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Let's talk some more about sex.

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Have you and DH discussed how you are going to talk about sex with your kids?  What are you going to promote?  Abstinence only?  Safe sex talks?

I'm going to try and take a middle ground approach.  I don't want LO to feel terrified if she has sex while she's a teenager but I don't want her to feel as if I approve...I guess we're going to stress that it's something that is natural, people choose to do it when they feel ready, but it's important to love and trust the person that you do it with and to always be safe about it.

Of course, that's easy to say now, but ask me in 15 years, I might be singing a different tune.   

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  • deeanneharrisdeeanneharris

    I am almost to the point where I need to with DD#1. My mom would never talk to me about it and thought if we didn't talk about it, it didn't exist. I was pregnant at 17.

    I hope I can also take a middle ground and let her know I would rather her be safe about it than try to avoid it.

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  • katie_cjkatie_cj member

    I'm not going to teach abstinence.  I think it's hypocritical in my case, also in my experience, it can be a little naive.  I had sex when I was 14, my mother's "sex talk" consist of "don't have sex", well I was a little rebeleous and I just went out and did it.

    I would like to talk about the consequences, and the emotional consequeneces as well.  Sex complicates things a lot, and when you are a teenager, you don't need more drama.

    I don't want to tell him not to do it so that he's afraid to come to us with questions.  Then again, I'm not going to leave him in his room with a girlfriend either.

     

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  • BugLuvBugLuv

    I plan on talking about what they have down there around age 8 and how it is different then the oposite sex

    around 10 we will start talking about how babies are made

    and when it seems right we will talk about the consequenses/rewards of sex. emotional/physical things

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  • sabrina69barnessabrina69barnes member
     I'll promote abstience but I'll also talk about safe sex. I'll talk about what the bible says about waiting untill they're married. I'll also talk about being safe if they chose not to wait and about how easy it can be to get pregnant. Both my mom and I were teen moms and DH and his ex had SD really young. DH will probably also talk to our kids about how he has never been able to have unprotected sex without having a baby.
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  • Mike&CareMike&Care member
    I'm going the safe sex route. I dont want to have blinders on. My parents never talked to us about it. I got pregnant at 19. My little sis will not get on birth control. I have urged her many many times. My Mom is oblivious to it. Every time I tell my Mom my little sis needs BC, my Mom says "well, I doubt she's having sex". Umm ok. She is 18 in college w/ a BF of 3 years. Oy vey. I hate how my parents act regarding sex. It is so taboo for them.
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