mind, but unless she looks like a hooker walking through a playdate, I'd be okay with it.
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  • "I wouldn't prevent them from playing together just because the mom comes across as kind of annoying" LOL
  • I'd probably go out of my way to make sure she/they felt included because the pearl-clutching, missionary-style sex having, mommy 'mafia'* would most certainly do otherwise.

    * Of which, at least 33% are watching her movies while their LO sleeps at night...

  • imageLukeAndAmanda:
    I think it depends on the porn star? lol Seriously. Not everyone like JJ walks around in clear heels and miniskirts. A lot of them you'd never know unless someone told you. I think if we had something to talk about, then it would be fine, because I wouldn't want to be bored out of my mind, but unless she looks like a hooker walking through a playdate, I'd be okay with it.

    Heck yeah it depends on the porn star. If she's an "undercover" porn star that you can't tell is/was a porn star, then no issue. If she's a clear heel wearing former porn star I'd rather not. If the porn star Mom or any Mom looks like a hooker walking through a playdate, I'd rather not.

  • Yes I would. I don't know JJ but if I did & we got along I don't see why not. If my child asked what she did for a living I'd tell her she made her living as an adult entertainer. If they asked what is that? I'd say you'll find out when your an adult. :P

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  • imageToosdai:

    I'd probably go out of my way to make sure she/they felt included because the pearl-clutching, missionary-style sex having, mommy 'mafia'* would most certainly do otherwise.

    * Of which, at least 33% are watching her movies while their LO sleeps at night...

    You would include her even though when Oprah asked her "What is the number one thing women ask you" (as in, what question) she replied with something along the lines of:

    "The number one thing women ask me is 'Jenna, you taught me how to give oral sex and my husband is so thankful.'"

    Because as soon as that came out of her mouth, I knew that Jenna and I could never be friends. 

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  • imageGeekchick921:

    imagePattypoundcake:
    I don't think I would have a problem with it, but I wouldn't have much in common with her. Half the fun of playdates is mommy talk, right?

    This is true, and I'd probably hate on her for looking so good after popping out a kid.

    Her body looks great but I still think she is fuuuuuuuuuuggggggggggg.

    I know because we can smell our own.

  • imageMegGary:

    If my child asked what she did for a living I'd tell her she made her living as an adult entertainer. If they asked what is that? I'd say you'll find out when your an adult. :P

    Or that she makes movies for grown-ups.

    I find the assumption that people in the adult industries wear lucite heels and miniskirts around the house pretty funny.  Most are quite the opposite.  At least that's what they say when they do interviews! lol

     

  • imagePattypoundcake:
    imageGeekchick921:

    imagePattypoundcake:

     

    Her body looks great but I still think she is fuuuuuuuuuuggggggggggg.

    I know because we can smell our own.

    What does that mean? Are you a porn star and you've been forgetting to tell us?

  • if its nothing illegal then why does it matter who the parents are? If my kids want to be friends with someone then who am I to dictate who they can play with?
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  • imageRach03k:
    imageToosdai:

    I'd probably go out of my way to make sure she/they felt included because the pearl-clutching, missionary-style sex having, mommy 'mafia'* would most certainly do otherwise.

    * Of which, at least 33% are watching her movies while their LO sleeps at night...

    You would include her even though when Oprah asked her "What is the number one thing women ask you" (as in, what question) she replied with something along the lines of:

    "The number one thing women ask me is 'Jenna, you taught me how to give oral sex and my husband is so thankful.'"

    Because as soon as that came out of her mouth, I knew that Jenna and I could never be friends. 

    Aw, Rach, and I always thought we could be friends. Sad You'd hate me.  I talk about sex with my friends all.the.time.  And we love it! 

    Different strokes for different folks I suppose.

  • I wouldn't just cause I would have nothing in common with her and playdates at this age mean the mom's hanging out as well.  But when they got older and were able to hang out and play without their mom, I woudl have no problem with it. 
  • imageJudah'sMommy:
    imageRach03k:
    imageToosdai:

    I'd probably go out of my way to make sure she/they felt included because the pearl-clutching, missionary-style sex having, mommy 'mafia'* would most certainly do otherwise.

    * Of which, at least 33% are watching her movies while their LO sleeps at night...

    You would include her even though when Oprah asked her "What is the number one thing women ask you" (as in, what question) she replied with something along the lines of:

    "The number one thing women ask me is 'Jenna, you taught me how to give oral sex and my husband is so thankful.'"

    Because as soon as that came out of her mouth, I knew that Jenna and I could never be friends. 

    Aw, Rach, and I always thought we could be friends. Sad You'd hate me.  I talk about sex with my friends all.the.time.  And we love it! 

    Different strokes for different folks I suppose.

    No no, it has nothing to do with the sex!

    The woman was asked what people ask her, and she responded that they ask her....a statement. I'm sorry, but I just can't deal with that. I just can't. Maybe I'm a friend snob ;)

    Oh yeah, then after that she said she's not a professional (at oral sex). Even Oprah called her out on that!

    We can still be friends :)

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  • imageJudah'sMommy:
    imageRach03k:
    imageToosdai:

    I'd probably go out of my way to make sure she/they felt included because the pearl-clutching, missionary-style sex having, mommy 'mafia'* would most certainly do otherwise.

    * Of which, at least 33% are watching her movies while their LO sleeps at night...

    You would include her even though when Oprah asked her "What is the number one thing women ask you" (as in, what question) she replied with something along the lines of:

    "The number one thing women ask me is 'Jenna, you taught me how to give oral sex and my husband is so thankful.'"

    Because as soon as that came out of her mouth, I knew that Jenna and I could never be friends. 

    Aw, Rach, and I always thought we could be friends. Sad You'd hate me.  I talk about sex with my friends all.the.time.  And we love it! 

    Different strokes for different folks I suppose.

    No, judah's, it's not that. It's that the oral sex thing wasn't a question.  Rach is too smahht for the likes of Jenna. Stick out tongue

  • imageRach03k:
    imageToosdai:

    I'd probably go out of my way to make sure she/they felt included because the pearl-clutching, missionary-style sex having, mommy 'mafia'* would most certainly do otherwise.

    * Of which, at least 33% are watching her movies while their LO sleeps at night...

    You would include her even though when Oprah asked her "What is the number one thing women ask you" (as in, what question) she replied with something along the lines of:

    "The number one thing women ask me is 'Jenna, you taught me how to give oral sex and my husband is so thankful.'"

    Because as soon as that came out of her mouth, I knew that Jenna and I could never be friends. 

    Yeah I think I would be slapping my forehead too many times to make it through an entire playdate

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  • Jenna and I gave birth in the same hospital!  H wants to move to the part of the coast where she lives (eventually) so who knows......maybe we could be having a playdate someday!  Maybe one of her sons will ask DD to prom!  LOL 

  • What does everyone mean by we wouldn't have anything in common? How do you know? I'm sure she doesn't just talk about sex for pete's sake. I mean you both have kids right? So you do have something in common with her. Maybe she likes to read or go running. I'm not a lawyer but I bet I'd have things in common with one.  
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  • imageLucky_Dragonfly:
    if its nothing illegal then why does it matter who the parents are? If my kids want to be friends with someone then who am I to dictate who they can play with?

    There are a lot of issues that people have that aren't illegal but still are character issues that you may or may not agree with and may sway your decision whether you want to hang out with them yourself or have your children hanging out with their children b/c at a playdate those parents will be around. 

    Example - There are alcoholics that may have perfectly nice children but I don't want myself nor my child spending time in their home. There are racists that may have perfectly nice children but I nor my child need to be around people with those ideals.  

  • imageRach03k:
    imageJudah'sMommy:
    imageRach03k:
    imageToosdai:

    I'd probably go out of my way to make sure she/they felt included because the pearl-clutching, missionary-style sex having, mommy 'mafia'* would most certainly do otherwise.

    * Of which, at least 33% are watching her movies while their LO sleeps at night...

    You would include her even though when Oprah asked her "What is the number one thing women ask you" (as in, what question) she replied with something along the lines of:

    "The number one thing women ask me is 'Jenna, you taught me how to give oral sex and my husband is so thankful.'"

    Because as soon as that came out of her mouth, I knew that Jenna and I could never be friends. 

    Aw, Rach, and I always thought we could be friends. Sad You'd hate me.  I talk about sex with my friends all.the.time.  And we love it! 

    Different strokes for different folks I suppose.

    No no, it has nothing to do with the sex!

    The woman was asked what people ask her, and she responded that they ask her....a statement. I'm sorry, but I just can't deal with that. I just can't. Maybe I'm a friend snob ;)

    Oh yeah, then after that she said she's not a professional (at oral sex). Even Oprah called her out on that!

    We can still be friends :)

    Yeah I got that after I posted.  The bolded portion should have clued me in.  Apparently I'm not that smaht either. Maybe JJ and I should be friends after all.  Embarrassed

  • imagePattypoundcake:
    I don't think I would have a problem with it, but I wouldn't have much in common with her. Half the fun of playdates is mommy talk, right?

    This exactly. I don't want to hang out with her, and half the time we do playdates DS just "parallel plays," so, I don't think I'd bother.

    But like others have said, if DS struck up a friendship with the kid, fine, but I really don't think I'd let him go to Jenna Jameson's house without me. Call me a pearl clutcher. She is tres nasty. 

    ETA: Her kids can come to my house, btw. I am just saying that someone that makes such a poor choice to have the world watch her double-stuffed on a regular basis is not someone whose common sense I trust enough to care for my child. There are lots of people I can say that about, not just porn stars. I wouldn't let Ann Coulter babysit my child, either.  :P

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  • LOL, Rach, I would still include her, she obviously misspoke when answering the question.

    I'd love to see a playgroup with her, Journey, Jesse, Sarah P, Tripp and Trig. Fun times, indeed.

     

     

  • imageToosdai:

    LOL, Rach, I would still include her, she obviously misspoke when answering the question.

    I'd love to see a playgroup with her, Journey, Jesse, Sarah P, Tripp and Trig. Fun times, indeed.

    Now that is a play group I would love to attend. I would need to leave Leo home though because I couldn't have him distracting me from the entertainment. 

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  • imageToosdai:

    LOL, Rach, I would still include her, she obviously misspoke when answering the question.

    I'd love to see a playgroup with her, Journey, Jesse, Sarah P, Tripp and Trig. Fun times, indeed.

     

     

    I think I would refuse to hang out with JJ solely based on the fact that she named her son Journey. Same goes with Sara P for naming her kids Tripp and Trig.

     

  • imageAudreyGolightly:
    imagePattypoundcake:
    imageGeekchick921:

    imagePattypoundcake:

     

    Her body looks great but I still think she is fuuuuuuuuuuggggggggggg.

    I know because we can smell our own.

    What does that mean? Are you a porn star and you've been forgetting to tell us?

    LOL, no just the fug part. There was a porn star on here when we were in 3rd tri though...
  • imageBride2bMO:

    imagePattypoundcake:
    I don't think I would have a problem with it, but I wouldn't have much in common with her. Half the fun of playdates is mommy talk, right?

    This exactly. I don't want to hang out with her, and half the time we do playdates DS just "parallel plays," so, I don't think I'd bother.

    But like others have said, if DS struck up a friendship with the kid, fine, but I really don't think I'd let him go to Jenna Jameson's house without me. Call me a pearl clutcher. She is tres nasty. 

    ETA: Her kids can come to my house, btw. I am just saying that someone that makes such a poor choice to have the world watch her double-stuffed on a regular basis is not someone whose common sense I trust enough to care for my child. There are lots of people I can say that about, not just porn stars. I wouldn't let Ann Coulter babysit my child, either.  :P

     I really, truly don't have a problem with people getting double stuffed on a regular basis. It is part of the job, I really don't see the problem. I would love to be friends with Traci Lords. However, JJ just seems kinda dumb. TL seems far more interesting.

    I also wouldn't let Ann Coulter near my child. I don't need the second coming of Alex P. Keaton on my hands :-)

  • imagePattypoundcake:
    imageAudreyGolightly:
    imagePattypoundcake:
    imageGeekchick921:

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    LOL, no just the fug part. There was a porn star on here when we were in 3rd tri though...

    I highly doubt you're fug. You're LO is too cute to have a fug Mommy.

    I must have missed the 3rd tri porn star, don't remember that one.

  • Nope. I'm a prude, and I don't care. 
  • Sure, I'd do playdates with Jenna.

    ETA: Errrr, that came out kind of wrong. But you know what I mean.

  • Hmm, I guess so. I'd probably feel better if the parent(s) weren't still active moviemakers but I really can't figure out how that helps lol.
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