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BM got the paperwork for paternity establishment
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She did a half-asssed job of filling it out too! She didn't put ANY of SD's info down. She didn't even put her wedding date on it! The second application wasn't filled out at all.
I had to call the office today to find out what exactly needed to be filled out and the guy just laughed. I told him that all BM wanted was paternity establishment and he started asking other questions about whether we had anything in writing giving DH custody on weekends and I said no, SD LIVES with us, she goes to BM on weekends, and we carry her insurance, she is registered in our school district, and DH, me, BM and BM's bf's names are all listed as being able to get SD medical treatment if necessary with her pediatrician since DH and I take her to the dr.
He told me what to leave blank and what to fill out, and then said that he wished us good luck and that he hoped that everything would go smoothly for us. He was much nicer than I anticipated. I didn't give BM's name so he has no idea what case it is about. When DH saw the paperwork he just laughed at the lack of time she spent on it.
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Re: BM got the paperwork for paternity establishment
Is it HER that wants paternity established or you guys? If it was her I wouldnt fill it out for her, let her do it! Why should you do the work for her?
Oh and she tells my DH last week that I was being B!TCHY when I went to pick up SD from her house on Sunday! Her reason was because I walked in side the house to pick up SD, it was just after 1pm (I pick her up just after 1pm EVERY Sunday) and SD was eating M&M's. Not a big deal but I wanted to get back home not sit around and chat with BM's bf. So, I told SD to get her shoes on so we could get going. And for that I am being b!tchy... And to tell my husband that was very kind of her - because we tell her when her bf is being a d!ck (not)!
If it isn't one thing it is another - I still think that she does her best to put a wedge between DH and I whenever she can, although it doesn't work at all. And she still has not said a word to me about the pregnancy - even when SD says something about it to me in front of her, she just ignores it! I tell you, she wants my husband back!
Both of us want it. BM and DH have talked for a long time about getting it done but our insurance co is requesting proof of paternity since we carry SD on our insurance so we have to have it done and BM agreed to it now because of it.
LMAO! Well she's going about it all wrong. Some women are so dumb....
I completely agree! She used to try it a lot more before we got married. She would tell DH something and then bring it up to me by saying "so I told your DH xyz...did he tell you?" 99% of the time it was about stupid stuff I could have cared less about but if I didn't know about it she would say "I wonder why he didn't mention it?" or "DId he not tell you?" She would also ask DH a question and then later ask me the same question I guess to see if we had discussed it. She has been doing this going on 4 YEARS!