Will you be creative next time?

swanck · November 2009

Next time you get your BFP, when it's time to tell your family and DH, will you be creative and do something special?

I've had two losses, and have been creative in telling people before, only to then let them down with the hard news about our miscarriages.

So when I get my next BFP, part of me wants to be creative and special, after all, if it's my forever baby, I'd want a special memory.

But part of me wants to be realistic, and just tell them, matter-of-factly. Because they will worry about how it will end too.

What do you think?

KelinandKevin · November 2009

Weeks 0-13 I will not be creative. But I am going to throw a huge celebration and a party and invite the neighbors once I hit the second Tri. Party!!!

sydney0928 · November 2009

I thought about it, but I think everyone's expecting news from me now, so it won't be a surprise or anything. And I think my family and friends are going to be on high-alert for me next time too. So I will probably just be quiet and boring about it.

Scout05 · November 2009

I just had to delete a video of me telling DH he was going to be a daddy for the second time. I wrapped up our positive test and gave it to my parents, pretending it was a "gift" from the wedding we went to.

I just don't want to delete any more videos, or erase any more pictures of pregnancy tests. Or have any more memories for a child I don't get to hold.

Sorry, we just came across extra photos this morning. I'm a little raw.

krate24 · November 2009

Meh, I wasn't creative the first time, and probably won't be the second time. I never got into the cutesy ways to tell people. It's just NMS.

swanck · November 2009

I have a feeling I can't be cutesy. It would just be too hard for everyone if it didn't take.

But it makes me really sad to not celebrate it either.

I don't know.

Scout05 · November 2009

swanck:

I have a feeling I can't be cutesy. It would just be too hard for everyone if it didn't take.

But it makes me really sad to not celebrate it either.

I don't know.

:::Hugs:::

TravelinMama · November 2009

I will be creative in telling my family once I hit 13 weeks. Lucky I don't live close where they'd know the difference.

lax15bsu · November 2009

I was not creative the first three times. The first pg, I had waited to tell everyone and ended up giving the "I was pg but I just m/c" speech. Next time I do want to do something special, I just don't know what yet. That is if my mom and gramma don't go all "espn' on me and tell me they knew I was pg before I knew myself.

bebeblues · November 2009

I will be creative next time. I didn't get to w/dd bc I had some medical things going on and my family had guessed that I was ku and so they kept asking....

I didn't get to last time, bc we had the loss at 10wks.

I plan next time to do something. Depending on when it is. I won't announce until my dr does the 12wk u/s.

ps--I have a ku friend right now who has 2 boys and is expecting #3. She doesn't live near family so she isn't telling them until they show up for Thanksgiving.....I think she's planning to wear baggy clothes and then dress the boys in shirts that say something cute an revealing their biggest "thanks" for the year.

I'm so jealous!

Swede25 · November 2009

I told myself that I would definitely. No ifs, ands, or buts about it. I've always had this plan of surprising DH and then surprising my family with a little video thing. Both times I've blurted it out to DH on the phone and also my mom. The first time the rest of my family found out after the loss, the second time when I was about 4 1/2 weeks along.

nomadicprincess · November 2009

I doubt I would be creative with DH because everytime I've gotten PG, I've lost the baby right away. I figure we will be tentatively excited.

However, with my family, I've thought of a couple fun ways. If I find out in the next few days that I'm PG, then I should be about 10 weeks along by Christmas. I figure I would wrap a gift for each set of parents with a baby onesy inside with something about Grandparents. When we get with our folks for the holidays, we will have them open that gift last. Surprise.

If we get PG on the next cycle, then the time would be right to tell them at the end of January--which is my mom's bday and my MILs bday. I figure we could send a special gift then too.

Beyond that, I have nothing creative. I just keep praying I am PG right now even though I had a BFN this morning. But my boobs are killing me, they hurt so bad...I'm delusional. I know.

OCIrishBruin · November 2009

If by creative you mean having DH stand in front of me while I POAS, then yes. There's no way he won't be there when I do this, so no fun creative ways to tell him for me, which is kind of the way I want it. It was such a great experience to see the test results together the first time.

I will have to think about the parents next time. I'm definitely waiting a little longer to tell them next time. I think I will just show them the u/s pic in some creative way. I'm the least creative person I know, so I'm probably not a good person to ask for this stuff.

BAM_2780 · November 2009

I'm not sure on this one. My loss was too late not to tell (23 weeks) so I know people will know next time before 23 weeks.

I did the cutesy thing last time with the fam. I honestly fantasized about it for a long time (since we got married). I would hate not to tell them in a special way, providing the pregnancy sticks, but at the same time I don't know if I can stomach it.

I also wonder if I'll tell them earlier this time as I feel like I'll want all the support I can get. That and everyone knows we'll be ttc again soon.

*sigh. I still can't believe this is all happening and it has been 3 months.

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