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2nd Trimester
"Was it planned?"
So while we were TTC I read a few posts about folks asking the poster if the pregnancy was planned...I thought, "Who are these ignorant people with no filters? Do they understand that this isn't any of their business??".
Well, I have now been asked this by FOUR different people...seriously. And just to give you some backround, yes it was planned, we have been married for 2 years and dating for 5 before that, in our thirties, work full time, own a house, etc...I don't get it...Regardless of any of these things, it isn't anyone's business. Has anyone else gotten this question? What is your response?
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Re: "Was it planned?"
Yes, I get this question a lot...And my response is, Nope, but we're ecstatic.
That usually throws people off guard, but not enough that you seem rude.
And, the question doesn't bother me, but it does come across as extremely nosy.
Just no and they'll shut up!
LOL, well, ours was planned, it just happened about a year earlier than expected.
I don't get the "was it planned," I get the "did you get married because you were KU?"
Nope, oddly enough, Honeymoon babies DO exist. If not, why the f**k was I bleeding for 5 days before my wedding day, and worried I'd have a dress mishap?
I never know WHAT to say. Comebacks appreciated. TIA (haha).
So awesome. I will totally use that.
ROFLMAO..
Because we're having our second so close to our first, we get this question a lot. I tell them the truth.
Yes, we were wanting two kids close in age, but we were debating about when we would TTC again. And then we decided to roll the dice for one week, didn't think we were pg, and then got a big, pleasant surprise and we're very excited about it!
apparently pregnancy/conceiving is now a topic that you can say whatever you want.
I don't get it!
When people first found out that was always the first thing they asked.
I wanted to say "well we were having a lot of sex, so it was bound to happen"
but I just said "yes" and gave them the side eye
I was asked this yesterday for the first time by a patient at work. I wanted to karate chop her in the throat, but instead I politely said yes. Stupid!!!
No one's asked since I have been pregnant but before we had our first daughter the subject of kids would come up periodically. Especially with people who already had them.
We would somehow say something like "well we're going to have kids someday, we just don't know when it will be the right time."
Their response was usually "well are you trying?"
Which if you really think about it, your friends and relatives are asking "are you having sex?" "when you do have sex is it with protection?"
I don't think they meant to be so nosy--it's just funny that somehow pregnancy turns normally rude or inappropriate questions into the norm.
I feel the same as you. It's a personal question and certainly no ones business. If I ever get asked, I will certainly come out the bag w/something sarcastic. At this moment this is what comes to mind, "see what happens when you're fvcking for sport!".LOL
Everyone knew DD was planned because we lost 2 prior to her. So it wasn't a surprise when I got pregnant a 3rd time in a year w/ DD.
This time around though, holy crap. Because they're "irish twins" we have gotten a sh*t storm of ?'s about why we'd do this. I simply say "I got pregnant on the pill, this is clearly how things are supposed to be, we do not need any negativity" and people typically shut up. Then after silence ask what Pill I was taking LOL. (clearly praying it's not the pill they are on)