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husband DD :(

priya&peterpriya&peter member
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So when we were pg last time, my dh announced it on his blog.  I went back to look at the entry because I don't know. It makes me happy remembering how happy we were then, y'know?  And it is gone! He deleted our baby announcement off his blog.  I talked to him about it and he said it was because he didn't want people thinking I am about to pop a kid out, but I feel like he just erased one of the few reminders I have of that very happy moment. :( 
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  • kshields104kshields104
    I'm sorry, but I see why your DH deleted it. 
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  • someflower6someflower6 member

    aw, i can totally see why you wouldn't want that deleted. a simple edit, or follow-up post would have sufficed.

    but men. they're different, you know?

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  • Scout05Scout05 member

    That's a tough one. I deleted all the videos and pics of our BFPs, and even though I asked DH if it was okay, I think he was kind of sad when I actually did it.

    Does he have it saved anywhere, so you can have it just for you?

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  • priya&peterpriya&peter member
    imagesomeflower6:

    aw, i can totally see why you wouldn't want that deleted. a simple edit, or follow-up post would have sufficed.

    but men. they're different, you know?

    yes. I don't know why it is so upsetting to me right now, but I'm in my stupid office crying.  If i could get it together long enough, I could make a dash for the door and go home.  I wish he would have at least told me first so I could have printed it out for myself.  Especially the comments we got.  This time, we haven't really told too many people but the people we did tell have all been really cautious and hesitant, you know? and it just made me realize it'll never be like that.  when i was so happy and ignorant and so was everyone else.  Thanks for letting me vent though.

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  • Scout05Scout05 member

    I think it comes down to everyone coping differently. I am a "get it away from me" griever. I threw away all things related to the pregnancy, with the exception of one small box with our 8 week u/s of BC and a few items. I deleted all Bump posts having to do with me and my pregnancy (I was only on 1st Tri. then) and all FB mentions as well.

    DH archived everything, and printed things out. He's the one that made sure we had the box and that it came with us on the move. Like I said, he was sad when I deleted all the photos and videos, although he let me do it.

    I don't say that to imply that you shouldn't be sad -  I so understand why you are - just thinking maybe I know where your DH was coming from and why it didn't occur to him you would want those things.

    It sucks we even have to know how we grieve. HUGS!!

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