Sick of the private board vs the PAL board crap

perfectpeach · October 2009

Seriously - maybe it's because it's 3am and I'm tired & but I'm so over the private board drama. Those girls wanted a more secure place to post so they found it......move on.......we love them and miss them and they are always welcome on PAL anytime, but PAL is not dead because certain posters are gone. And of course our board will have slow moments because WE HAVE BABIES who need our attention!

Okay, vent over.

MissionImpossible · October 2009

I know nothing about the VIP-PAL board, but this board is far from dead. Seems to be plenty of support, even in the wee hours.

bluedahlia · October 2009

I think part of the issue is that access to the private board is only found using this board. It can be discouraging for those trying to make this board a nice place of support when there are continual reminders that it isn't quite good enough. I don't see a solution though.

Mandy06 · October 2009

I think they all need to get off their high horses, personally. Last I checked we all were out of high school.

mrparsley07 · October 2009

I think you need to realize as well that some of us still post here and enjoy doing so. I post here as much as I can still and comments like this make me not want to at all.

Peach-thank you for what you wrote =]

confused25 · October 2009

Could not have said it better myself! The private board isn't for me, that doesn't mean that it doesn't have it place and that I think any less of the ladies that post there. I still love them and love to hear from them!!!!

lplassman · October 2009

Yea Jules! I hear you! I pink puffy heart you! xoxo

ammc · October 2009

I see where you are coming from and all but seriously posts like this just make me frown... why do you feel the need to actually dedicate a post to vent about the PB vs. PAL. I don't feel it is a competition at all. It is a choice that people make. I shared a lot of pregnancy and birth experiences with those PBoarders so in my opinion PAL isn't the same for me.

mrparsley07 · October 2009

ammc:
I see where you are coming from and all but seriously posts like this just make me frown... why do you feel the need to actually dedicate a post to vent about the PB vs. PAL. I don't feel it is a competition at all. It is a choice that people make. I shared a lot of pregnancy and birth experiences with those PBoarders so in my opinion PAL isn't the same for me.

I just love your DD's curls...she's a cutie.

perfectpeach · October 2009

ammc:
I see where you are coming from and all but seriously posts like this just make me frown... why do you feel the need to actually dedicate a post to vent about the PB vs. PAL. I don't feel it is a competition at all. It is a choice that people make. I shared a lot of pregnancy and birth experiences with those PBoarders so in my opinion PAL isn't the same for me.

Because to me, there is something exhausting and a bit grating about (almost once a day) reading a post about how our board isn't what it used to be just because a group of girls left to go to the PB - again, nothing against them, they needed a safer forum & found it, but I feel like our board needs to accept that and perhaps move on & quit mourning the loss of some previous frequent posters - we know where they are, so if you miss them, go hang out on the PB and those (like me) who just don't have the time to meet the PB quotas or manage both boards miss the girls, but life goes on....

perfectpeach · October 2009

lplassman:
Yea Jules! I hear you! I pink puffy heart you! xoxo

Thank you Lisa my love - I just needed to get it out

luckyangel · October 2009

I'm totally lurking from SAL but Peach-your photo is great and your little guy is gorgeous! Congrats again!

sharon2004 · October 2009

bluedahlia:
I think part of the issue is that access to the private board is only found using this board. It can be discouraging for those trying to make this board a nice place of support when there are continual reminders that it isn't quite good enough. I don't see a solution though.

I agree - that seems to be why it keeps coming up. I don't have a solution either, short of requesting that people stop posting about it. But then no one would know it exists or how to get access, and those of us on this board aren't trying for that.

Mrs.Mclstar48 · October 2009

Mandy06:

I think they all need to get off their high horses, personally. Last I checked we all were out of high school.

Really?? Reallly??? And you think this comment isn't high school?

Like Mrparsley said, remember that there are a lot of us who still come over here too.

Mrs.Mclstar48 · October 2009

sharon2004:

bluedahlia:
I think part of the issue is that access to the private board is only found using this board. It can be discouraging for those trying to make this board a nice place of support when there are continual reminders that it isn't quite good enough. I don't see a solution though.

I agree - that seems to be why it keeps coming up. I don't have a solution either, short of requesting that people stop posting about it. But then no one would know it exists or how to get access, and those of us on this board aren't trying for that.

this I completely understand. All the requests would get old to me if I were in your shoes too. However, it is not fair to displace this irritation with the PB requesters onto those who frequent the PB by calling us cliques, secret club, on our high horses, etc (Not saying that you specifically do, your response was tactful).

Mrs.Mclstar48 · October 2009

And thank you peach for what you said. You are one of the ones I make sure to come over an check up on! Your little Owen is just precious!

jenn_darrin1515 · October 2009

Well said! I do sometimes miss the girls I shared my ttc/pregnancy journey with...but as someone who just doesn't have time to keep up on a pb...I still love reading/posting here when I have a moment...

banbear2 · October 2009

"I think you need to realize as well that some of us still post here and enjoy doing so. I post here as much as I can still and comments like this make me not want to at all"

I totally agree with this.

KEF&ACF · October 2009

yahoooooo!!!!!

LOVE IT

perfectpeach · October 2009

Mrs.Mclstar48:
And thank you peach for what you said. You are one of the ones I make sure to come over an check up on! Your little Owen is just precious!

Bless your heart It's so good to see you back here Be sure to tell all the girls that they are missed.

Snugs99 · October 2009

When when when will these kind of posts end? Seriously....with all the posts people make about the private board.....you would meet the "required" amount of posts to stay active on the PB. FYI- Its like 10 posts a month- lots of people who are bitching about that make 10 posts a DAY here.

bear2115 · October 2009

Snugs99:
When when when will these kind of posts end? Seriously....with all the posts people make about the private board.....you would meet the "required" amount of posts to stay active on the PB. FYI- Its like 10 posts a month- lots of people who are bitching about that make 10 posts a DAY here.

This. I don't understand what is so hard about being on 2 boards if you want to. If you don't fine, but then don't complain. Seems easy to me.

perfectpeach · October 2009

bear2115:
Snugs99:
When when when will these kind of posts end? Seriously....with all the posts people make about the private board.....you would meet the "required" amount of posts to stay active on the PB. FYI- Its like 10 posts a month- lots of people who are bitching about that make 10 posts a DAY here.

This. I don't understand what is so hard about being on 2 boards if you want to. If you don't fine, but then don't complain. Seems easy to me.

I agree - which is the whole reason why I had to post my vent...

bear2115 · October 2009

perfectpeach:
bear2115:
Snugs99:
When when when will these kind of posts end? Seriously....with all the posts people make about the private board.....you would meet the "required" amount of posts to stay active on the PB. FYI- Its like 10 posts a month- lots of people who are bitching about that make 10 posts a DAY here.

This. I don't understand what is so hard about being on 2 boards if you want to. If you don't fine, but then don't complain. Seems easy to me.
I agree - which is the whole reason why I had to post my vent...

Peach, I think what you said was perfect. I wasn't "talking" to you! Your LO is super cute bye the way!

perfectpeach · October 2009

bear2115:
perfectpeach:
bear2115:
Snugs99:
When when when will these kind of posts end? Seriously....with all the posts people make about the private board.....you would meet the "required" amount of posts to stay active on the PB. FYI- Its like 10 posts a month- lots of people who are bitching about that make 10 posts a DAY here.

This. I don't understand what is so hard about being on 2 boards if you want to. If you don't fine, but then don't complain. Seems easy to me.
I agree - which is the whole reason why I had to post my vent...
Peach, I think what you said was perfect. I wasn't "talking" to you! Your LO is super cute bye the way!

Phew Believe me, I miss all the girls and maybe I didn't try hard enough to do both boards, since Owen was JUST born when the PB was started I was screwed and there was NO WAY I could do both, it was hard enough to just get to our regular board....however, now that he is approaching 3mo and doing a bit better with his colic, I'm been (personally) debating whether or not to give it another try - I did try at first but got deleted for not meeting posting requirements, so anyhow I'm rambling, ha! Nothing but love to ALL PAL girls - PB or not

Mrs.Mclstar48 · October 2009

perfectpeach:
bear2115:
perfectpeach:
bear2115:

Snugs99:
When when when will these kind of posts end? Seriously....with all the posts people make about the private board.....you would meet the "required" amount of posts to stay active on the PB. FYI- Its like 10 posts a month- lots of people who are bitching about that make 10 posts a DAY here.

This. I don't understand what is so hard about being on 2 boards if you want to. If you don't fine, but then don't complain. Seems easy to me.

I agree - which is the whole reason why I had to post my vent...

Peach, I think what you said was perfect. I wasn't "talking" to you! Your LO is super cute bye the way!

Phew Believe me, I miss all the girls and maybe I didn't try hard enough to do both boards, since Owen was JUST born when the PB was started I was screwed and there was NO WAY I could do both, it was hard enough to just get to our regular board....however, now that he is approaching 3mo and doing a bit better with his colic, I'm been (personally) debating whether or not to give it another try - I did try at first but got deleted for not meeting posting requirements, so anyhow I'm rambling, ha! Nothing but love to ALL PAL girls - PB or not

I really wish you would come back over. The "requirement" is only one post per month. Once you come back over, you will see why and see its not that big of a deal & the reasoning behind it will make complete sense.

I still make my way over here as much as possible but the posts you are venting about it what is keeping me (a lot of us actually) from frequenting here more often.

AmeriCanadian · October 2009

I'm not a frequent poster here by any means (look at my post count - ha!) but I've lurked on PL/SAL/PAL for literally years now and know all about the drama with PB vs. PAL (not that it should be a "vs." thing but whatever). I agree that if you choose not to be on the PB for whatever reason, then you shouldn't complain about its existence. However, when people are denied access to the PB without even being given a chance to contribute there, then it's hard not to view it as a clique. I know I'm not "known" to the girls over there and that's my own fault for not posting more often in the past. But it's just not true to say that everyone from PAL has the option to join the PB if they so desire.

MayBride2B2007 · October 2009

::waves at peachy and blows kisses at owen::

ChelM1216 · October 2009

Wow I feel so lost...I had no clue there was a PB...shows how much I frequent or pay attention at least. I miss a lot of the ladies here but just figured everyone is busy with babies.

snwfields · October 2009

Like someone above me wrote it is not a quota issue with some of us it is a denied access issue. How can you not view it as a clique or a cool kids club? I'm over it by now but it does suck to not be able to keep up with people that I went through everything with for 2+ years......that would be why I am rarely on here anymore because I feel like I don't know anyone here.

marinabride · October 2009

I just wanted to pop in and say hi snwfields. I remember you! I post but irregularly. I do light up when I see people I remember from way back!

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