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grinsandgiggles
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SAHM's - Buying for DH at Christmas
grinsandgiggles
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We have a joint bank account obviously, but I feel so weird buying him a Christmas gift with the money. I know I work just as hard as him around here, but I feel like he should just go out and buy his own present since he technically earned the money.
He's buying me a lens, which isn't cheap...however, I hate to go out and buy him something that he doesn't really want or I know nothing about (he said he wants tools).
How are you going to go about shopping for them?
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Re: SAHM's - Buying for DH at Christmas
My DH doesn't usually check anything or even look at the account (bad I know) so that's how I go about shopping for him. Maybe you can purchase it on a credit card since the statement doesn't come until later..that way he can't see what you've purchased. You can ask his friends/close family member to see if he's mentioned anything he's wanted or ask for their expertise on tools. My DH loves golf so I usually ask friends or brothers for advice.
Oh neither do I...it's just when it comes to big expensive Craftsman tools, I tend to get nervous about spending that much.
Well, this year, we aren't buying each other gifts. We are traveling instead.
But normally, we don't do surprises. He wanted a BluRay DVD player for his birthday, so we found one we liked and bought it.
He likes to pick out his own things.
I'll get little things as surprises.
We have a joint account, and we just buy our gifts for each other in cash. If you really feel like you can't pick something out for him, then give him a gift certificate with a card promising to go with him to Home Depot on boxing week to pick out whatever he wants. Then just get him something small or sentimental that you know he would like on the side. (For instrance, one of my gifts to DH is a DVD I'm making of him and DS).
Or you could just ask him exactly what he wants and get him that.
I don't feel at all like I'm spending my DH's money (when I spend our money), even though he technically earned it. Like you said, we work just as hard as our DHs, and we gave up our jobs/careers for our families, so I feel that as a SAHM I am just as entitled to spend our money as DH is.
That said, we set a gift-giving budget. We are spending $200 on each other this year. I plan to ask DH for some ideas of things that he wants. I already gave him an idea for me.
If your DH wants tools, you could find out specifically what he'd like, and get him that along with a few smaller surprises.
I'm not a SAHM...but we're gonna decide on a set amount to spend on each other, pull out the cash and go shopping with that. That way everything is fair (one person doesn't spend alot more than the other), and we won't be able to see where they shopped from the bank account details.
This. We usually set a price limit and then take out cash to spend. We actually pay for all our presents in cash. Makes sticking to a budget much easier for us.
This year we decided to not get each other a big present and save the $$ for a vacation in the spring.
We have a joint account as well, and what we ususally do is we'll go out together and choose and buy our xmas presents (1 big item gift - ipod, TV, DVD player) ...something a little pricey. I also want a lens
Then we'll surprise each other with small gifts (nothing too expensive)... I'll get him socks, work pants, cologne anything that he needs. He usually doesn't go out and buy himself something.
He can always exchange it if it isn't exactly what he wants. If I do something like that, I let DH know it won't hurt my feelings if he exchanges it. I just like him to have something to open.