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Need some advice...

MarcyN'Michael08MarcyN'Michael08
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So I know that I am not on here very much, I lurk more than anything but I know yall are some wonderful ladies and I need some advice!

So DH and I have been married just over 6 months and before the wedding we decided that we would wait to TTC until we were settled in a house and not in an apartment. Well yesterday morning when we were laying in bed he brought up that maybe we should start TTC, it was a complete shock to me cuz thats just not like him, of coarse i want to TTC again (we have already had 2 MC a few years ago). So yesterday I went christmas shopping and all day long i was on a high thinking that we were going to start TTC again. Then i get home yesterday and its a complete 360, he started tell me that he wanted to maybe put it off a bit longer and didnt want to raise a baby in the apartment. It just completely hurt my feelings and brought me down... I want more than anything to be a great wife and mother! I just got my hopes up so much and then they were shot down... i am a little depressed today and just dont know what to do about this??

 I would appriciate any advice! Thanks!!

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  • trendymomtrendymom
    I would say to just hang in there.  Let DH know how you feel and how ready you are. Just keep open communication so you wont have bitterness towards DH, trust me this is advice I am trying to use myself!
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  • MarcyN'Michael08MarcyN'Michael08
    Thanks- I am trying to keep everything open its just hard.... he has done this twice already once yesterday and then one time like 3 months ago and then changed his mind again.... after have the MC its just hard to deal witht he back and forth of it.
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  • teulu07teulu07
    You need to talk it out with DH. it took us a long time to both be 100% on the TTC bandwagon. We had to hash it out many times, no arguments just put all our fears and worries out there in the open.  Then when we were both ready we knew there was no turning back no matter what happened. After our MC I was so upset I mentioned to DH maybe we should just take a break.. he reminded me of all those things I had told him when he was scared.  So just talk it out.
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