favorite thing about 1st tri board?

jeune_mariee · November 2009

This is a s/o of the "most annoying thing" post below. Which was very fun to read, btw.

My favorite thing (I am prepared for the flames):

That the number of posts a person has on this board seems to carry no weight or importance like some of the other boards. It has always blown my mind why a "newbie" with a few hundred posts is judged/flamed yet a poster with 498,000 posts is looked up to/have their bums kissed. Maybe it's just me, but I tend to have less respect for the people that spend 75% of their day on here.

Here's to a non-judgemental board. ; )

preppynewlywed · November 2009

jeune_mariee:
This is a s/o of the "most annoying thing" post below. Which was very fun to read, btw.
My favorite thing (I am prepared for the flames):
That the number of posts a person has on this board seems to carry no weight or importance like some of the other boards. It has always blown my mind why a "newbie" with a few hundred posts is judged/flamed yet a poster with 498,000 posts is looked up to/have their bums kissed. Maybe it's just me, but I tend to have less respect for the people that spend 75% of their day on here.
Here's to a non-judgemental board. ; )

Considering it is part of my job to be on these I find that offensive.

You have no idea why people are on the boards so much. Maybe her DH is in the military and she doesn't know people where she lives. Maybe it is a SAHM struggling with her new life.

So much for being non-judgmental, huh?

Mrs. BZ · November 2009

jeune_mariee:

This is a s/o of the "most annoying thing" post below. Which was very fun to read, btw.

My favorite thing (I am prepared for the flames):

That the number of posts a person has on this board seems to carry no weight or importance like some of the other boards. It has always blown my mind why a "newbie" with a few hundred posts is judged/flamed yet a poster with 498,000 posts is looked up to/have their bums kissed. Maybe it's just me, but I tend to have less respect for the people that spend 75% of their day on here.

Here's to a non-judgemental board. ; )

I would have to say that you just contradicted yourself.

justinlovesme · November 2009

jeune_mariee:
This is a s/o of the "most annoying thing" post below. Which was very fun to read, btw.
My favorite thing (I am prepared for the flames):
That the number of posts a person has on this board seems to carry no weight or importance like some of the other boards. It has always blown my mind why a "newbie" with a few hundred posts is judged/flamed yet a poster with 498,000 posts is looked up to/have their bums kissed. Maybe it's just me, but I tend to have less respect for the people that spend 75% of their day on here.
Here's to a non-judgemental board. ; )

Oops.

mrsjenni · November 2009

I can't speak for other people, but I have a lot of free time at work and these boards help me pass the day.

And I really don't think people kiss-ass just because of the number of posts other people have. I do believe that those with more posts have clearly been around longer, maybe know a little bit more (and may have better answers b/c of it) but also may be the snarkiest b/c they've likely seen it all.

JMO.

LouRN09 · November 2009

jeune_mariee:

This is a s/o of the "most annoying thing" post below. Which was very fun to read, btw.

My favorite thing (I am prepared for the flames):

That the number of posts a person has on this board seems to carry no weight or importance like some of the other boards. It has always blown my mind why a "newbie" with a few hundred posts is judged/flamed yet a poster with 498,000 posts is looked up to/have their bums kissed. Maybe it's just me, but I tend to have less respect for the people that spend 75% of their day on here.

Here's to a non-judgemental board. ; )

I know I am not speaking for myself, but there are a handful of ladies on this board whose husbands are deloyed, or are away for some reason, and this board is their main outlet of support and pregnancy-related chit chat.

lindsay.lou · November 2009

I like that it seems like my fellow summer mamas are a nice bunch so far.

Emie28 · November 2009

I tend to have less respect for people who make douchey judgemental comments while complaining about others being judgemental.

Pot meet kettle, I think you might have a lot in common.

lindsay.lou · November 2009

lindsay.lou:
I like that it seems like my fellow summer mamas are a nice bunch so far.

I realize that given the direction this post has gone, my response seems flip. Let the record show I was serious. hahaha.....

ralph&juanita · November 2009

Perhaps you should have provided an example of how you were treated when you made a post. I really didn't understand your complaint, other than thinking you were being disrespected or others lauded based on a number of posts. Are you wanting to post more so that your opinions can be held at what you think is a higher esteem or regard?

I'm obviously new. This is my first pregnancy and I am thrilled this community is here. I have my issues, I post my thoughts, and receive comments. If I didn't want comments, I wouldn't be on the board.

This is a choice. The way it's set up has nothing to do with the ladies (and maybe gents) that post things. If you have a complaint about how things are done on the bump, talk to the administrators, but don't lambaste your fellow bumpies.

We all are here because we want the support of people in general, some we may never meet or know beyond this forum, others we may forge friendships for a lifetime. You never know.

I think something happened to you for you to have written this. Perhaps you should seek out that person(s) and let them know you value your own opinion, and those of others (maybe), and respect should be given, regardless of how many posts are made by individuals. Have a safe and healthy pregnancy newbie, and look forward to more of your posts. Smile

jeune_mariee · November 2009

I apologize for my poorly written post, and if I could write it again I would do away with the last sentence about "having less respect for the people who spend the majority of their day on here...". Or at least I'd add "bashing newbies" to the end of it. I spent time on another board before this one and it was a very exclusive club where the regulars could do no wrong and they would gang up on the newbs as a form of entertainment. I just don't get it.

My (poorly communicated) point was that it shouldn't matter if you have 5 posts or five hundred thousand--being kind, witty and/or helpful is what should win respect. Not having a gold bar under your name.

Roxpup · November 2009

I spend like 75% of my day, probably more, on thebump.com and other resources. I live in the middle of no where, I have no friends here (we recently moved and because of the move I now have no job, I have a bachelor's degree and no job, I'm sure a lot of people out there understand how depressing that feels right now), there are no jobs in this community, everyone I know and love besides DH is at least 3 hours away from me. I have limited cell service up here because it's such a remote area. I have never had any close friends be pregnant and this is my first child. I have a lot to be anxious right now and I'm thankful for all of the other bumpees that allow me to voice that anxiety and no one has ever judged me, until now.

The thing I like most about 1st tri is the compassion I've seen, we don't know each other, but we're here for each other. Thank you, fellow bumpees, for being my crutch though a time that is pretty difficult for me.

LouRN09 · November 2009

jeune_mariee:

I apologize for my poorly written post, and if I could write it again I would do away with the last sentence about "having less respect for the people who spend the majority of their day on here...". Or at least I'd add "bashing newbies" to the end of it. I spent time on another board before this one and it was a very exclusive club where the regulars could do no wrong and they would gang up on the newbs as a form of entertainment. I just don't get it.

My (poorly communicated) point was that it shouldn't matter if you have 5 posts or five hundred thousand--being kind, witty and/or helpful is what should win respect. Not having a gold bar under your name.

Yes I get what you are saying now. I find no pleasure in bashing newbies, or seeing other people bash them. I would never be that rude to people in real life so I would hope not to carry that on here! We were all new at some point and I think *almost* every question can be justified. Half the time when you google for an answer, it takes you to a message board anyways! Might as well as girls you "know". KWIM? Wow, I have been rambling! haha

jeune_mariee · November 2009

LouRN09:
jeune_mariee:

I apologize for my poorly written post, and if I could write it again I would do away with the last sentence about "having less respect for the people who spend the majority of their day on here...". Or at least I'd add "bashing newbies" to the end of it. I spent time on another board before this one and it was a very exclusive club where the regulars could do no wrong and they would gang up on the newbs as a form of entertainment. I just don't get it.
My (poorly communicated) point was that it shouldn't matter if you have 5 posts or five hundred thousand--being kind, witty and/or helpful is what should win respect. Not having a gold bar under your name.
I get what you are saying now. I find no pleasure in bashing newbies, or seeing other people bash them. I would never be that rude to people in real life so I would hope not to carry that on here! We were all new at some point and I think *almost* every question can be justified. Half the time when you google for an answer, it takes you to a message board anyways! Might as well as girls you "know". KWIM? Wow, I have been rambling! haha

Thank you for your reply. ; )

I need to think harder and type slower sometimes.

Roxpup · November 2009

jeune_mariee:
LouRN09:
jeune_mariee:

I apologize for my poorly written post, and if I could write it again I would do away with the last sentence about "having less respect for the people who spend the majority of their day on here...". Or at least I'd add "bashing newbies" to the end of it. I spent time on another board before this one and it was a very exclusive club where the regulars could do no wrong and they would gang up on the newbs as a form of entertainment. I just don't get it.

My (poorly communicated) point was that it shouldn't matter if you have 5 posts or five hundred thousand--being kind, witty and/or helpful is what should win respect. Not having a gold bar under your name.

I get what you are saying now. I find no pleasure in bashing newbies, or seeing other people bash them. I would never be that rude to people in real life so I would hope not to carry that on here! We were all new at some point and I think *almost* every question can be justified. Half the time when you google for an answer, it takes you to a message board anyways! Might as well as girls you "know". KWIM? Wow, I have been rambling! haha

Thank you for your reply. ; )

I need to think harder and type slower sometimes.

It happens to everyone once in a wihle I liked that you started the favorite thing about 1st tri though I was going to but decided I was hungry instead, darn baby and this queasy feeling if I don't eat right away!

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