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sharing the name you choose with others
We have chosen a name for our baby girl, but my dh doesn't want to share it with anyone until the baby is born. I don't agree with him. I want to tell everyone. Anyone else not telling anyone the name until the baby is born?
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Re: sharing the name you choose with others
We will tell our family and close friends, but nosy coworkers? They can wait!
We've found out the sex (girl) and are telling people, but we haven't settled on a name yet. I'm disinclined to share whatever we do pick. First of all, I don't particularly care whether other people like our choice. Second, what if we change our minds at the last minute?
Not sure how my husband feels about not telling people, but I suspect he'll be fine with it--I'm the one who really wanted to find out the sex.
This. We'll be sharing the gender with our friends and family (if baby cooperates at the big u/s) so it would be nice for us to have some sort of surprise to share with everyone on the big day.
Well, I have three sister-in-laws and apparently one sister in law stole the other sister-in-law's "name". So, the one who had the stolen name refused to tell anyone her names until the day the baby was born. I took the opposite approach - I have told everyone our names .This way, if someone decides to use "our" name, they cannot get mad when I use it - plus, since everyone knows, I am sure a family member would say HEY thats her name!
Drama! Glad I grew up with three brothers!
I could never keep it quiet!! We'll tell everyone I'm sure!
If we were having a girl, we would have kept the name a secret until she was born. I learned that lesson quickly- early on I was throwing out some names that DH and I liked with my family (mom, aunt, cousin, grandmother) and they had negative opinions on every single one. I decided at that moment that we'd keep it to ourselves until she was born so that I wouldn't have to deal with it.
We're having a boy though, and we've been telling everyone the name because it's DH's name and my deceased father's name... no one makes negative comments about those!
We had a boy name (Seth Alexander) and DH discussed it with his mom & dad, since Seth was his late brother. Alexander was after my 2 grandpa's (one deceased) and my g-pa was very excited.
Now DH is having serious doubts about the name Seth, which would change both names. I wish we hadn't told anyone.
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we are on team green but so far we only have a girls name (boys are much harder for us to come together on) - but when that time comes we will have a list of five names so that we aren't tied down to one, plus if little one comes and "sally" doesn't look like a sally, we don't want to be committed to the name. I hate when I meet people who don't look like their name.
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This plus C. I think it will be fun torturing people (I'm already annoyed at my MIL who asks every day what boy names we've picked out)
We're team green also & MIL is a little annoyed with us not telling names. They know we have 1 picked but that is it. We just respond with "we have a few in mind". Also, I know some people will be "fake" and say they like our choices and you can read their expression which says no. I don't want to see or hear that. DH could care less but I care. I also figure, people won't have an opinion once the baby is here!
We are sharing ours, b/c I really don't care what anyone's opinion is and I am well aware everyone will have one!! I guess if I wasn't fully confident and 100% happy w/the name we chose, I wouldn't want to share... however that isn't the case! We love to have a real name for our family and friends to refer to her as:)
My BIL and SIL hid the name and it was extremely annoying. I love monogramming and personalizing shower gifts, so that was no fun...
That is totally your call though, and I respect you for keeping it a secret. To each his own right?
We do not tell people until the baby is born. 3 reasons:
1. If something were to happen and the baby died we would feel like we were jinxing things by sharing the name.
2. We don't care what other people think. It's alot easier to say "Oh I don't like the name Sophia because XYZ..." when they're discussing the name. When they're talking about an actual baby people aren't going to tell you they don't like the name because it would make them look like a-holes.
3. They already know the sex, we have to keep something in suspense, because no one really cares how big the baby is when they are born.
This is SO true! I know people who completely abandoned name choices because of something someone else said!
Levi 4.21.10
We are going to tell as soon as we know the baby's sex. I don't want to tell people the names we are considering, just what we have decided. That way, they're less likely to give their unwanted opinions.
We're tell b/c we want everyone to call the baby by name before it's born. We think it's much nicer that way.
We didn't tell with DD, and we're going to do the same thing this time.
I didn't feel like dealing with the unsolicited opinions of family, or every busybody who asked. I would just say, "We have a list, and we're waiting until she gets here to decide." In reality, we had a clear front runner that we started calling her as soon as we found out she was a girl.
Then -- although it was highly unlikely -- we could've changed our minds at the last minute when DD was born and nobody would've known, complained, gotten things personalized, etc. And it was nice, since everyone knew she was a girl, to have the name to share on the day she was born.
DD1, 1/5/2008 ~~~ DD2, 3/17/2010
I had never really thought about not telling people until we were in the deciding phase. Everyone had an opinion and they were not afraid to share good or bad. So now we are only telling a select few people, probably just our parents because I really dont care to hear anyone else's opinion. Once she is born they are far less likely to insult my name choice even if they don't care for it.
You could always just tell us to get it out!!!!!
This.