How much money do you give when you are giving cash as a wedding gift?

yo.mama · November 2009

$300 for any old wedding, $500 for a good friend, or do you write a check based off how nice or shoddy the wedding is?

https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/25551723.aspx

Tell me I'm not the only one who finds most of this ridiculous!

I don't give cash anyway, but my gift is around the $20-50 range (or my portion of it), depending on how close I am to the couple.

Even my well to do relatives don't plop down 1/2 a grand for a niece or nephew's wedding present or cash gift.

PearlGirl519 · November 2009

Um wow. We buy a gift and try to keep it under $50.

Holy hell.

Fish4Fun · November 2009

Ooh, we give a lot in my family.

Snowy_Owl · November 2009

THREE TO FIVE HUNDRED?????????????

Lordy. Maybe if I was Trump I'd be happy to give that much.

If they came to my wedding & gave us $ I match it (I still have a list of what we received for the TY cards). I try to spend between $40 - $70 depending on how well we know them.

Luv4Minnesota · November 2009

Seriously?! Whoa! We give 50-75 depending on the relationship.

Amber3535 · November 2009

Depending on my relationship with them $100 or less. Usually around $40.00. $300-$500 hahahaha

Ambeerose · November 2009

I think $50 is a good amount for anyone and maybe $100 if I'm really close and that's rare.

papillonlover · November 2009

I never give cash, always writes checks. I think it depends on what type of wedding it is. That saying, I usually give $150 for just anyone and between $200-300 for a close friend/family member.

Gramyson · November 2009

it's common in my culture to give a large amount of cash to the couple.

jessNdean · November 2009

I didn't read the post

But this is how I do it.

I guess on how much they spent per plate and thats what I give them.

Like my wedding was just over $100 per plate.

And I pretty much got all that back.

However, My bestfriend is getting married in the bahamas....I am going to give her probably $400.00

kash27 · November 2009

papillonlover:

I never give cash, always writes checks. I think it depends on what type of wedding it is. That saying, I usually give $150 for just anyone and between $200-300 for a close friend/family member.

This is what we do also.

Cin8-14 · November 2009

Usually 100 bucks for family and friends to whom we are not too close. For close friends and family we give 150-200. It also depends on the kind of wedding. We gave one of my friends 350 bucks because I am positive the dinner was pricey (lobster bisque and filet in Boston).

lisaohgee · November 2009

kash27:
papillonlover:

I never give cash, always writes checks. I think it depends on what type of wedding it is. That saying, I usually give $150 for just anyone and between $200-300 for a close friend/family member.

This is what we do also.

This. I also think this is a regional thing. You give more if you live in a big city where the weddings are more expensive, and less if you live in a more rural area.

Mrs.AKP · November 2009

that's crazy. i'd probably give $25 for most weddings.

july29bride · November 2009

papillonlover:

I never give cash, always writes checks. I think it depends on what type of wedding it is. That saying, I usually give $150 for just anyone and between $200-300 for a close friend/family member.

This

Disneygeek77 · November 2009

Oh my goodness I feel like crap now.

We give $50-$100 depending on the relationship.

yo.mama · November 2009

jessNdean:
I didn't read the post

But this is how I do it.

I guess on how much they spent per plate and thats what I give them.

Like my wedding was just over $100 per plate.

And I pretty much got all that back.

However, My bestfriend is getting married in the bahamas....I am going to give her probably $400.00

What! So if someone splurges for the pricey wedding, they deserve more than someone who has a more modest wedding?

My uncles gift was worth about $100. By your estimates, he owes me about $500 worth of presents and cash still. Good thing his daughters threw me a baby shower. Hmm

MikesFavoriteWife · November 2009

It depends on how close we are with the couple. We usually give at least $100. Family & close friends we give more. My best friend (and maid of honor) gave us $500 when DH and I got married. She went above and beyond for me so when her time comes we will do the same.

MikesFavoriteWife · November 2009

lisaohgee:
kash27:
papillonlover:

I never give cash, always writes checks. I think it depends on what type of wedding it is. That saying, I usually give $150 for just anyone and between $200-300 for a close friend/family member.

This is what we do also.

This. I also think this is a regional thing. You give more if you live in a big city where the weddings are more expensive, and less if you live in a more rural area.

I agree.

KathrynMD · November 2009

We got lots of 100 checks for our wedding; a handful were for 200 and up. I think 100 is about on par; we just went to a wedding and gave 150. I can't imagine givng less than 100.

papillonlover · November 2009

I also think it depends on what type of wedding it is, if it's a cash bar(hopefully, it's stated on the invitation), I won't be giving as much as I would have if it was a open bar.

azaretsky · November 2009

We give at least $100/person depending on the type of wedding. If these are close friends we buy a gift for about $200-$300

msabol2077 · November 2009

UMMM not that much, if its for a distant or somewhat close friend or something usually $100.00 if its someone close it just depends on how close we are with them.

EJS425 · November 2009

we try to cover our plates - around here an average plate costs $75 a person. we give around 150 -- more if its family.

jessNdean · November 2009

yo.mama:
jessNdean:

I didn't read the post

But this is how I do it.

I guess on how much they spent per plate and thats what I give them.

Like my wedding was just over $100 per plate.

And I pretty much got all that back.

However, My bestfriend is getting married in the bahamas....I am going to give her probably $400.00

What! So if someone splurges for the pricey wedding, they deserve more than someone who has a more modest wedding?

My uncles gift was worth about $100. By your estimates, he owes me about $500 worth of presents and cash still. Good thing his daughters threw me a baby shower.

Because you are his niece...ABSOLUTELY LOL...My uncle gave me 1000.00 and thats not even my god parent.anyhow, it just depends I guess.

if someone was having an outrageous expensive wedding of course I wouldn't go by plate. I would go with what I felt was right. to me a gift is a gift. If someone gave me 25 for a wedding gift i wouldn't think twice that that might be cheap....I'm from Jersey...we spend money ridiculously! lol

jen_and_scott · November 2009

Wow, I'm cheap, i guess. I watch their wedding registry and when something goes on sale, I go buy it. Or I go to BB&B and use my 20% off coupon. The original price is usually around $50, but I never pay that much.

Also, if I'm in the wedding, I don't give anything. I throw a shower, pay for a plane ride, hotel, dress, and alterations.

AngieandTony · November 2009

jessNdean:

I didn't read the post

But this is how I do it.

I guess on how much they spent per plate and thats what I give them.

Like my wedding was just over $100 per plate.

And I pretty much got all that back.

However, My bestfriend is getting married in the bahamas....I am going to give her probably $400.00

wait a minute, you're going to the wedding in the bahamas, and you are still giving her $400? thats ridiculous. for destination weddings, my presence and the amounti spent to get there is pretty much my gift.

for any old wedding around $125, for close friends and family closer to $200

Mrs.V · November 2009

$100 is a pretty common amount here. I spend that much on a gift as well.

JenMich · November 2009

We always gives checks, normally between 200-300

Geekchick921 · November 2009

Personally, I think anything under about $50 per adult/$100 per couple is pretty damn cheap, but we live in/around a city. I would be embarrassed to give anything less than $30 or $40 for myself. That said, we gave DH's cousin $100 for the two of us this year. I wanted to give more because we considered the place where they got married and I know $100 didn't come close to covering both of our plates, but it was all we could afford.

kabarbanel · November 2009

We usually do $100. Less if we aren't as close with the couple.

njkitty · November 2009

ekolenda:
we try to cover our plates - around here an average plate costs $75 a person. we give around 150 -- more if its family.

this. i think that's the general rule of thumb. big city weddings cost more, give more. obviously if you can't afford to give that much, you don't. for our wedding we got gifts ranging from $50 to $800.

Rangergal9 · November 2009

ekolenda:
we try to cover our plates - around here an average plate costs $75 a person. we give around 150 -- more if its family.

I grew up with the idea of giving enough to cover your plate. We generally give either $150 or $200 for my DH and I.

jessNdean · November 2009

AngieandTony:
jessNdean:

I didn't read the post

But this is how I do it.

I guess on how much they spent per plate and thats what I give them.

Like my wedding was just over $100 per plate.

And I pretty much got all that back.

However, My bestfriend is getting married in the bahamas....I am going to give her probably $400.00

wait a minute, you're going to the wedding in the bahamas, and you are still giving her $400? thats ridiculous. for destination weddings, my presence and the amounti spent to get there is pretty much my gift.

for any old wedding around $125, for close friends and family closer to $200

Granted I'm spending 2000 for 2 people all inclusive in the Bahamas for the wedding..We are childhood friends...and she is probably the only one I would give money to like that. Besides my sister of course

ShufflerChick · November 2009

I guess I'm biased because I'm from NYC, but $100 is the MINIMUM I bring to a wedding, per person. So with DH, we would bring $200+. That's how much the average plate costs around here and I feel bad giving less.

I usually give no less than $50 for birthdays too. I'm a big cash giver, but given the costs in this area, I would feel rude giving less than that.

I understand that in other parts of the country things are much less expensive, but I was seriously shocked by the $25 answers... that's two movie tickets around here!

Mysterious_Mama · November 2009

holy shiitballs!

our guide:

$100 - family member (cousin, etc)

$75 - friend

$50 - family friends, acquaintances, etc

the most we've ever given as a wedding gift is $250, and that was to my brother in law!!

mm&cc · November 2009

We usually give $100.

chikinyellow · November 2009

I usually take $1000 in one dollar bills into the reception and make it rain.

Mysterious_Mama · November 2009

Rangergal9:

ekolenda:
we try to cover our plates - around here an average plate costs $75 a person. we give around 150 -- more if its family.

I grew up with the idea of giving enough to cover your plate. We generally give either $150 or $200 for my DH and I.

though i hear this idea all the time, i personally disagree. imnsho, i think that if the bride and groom choose to throw an extravagant wedding, that's their choice. i'm giving them a gift, not paying my own way to their wedding. on the opposite side of the coin, i still give just as much if the reception is at the local eagles lodge. we have a guide that we stick to, no matter where the reception is.

sunnyday016 · November 2009

WOW. This must be a totally regional thing. I'm in MI and our reception was at a VERY nice place. The menu was about $30 per plate. I think that's pretty standard around here. I usually give a gift card to the place the couple has registered for $25-50 depending on my relationship with the couple. I'm floored by some of these answers!

kash27 · November 2009

chikinyellow:
I usually take $1000 in one dollar bills into the reception and make it rain.

I can not stop laughing at this!

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