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sobbing in office (long)

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Thanks goodness I have a door! I just checked my email regarding plans we have for a dinner party on Saturday. My husband and I get together with three of my girl friends from high school and their husbands about once every three or four months. They aren't my besties, but we've been friends for a long time.

Anyway, one of them announced her pregnancy via email, which started me crying a little--and another one replied all with her own announcement and it pushed me over the edge. I'm miserable because my first thought on reading the email was feeling sorry for myself, not happy for them. I don't like that about myself. We haven't even been trying that long compared to many.

I don't know how I'm going to make it through dinner Saturday night. They don't know we're TTC, much less suffering from IF, so I can't be angry with them. Just need some support, I guess. 

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  • cjdub13cjdub13
    I am so sorry! ?Pregnancy?announcements?are tough especially the unexpected ones and you were hit with a double whammy. I would consider not going on Saturday and you and the DH go out and do something special. ?It is probably going to be the main topic of discussion and if they don't know you are TTC or the IF, they will probably ask you lots of questions. ?That is just me though. ?Good luck with whatever you decide. ?Hopefully it will be you next!
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  • ChiTown BridgetChiTown Bridget member

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    I am so sorry!  Pregnancy announcements are tough especially the unexpected ones and you were hit with a double whammy. I would consider not going on Saturday and you and the DH go out and do something special.  It is probably going to be the main topic of discussion and if they don't know you are TTC or the IF, they will probably ask you lots of questions.  That is just me though.  Good luck with whatever you decide.  Hopefully it will be you next!

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  • SNB2BSNB2B
    I'm so sorry! If it were me, I think I'd still go just to keep in touch with them, but if you don't think you can then you have every right to go out and do something special with your hubby. Feel better!
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  • jehnmjehnm

    You definitely got hit hard.  I hate it when I feel the same way you are feeling.  I want to go back to the days when I was actually happy at someone's good news.

    See how you feel on Saturday, if it seems too hard, I'd suddenly become sick.   Take care of yourself!!

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  • mrshoppy_1231mrshoppy_1231
    The announcements are tough - and they just keep on comin'! I've been upset by announcements for so long babies are born and couples are trying for #2 by now. IF sucks
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  • waitwhatwaitwhat
    That's really tough.  Take care of yourself and if you don't think you can handle going, don't beat yourself up.  All you can do is all you can do. 
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  • grazygrazy member
    That totally stinks. I would be happy though that it was announced via email rather that at the dinner table. I don't know if I would go to dinner....I guess see how you feel and decide. Ugh. I'm sorry.
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    I am so sorry!  Pregnancy announcements are tough especially the unexpected ones and you were hit with a double whammy. I would consider not going on Saturday and you and the DH go out and do something special.  It is probably going to be the main topic of discussion and if they don't know you are TTC or the IF, they will probably ask you lots of questions.  That is just me though.  Good luck with whatever you decide.  Hopefully it will be you next!

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  • Dragonfly1226Dragonfly1226 member

    Oh hon - I'm so, so sorry. That's a lot to take in all at once!

    Try not to be so hard on yourself. I think your reaction was totally normal. I would have cried too. Sometimes it's better to let it out.  

    (((((hugs))))) 

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  • JM1977JM1977 member
    Ugh.  That is really rough.  I know how those announcements feel - and 2 in 1 day!  I would definitely see how you feel on Sat. and decide then whether you want to go.  You have to protect yourself, too.  (((HUGS)))
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