Anyone else's DH not want to cut the cord?

knedell · October 2009

My DH is super involved with this pregnancy and will be an awesome dad - probably better than I will be a mom. He has been throwing out name suggestions since the beginning, tells me to sit down while he does the dishes and scoping out all the stores/restaurants near our house that are open late so he will be prepared when I start having cravings. The one weird thing is that when we were talking the other night about stuff to include on our birth plan, he does not want to cut the cord. He also wants to stay up by my head during delivery, but that is FINE with me. When I asked him about the cord he said he would cut it if no one else would but he would be just as happy to have the dr do it. Is that weird? Anyone else's DH have similar feelings?

Mrs. GEK · October 2009

My DH doesn't want to cut the cord. He says that he doesn't want to watch our baby being born and that he'll stay by my head while that's happening. I'm guessing that once we're in the thick of it he'll change his mind about that one. I don't care either way about the cord cutting.

carolinah · October 2009

DH hasnt really talked about it but to be honest the thought of him cutting the cord totally freaks me out. I have no idea why I feel this way I just think I would be way more comfortable with a Dr. doing. I guess we should think about and I should ask him how he feels.

prego760 · October 2009

I have a friend who's SO does not want to do it becasue he thinks it's "sick". So he might be a little squeamish but doesn't want to admit it?

Kie310 · October 2009

My husband has told me that he doesn't want to see the baby come out, or cut the cord, or see all the mess that will be my lower half.

I'm fine with that, he is worried he will walk away really grossed out, and I can understand that

niene0319 · October 2009

My dh said the same thing the first time around. But when it came time to actually push he was right down in there. Even if you are near the head you can still see everything. He ended up holding one leg and he did cut the cord. After he said it was like a train wreck he just couldn't stop watching.

goldenjes · October 2009

Mine wants no part of that.

We've watched part of one birthing video and he was in shocked silence for a solid minute. He asked if I really wanted him to cut or catch and I told him I don't really care as long as he's there for the rest of it.

He will probably go nowhere near my vag during the whole thing. He's seen the full view with me up in stirrups when they removed the IUD and that was enough for him.

SMCbride2b · October 2009

My DH said he would do it if the doctor asked him if he wanted to, but it wasn't something he needed to.

However, when my mom had my last sister, the doctor asked my dad if he wanted to cut the cord and he looked back with a smile and said "Nope. That's what I'm paying you for, doc!" All men are different and I think it's just a personal preference. I don't think your DH is weird at all.

nursebride2be · October 2009

Mine does not want to cut the cord. He really doesn't even want to be in the room, but I have told him he will be in the room, but just has to sit at my head and can fae the wall. If he does just that I will be happy, but I have a feeling once in the moment he will be holding my leg and might even cut the cord.

mitchelltheojua · October 2009

Mrs. GEK:
My DH doesn't want to cut the cord. He says that he doesn't want to watch our baby being born and that he'll stay by my head while that's happening. I'm guessing that once we're in the thick of it he'll change his mind about that one. I don't care either way about the cord cutting.

This exactly ... dh doesn't want to be anywhere near all of that and definitely not close enough to cut the cord ... he also says that he wants to remain by my head.

taraleffel · October 2009

my dh did not cut it the first time around, and i doubt he will decide to do it this time! either way is fine with me!

WonderWoman27 · October 2009

mine totally doesn't want to and I don't blame him. ?I don't think I would want to either. ?He's still going to be the best dad ever though!! ?I told him to keep his head where mine is, unless he wants to wander down there. lol

cabinwife · October 2009

I don't have a preference about cutting the cord either way, and DH said he'd rather not (he's so squeamish about blood that he couldn't even watch me have blood drawn in the doctor's office), so we'll let the midwife or nurse do it.

It's just not a really important part of the birth for us because neither of us see it as a big symbolic thing.

Brewtowngrl · October 2009

DH didn't have much of a choice with DS. It was only the only the nurse and a student in the room when we started to practice push. The nurse handed him a leg and I almost had DS with that push. Then it was all frenzied and he had to stay put helping. Might want to prepare your DH that they might get a front row view.

DH didn't get to cut the cord even though he wanted to. It was wrapped around DS's neck. This is one thing he is looking forward to with this one.

SapphyrEyes · October 2009

DH thought it would be really weird at first and wasn't sure if he wanted to do it. But, he did wind up cutting DS cord. He said it was strange though because it was tough to cut through. If he's home and not at training this time I'm pretty sure he'll cut the cord again.

SissyKate21 · October 2009

niene0319:
My dh said the same thing the first time around. But when it came time to actually push he was right down in there. Even if you are near the head you can still see everything. He ended up holding one leg and he did cut the cord. After he said it was like a train wreck he just couldn't stop watching.

Ahahahaha! This is a fantastic line...

kristinem17 · October 2009

My DH doesn't even want to be in the delivery room, it is not custom in is country/culture - however, I have made it known for a long time (pre-TTC) that when our time came he would be there. He has gotten used to the idea over time. He has also expressed that he doesn't want to cut the cord - but I am sure he will come around on that too.

kilissa · October 2009

My cousin gave birth in January. Her husband totally wanted to be up by her head and not see anything. That was his plan. However, once they got in the delivery room, the doctor put him to work. He actually had to hold one of her legs and got more of an eyeful than he was counting on.

Lyssapee · October 2009

My DH will stay above my waist for labor, and probably won't cut the cord. I don't even think I would want to do it. It skeeves me a bit.

ditzydi_2000 · October 2009

We've talked about it and I think he's leaning towards letting the Dr. do it because he's afraid he'd do it incorrectly and somehow affect the baby.

Lisa_Ont · October 2009

My dh did not cut it the first time around, and I'm sure it will be the same with #2. It was just something he wasn't excited about. . . Either way is fine with me!

MrsWindyCity · October 2009

DH doesn't really want to cord. I'm definitely fine with that.

Temp36641187503164 · October 2009

SapphyrEyes:
DH thought it would be really weird at first and wasn't sure if he wanted to do it. But, he did wind up cutting DS cord. He said it was strange though because it was tough to cut through. If he's home and not at training this time I'm pretty sure he'll cut the cord again.

My DH Actually wants to see everything and cut the cord.

About the cord being tough to cut through - it is! I was in the delivery room for one of my good friends birth and had the honor of cutting the cord. I thought it would cut right through and the nurse said, "You are going to have to cut a few times."

adcffaa · October 2009

I think my fiance was under the impression that there really isn't as much blood as there really is, so at first he was fine with it. Then one day he saw a bith or two on one of the shows I watch and he says absolutely not. He wants to stay up by my head and doesn'teven want to see the baby until its clean.

fellesferie · October 2009

My DH:

"Cutting the cord seems like something the doctor should do. It's a slippery slope, yeah? First I'm cutting the cord and next they're going to want me to figure out the whole placenta thing or catch another lady's baby? No thanks."

Makes me laugh and roll my eyes a little at the same time. I tease him about it constantly.. "oh, you're washing the dishes? next thing you know, someone will ask you to make some stoneware and paint it... slippery slope, you know."

But it's fine with me that he doesn't want to do it. He can't wait to hold the baby, feed the baby, etc.. so this is a pretty small thing.

Erin&Ryan · October 2009

Eh. You never know until you are in the situation. My DH said the same thing (wanted to stay up by my head and all) but he was looking down there as Zach was coming out. Your DH could very well change his mind when he's in the moment!

elidav2007 · October 2009

My DH does not want to cut the cord and has also made it clear that he will be staying up top during the delivery!

Kittycat196 · October 2009

My DH almost fainted when he got his blood taken for a test. He will not be cutting the cord and he will stay by my head. That is the way we both want it.

DMacG · October 2009

My DH doesn't want to do it either. He plans on staying by my head and said he'll cut it if he doesn't have to look. hahaha..

Peanut1334 · October 2009

My DH is in the same boat as yours. He will not cut the cord and he will stay near my head only. I do joke with him that as much as he has his plan, he'll probably ending standing down "there". Whatever he wants to do is fine with me.

Special*K* · October 2009

niene0319:
My dh said the same thing the first time around. But when it came time to actually push he was right down in there. Even if you are near the head you can still see everything. He ended up holding one leg and he did cut the cord. After he said it was like a train wreck he just couldn't stop watching.

This was my DH exactly with our DS. He initially declined cutting the cord when the doc gave him the option, but with a little prompting from my OB he did it and I think he's glad he did.

Ginlyn0 · October 2009

I'm not sure if most of you realize this or not but typically the cord is cut on your belly while the baby is laying on your chest it'snot usually cut down below unless there is a problem.... even you can see it being cut so if DH is in the room he will see it.

MarMat · October 2009

LOL..

no, I cannot imagine DH doing that.. He has always stated that newborns are ugly.. there's no such thing as cutesy on them... they are bloody and floated... so I think he will be staying by my side all the time...

time will let us know.. Smile

jacodi · October 2009

I just asked DH and he wants to stay by my head and not cut the cord. Fine by me either way, but we'll see what happens when the time comes.

Sam78 · October 2009

My DH stayed at my head during labor and didn't want anything to do with the cord, I didn't think anything of it and if he's going to be that squeamish about things (he got nauseous over a finger prick!), i'd rather have him be comfortable than passing out in the middle of things.

EvilBunny17 · October 2009

My DH has a daughter from a previous relationship. At the time his daughter was born his GF made him watch everything and it was not a good experience for him. He asked me if I would be offended if he stayed by my head and didn't watch any of the "nasty stuff". I told him to do what he was comfortable doing. He did say that he would cut the chord if I wanted him to. But really I feel like the decision is up to him, I want him to be comfortable and see and do what he wants to do. I think it really depends on the guy what he wants to do and there is nothing wrong with wanting to stay at the head or not ut the chord.

Anna&Matt · October 2009

he hasn't decided yet, I told him it's entirely up to him what he wants to do.

SweetieP · October 2009

My DH didn't want to cut the cord with our first child and doesn't want to do it this time either.

DASHSKIDADDLE · October 2009

Mrs. GEK:
My DH doesn't want to cut the cord. He says that he doesn't want to watch our baby being born and that he'll stay by my head while that's happening. I'm guessing that once we're in the thick of it he'll change his mind about that one. I don't care either way about the cord cutting.

My DH is everything you said!!

DSU98 · October 2009

My DH did not want to cut either and he also wanted to stay by head. I totally respect that, I would not want to cut it either. I think both is fine and everyone has their own limits of what they will do.

october577 · October 2009

My DH has a weak stomach for blood - so cutting the cord is out for him. Before we got pregnant, he wasn't even sure if he could witness a delivery. He's feeling good now about it and will stay at my head.

He's is going to be wonderful father - just not good with anything involving blood. Hopefully, i don't have to have a c-section because that would just be bad for him. Funny, how I'm not at all worried about giving birth, but he is, only because he is embarrassed he will pass out.

I love him! He's too funny. We have our childbirth prep class on Sunday, let's see how makes it through that one.

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