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This is why I am such a different parent than my MIL

CuteminCutemin
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I was talking to my MIL about Tyler's early interventions programs and seeing the developemental pedi, ect.  She was saying how she always thought one of her sons had tourettes because he would constantly blink his eyes and he would repetitively bang the back of his head on walls.  This is the same child who, as a baby, cried non-stop.  In fact FIL bragged about how he once cried for 16 hours straight without even stopping to eat.  Apparently, their pedi told them that when he cried (we are talking infant/newborn here) to just put him in a room and close the door.  Not to tend to him.  And this is exactly what they did.   And as an adult he has serious issues, very serious issues.  So, in our conversation today, she tells me that she once wanted to take him to find help but her husband would not let her.  That people didn't seek help for behavior problems back then (BIL is 26).  That her husband just encouraged the other siblings to tease him about the odd behaviors and he would eventually stop doing them. 

I just don't get how any mother could let her husband stand in the way of seeking help for her child.  I would leave my husband before I would ignore my child's needs!  I came to terms with the idea of not holding a baby because you are 'spoiling' them thing a long time ago.  I have told her over and over that when it comes to my kids, we comfort them and hold them.  She still hessitates to pick up B because she is worried she will spoil her, but she doesn't hessitate to feed T a dinner consisting soley of M&Ms and gummy candies!  And DH doesn't understand why I don't like leaving the kids with her!  She even said just the other day that it wasn't fair for Ty to be learning his letters and numbers in a fun mannor!

And I am a babywearing, BFing, co-sleeping mamma!  We are so different!

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Re: This is why I am such a different parent than my MIL

  • MrsWhiteonWhiteStMrsWhiteonWhiteSt
    I'm sorry. MIL and I are verrry different when it comes to raising babies too. It's hard b.c she always uses the " I DID raise 4 kids of my own, hahaha <fake laugh>"
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  • abba916abba916

    i hear you Min~ I havent even had the baby yet and I can just see the upcoming "conversations" that will come about from comments my MIL said...

    Just trust yourself ....it's all you can do... 

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