- Pregnancy
- Baby & Toddler
- Parents
- Getting Pregnant
- Baby Names
- Product Reviews
-
Registry
- Community
-
More
Want a personalized experience?
Download the free app
Trying to Get Pregnant
samjpro
member
Not trying, but not not trying
samjpro
member
Anyone else? What is holding you back from not fully TTC?
Me - not sure, waiting on a raise maybe, or just afraid that once we start trying, it is all I will think about!
This discussion has been closed.
Re: Not trying, but not not trying
well, you're obviously thinking about it already...
I just decided to go for in since I knew it could take a lot longer than I hoped. It's not always easy!
Don't go!
I know what you meant.
For me, it wasn't possible to not "really" try. Once I went off BC, we were trying. I just couldn't "wing it."
We were on the baby train.
I think "winging it" is just a myth ... or for people who may not be 100-percent ready. But it could just be my personality!
BFP #1 11/28/09 ~ EDD 8/6/10 ~ DS Born 8/9/10
BFP #2 8/27/13 ~ EDD 5/8/14 ~ Natural MC 9/18/13 at 6 weeks, 6 days
BFP#3 3/28/14 ~ EDD 12/7/14 ~ DD Born 11/21/14
BFP#4 6/15/17 ~ EDD 2/20/18
I had been thinking about babies for awhile before we even talked about when we wanted to start trying. The minute I stopped birth control pills, it was all I can even think about!
Part of me wishes I could just stop BCP and not think about actively trying, but I know it wouldn't happen!
Oh, if you meant that ^ - then I'm sorry, I misunderstood. I don't chart because my cycle is totally jacked from the depo shot I was on bc of endo- so I'm not giving myself the headache until it's regular again. (which I'm hoping it will be some day..)
I thought you meant like, "Eh, dh and I are doing it and sometimes we use protection and sometimes we don't- so if it happens, it happens..." sorry, again
This, I do know what you mean. Theirs just no such thing of not really trying, but you should start when you truly are ready. I will tell you that if you sit and wait for those promotions and what not, then the right time will never be! DH put off trying for 3 years, he wanted to have all the ducks in a row. I lost my 150K a year job and now we live off of his job and we are finally TTC for 2 years now! So my advise is think it through. You don't need to go.
DH and I "stopped preventing" in May and were just going to see what happens. We did this b/c we knew it was going to be a crazy summer, and although we would have been happy to get KU, it wasn't on the front burner.
We started really trying, meaning tracking ovulation and such in August.
A kiss he will never forget- Disney World 2014
Oh, and might I add that I understand where you're coming from in think that if you don't pay attention to it in an attempt to be lax, you won't obsess. I completely disagree in that, when you don't pay attention to it (don't temp, don't watch symptoms, etc.) the obsessing is WORSE because you are guessing at what is going on.
I decided I would NOT temp this month in an attempt to be lax and I find myself wondering that much more about things. I think I would have a lot more peace of mind if I HAD temped because I would know what was going on with my body.
Just a little insight I have come to realize in recent weeks!
Honestly, if a couple has chosen to do this and they understand their decision and take responsibility, I don't see why this is wrong either. Shoot, I don't know about now, but in the past there have been posters here who weren't TTC, but they were still welcome on the board.
I'm sorta on the same boat.
I stopped taking BC pills at the end of August and just had my first period last week. We have discussed everything, we are ready for a baby, but we aren't ready to time sex or change how we live our lives to try to get pregnant. At least not yet...
That being said, I am very excited about the possibility of getting pregnant this month and I know I'll be bummed out if it doesn't happen.
I know where you are coming from
I just got off BC in August and just started my 2nd cycle last week. I knew it might take a while to regulate and I really became interested in charting and hopefully catching a glimpse of how my body works, so I went off and if it happens now then we will be super excited...but we are also ok if it doesnt...haha but come March/April of next year we will be going full force!!
We've been technically TTC for a few months now - but only this month with Charting. It takes on a whole new meaning when you start to pay attention to your temps and CM. I'm traveling this week so I'm sure my temps will be all over the board - which is annoying considering I'm in my 2ww.
Once you start charting - this board has a ton of great information.
The last thing I posted on another site responded to me in the same way. Im exactly where you are. Im trying but not trying. It makes you anxious and you just want someone to talk to about it because in all reality you can be pregnant by next month even though your not really trying lol..at least thats how I feel