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RSVP gripe

gryphonchildgryphonchild member
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Okay, so we're about a week from my friend's shower.  I've gotten a total of 5 rsvps out of almost 40 invites.  So i'm starting to plan for a smaller shower, budgeting for my food accordingly, etc. (I still bought enough favors for the un-rsvp'ed people just in case.) I've also been wondering if maybe the invites didn't get to people. 

So, i'm talking with the Mommy-to-be today and she tells me, "oh, btw, all of these people have responded to me, my husband, mom and mil.  did they rsvp to you?"  She then proceeds to rattle off over 10 people, none of whom rsvp'ed to me.  Needless to say, i asked her to check with the others who had gotten rsvp'ed to to get me a complete list, just in case.

My contact info is the only contact info on the invite.  It was never a surprise shower to begin with, but seriously????  Her mom, who is another issue altogether, didn't even rsvp to me.  she called the Mommy-to-be to rsvp and ask for my color scheme so she could coordinate a diaper cake to match.  and she's uncomfortable with me having her phone number to answer such questions.  Grrr... frustration. 

Thanks for letting me vent!

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  • green beangreen bean
    do you know or are you friends with the people that you invited or were they mostly friends and family of the mommy to be? mabey they were just more comfortable calling people they knew, totally not a acceptable answer but ,,, might be a answer, your friends mom seems super strange though,
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  • avblissavbliss member
    People are so weird! I realize that it can be a bit awkward calling someone you've never met to RSVP, but they are the host and you suck it up and call them.
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  • mrsmegs06mrsmegs06
    That's seriously annoying! 
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  • superauntsuperaunt member

    People are just idiots when it comes time to RSVPing.

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  • ncbuckeyegirlncbuckeyegirl member
    I just had this issue with my cousin's bridal shower. She invited 50 people and I asked for the RSVPs be in a week before the shower so I could plan food, favors, etc. accordingly. By the date I asked RSVPs to be in, I had 12 of 50! Then over the next week, same thing. She'd call and say "so and so is coming" and my aunt would tell my mom someone else was coming. By the day before the shower. RSVP had gone from 12 to 43 and NONE of those extra people had called me. I was so frustrated!! People are so inconsiderate it kills me!!!
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  • mrs_sherodmrs_sherod member
    My hostess had about 20 people to rsvp, but we had about 75 people at the baby shower.  Some people simply don't rsvp.  My dad prepared the food, so I told him to prepare for 100 people.  He did and we only had a little food left over which was great!
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  • mmitche0mmitche0 member
    I'm hosting a shower for my sis this weekend. Only one person rsvp'd. My sister called and gave me 25 names of the people that called her to say they were coming. I called them all back and asked why didn't they call me,especially since about10-15 of them know me personally
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  • ucdeidreucdeidre
    Just a tip for any hostesses out there -- people are much more likely to respond to RSVPs via email or online.  I'm not sure what it is about phone RSVPs, but a lot of guests just feel uncomfortable with having to call someone just to say yes or no to a party invite.  If possible, have your mama-to-be give you all of her guests email addresses.  That way, after the formal invitations have gone out, you can email any unresponsive guests.  Just let them know that due to food and supplies, you need a final head count.  If you haven't heard a "yes" from them by ____ date, then you are simply assuming they will not be coming.  I've had to do this before, and it works like a charm.  Firm and polite is the way to go.
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  • hopefulmomhopefulmom member

    How old are the guests she's inviting...8?  Sounds a bit immature to me.  Wonder how they deal out in the world without someone holding their hand.  I would think some of actually have jobs...but then, maybe they work for only people they "know". 

    Actually, as the hostess...it is your responsibility to call all of these people.  Personally, I think it would serve them right if there wasn't enough food.   When it is time to serve the food just make an announcement that all of those who RSVP'd to you can get their plate.  Then the others.  At least that way you know those that actually RSVP'd to you will get to eat.  The others...oh well if there isn't enough food it is their own fault.

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