I am now officialy depressed

mrs.a.butler · October 2009

I can't start treatment until ds is done bf (I've already said that before so I'm sorry if I'm sounding redundant). I hate being infertile. I tested the other day and got bfn, but I figured it was going to be. I was sort of "okay" with it. Still depressing seeing a stark white test though. Well, now a friend got a bfp...she wasn't trying and didn't want to get pg...it makes me cry to think I (all of us) try so much and have to go through so much to get pg and then other people just get pg... Sad

While I'm not mad at her and love her...it still breaks my heart

MrsGabbs4Ed · October 2009

I know how you feel, I am having jealousy issues myself...everyone at work is pregnant and I am always reminded of what I don't have yet. I am happy for others but it is tough to shake the bitterness sometimes. My PG with my first was unexpected but a happy surprise. My BFF at the time struggled for over a year to get PG and in the midst of that came my "surprise". On the other side of the fence back then I can say that I felt pretty sh*tty at the time and my heart broke for her. If your friend is aware of what you are going though I am sure her heart is breaking for you. Now I am on the other side of the fence and truly know how she felt at the time. Either way there is no point to my rambling really except I can relate to your friend and to you as well...good luck to you.

angw79 · October 2009

I have been there too, many times. My cousin got pregnant with her second a few months after we started TTC- and we went through our first pregnancy together. It was so hard to see her having her second baby while I was still waiting. Then in the past 2 months 2 friends got BFPs and we had been trying for over a year. It's rough. I feel for those TTC and find it sometimes frustrating that people who don't even want a baby end up having one.

sommerrayne · October 2009

Hugs gal - I wish I was closer so I could just visit, and try to cheer you up! Try to remember its all worth it in the end

mrs.a.butler · October 2009

thanks ladies!

and sommerayne...I hate to say it but it's nice to see a familiar face over here

queenbone · October 2009

When I was TTC #1 I had 5 friends/family tell me they were pg and most were accidents. In addition to that number, I one of my co-workers confided in me that his gf was pg and that they were going to have an abortion. It was so hard for me to keep my composure! (Obviously he didn't know I was ttc) Later I thought about asking him to give me the baby. But in the end, his gf miscarried. Accident babies are hard enough to hear about. It is the unwanted ones that can push you over the edge with IF.

Hugs to you and I hope your friend comes around and appreciates the gift she has been given.

JosiPeaches · October 2009

(((HUGS))) Hon. This is a tough road. Keep your chin up.

firsttogo · October 2009

I would hate to have to make that decision. Breastfeeding could interfere with the way the meds affect your body though, and that could only make your road more difficult. Try to enjoy your last months of breastfeeding your first (but not last) baby. I always was so sad that I was unable to breastfeed.

JMay · October 2009

I'll throw in what I hope is a silver lining - I've been told (but have not substantiated myself) that after you stop BFing, your body goes through a few months of higher fertility - kind of the same theory behind taking BCPs for a few months when TTC. So, whenever you do stop BFing, you "may" have a period of higher fertility. Also, for what its worth, I think your baby is very lucky to have a mom so committed to BFing!

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