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I was thinking about all the stupid...

mristine6mristine6
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stuff people said to me after my m/c. I was thinking about it because 1 of my friends announced her pr at 4 weeks on facebook which always makes my stomach knot up a little bit but none the less I'm very excited for her. Come to find out she did have a m/c a while back and was still announcing this early so she must not know as many idiots as me.. I was thinking about my experience with a lot of people knowing and some of the outrageous things some people said. I heard it all. Here are some of the more memorable ones....

"I am sure there was something wrong with the baby. Its better this way, You wouldnt want to have a retarted baby would you?"...WTF? Who sais this?

My friend telling me about her friend who has had like 10 m/c and now has a healthy baby. OK great I'm glad. But at this point I've had one and while your friends story is inspirational Its freaking me out!

And my personal favorite..."I know how you feel. I was very sad after my last abortion"

I can laugh about it all now but I'm happy this time only my mom and hubby know!

Any one else have over the top weird experiences like this? Or do I just know the dumbest people in the world?,,lol

 

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  • Lisa10eLisa10e

    Oh yea I got some stupid ones too. Like "dont worry your still young", like thats suppost to make me feel better, I still have my youth. I also got "atleast you have your daughter", I love my dd so very much but it doesnt make the pain of losing a baby any less. And my all time fav, "are you sure you were even pg?" Its like oh I never thought of that, maybe I wasnt and they just did a d&c "just incase".

     

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  • KelanneKelanne
    Yikes . . . that's bad!!!  Luckily I didn't have anyone say those things to me.  I probably would have freaked out.  I didn't handle my m/c very well.
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  • Mrs. DissMrs. Diss
    I got some pretty bad ones.  One that particularly annoyed me, "At least you know you can get pregnant."  I heard that a bunch.
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  • Babs022Babs022 member
    WOW! I didn't have any comments like that...some people are so dumb.
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  • pinkpuffyheartspinkpuffyhearts
    The worst was "Everything happens for a reason." The person who invented this phrase should be shot.
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  • mristine6mristine6

    imagepinkpuffyhearts:
    The worst was "Everything happens for a reason." The person who invented this phrase should be shot.

    I agree!

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  • knelliknelli

    i heard all of the typical ones like "at least you can get pg" and "you are still so young" blah blah blah

    Honestly the worst was when we found out how sick our DD was at the NT scan my very good friend said "OMG she is suffering in there" then after the D&E "At least she isn't suffering anymore!"

    I wanted to kill her for those 2 comments, they hurt more than anything!

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  • MrsPattersonMrsPatterson member

    Ah, stupid comments.  My own personal least faves:

    -  Well, that's what you get for telling people so early I guess.

    -  Maybe the baby was.... you know.... "special".  And God knew you couldn't handle that.

    -  Oh don't worry, I had (2, 3, 4) m/c before I got pg for real.  You'll get there eventually. 

     

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  • bootcampbridebootcampbride
    And that is the reason I didn't tell anyone until 14 wks. What's wrong with just saying "I'm sorry" people????
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  • abs711abs711 member
    Wow I was pretty angry after my M/C so if someone would have made the abortion coment to me they would have probably gotten smacked!  Some of the other ones were crazy also!  I had some crazy ones also but the abortion one takes the cake.  I get that when some woman have an abortion there are a lot of emotions behind it but really your going to compare you terminating your pg to me loosing mine.  Ugh as is when the doc refers to my m/c as a missed abortion I want to kill her.
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  • Scout05Scout05 member

    It's not just friends, either. My first OB here - I am now seeing someone else in the practice - said "Oh, so you didn't have a m/c, technically you had an abortion. Okay, we'll call that the 'terminated pregnancy'." I just sat there staring at her, before the tears came. There is a small difference between ending a pregnancy because you don't want the baby, and ten doctors holding your hand and telling you your child is suffering and will never make it to term.

    My DH, who is the most calm and mild mannered guy you've ever met, seriously almost got violent. I was too busy sobbing my eyes out to say anything. WTH is WRONG with people?

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