Do you suggest planning for two under 2?

jinnymb · October 2009

We haven't had our first one yet so everything could change, but we were planning on having our children fairly close together, with the first two, two under 2.

1.Do you find that it works for your family or would you suggest waiting longer?

2.How long do you recommend waiting to get pregnant again, if 2 under 2 works for you?

kgb1411 · October 2009

I don't have 2 under 2 yet, but when I was in your shoes, I asked everyone this question too. As I recall, I only listened to the answers I wanted to hear. We knew what we wanted to do

penguingrrl · October 2009

I'm very happy to have 2 under 2. It's what we always planned on and has worked out well for us despite some very crazy times! Our girls are 22 months apart and I've been happy with this. DD1 was fairly independent before DD2 came along, which made the transition much easier. I think having them too close together (16 months or less) would have been very difficult. We wanted this since my sister and I are 17 months apart and despite being very different people we're best friends.

MrsPreK · October 2009

Our #2 was semi-planned. I simply did not go back on BC after having DS and we both knew that I would eventually get again =D

I do not regret our decision at all. So far, it has been wonderful. It is trying, don'tget me wrong but we both love children and want several more!

If I had more help right now, I would not even hesitate to have #3 right now but it will have to wait a year for now.

GL!!

LauraandMatt · October 2009

Well I am not there yet (DD is coming Thursday) but we didn't plan to have them this close together at first...I wanted to wait until DS was 2.5ish, but when he turned 1, I got baby fever and we were pregnant right away.

There are definately pros and cons to waiting and not waiting, and every person is different. Mine will be 20 mos apart and I can't imagine them closer as I am not sure that I would have been able to handle it, but it works great for others. Good luck to you!!

mrsseguin · October 2009

We are planning for 2u2. I think it's either something you want, or something you don't want. I have friends that have done both, and both think each other is crazy for either having kids way too close, or way to far apart. For us we knew we wanted them closer, but we are totally on board with 2u2. I say go for it!

Mr.&MrsS · October 2009

We planned to have 2u2, they are 16.5 months apart. Life is hectic right now, but I am glad we did it. I wont lie, I am struggling...but that has more to do with the high maintenence newborn I have than the age difference. I dont think it would be easier for me if DS1 was 3, 5, or 10 because newborns are hard no matter what. We knew the first year or two would be hard, but after that I think it will be totally worth it.

JARbaby · October 2009

I did not plan for 2u2 and I can't imagine why anyone would plan to do it. It is amazing but so much harder than I ever expected. We wanted #1 to be 4 when #2 came along, that way she would be in school, have friends etc...

It is working out well but dealing with a mobile baby and a terrible two is enough to make me want to run away most days.

It is fun though, they are my heart and soul.

lisad40503 · October 2009

JARbaby:
I did not plan for 2u2 and I can't imagine why anyone would plan to do it. It is amazing but so much harder than I ever expected. We wanted #1 to be 4 when #2 came along, that way she would be in school, have friends etc...
It is working out well but dealing with a mobile baby and a terrible two is enough to make me want to run away most days.
It is fun though, they are my heart and soul.

I totally agree with JARbaby. My baby has been pretty easy (except for the awful teething!) but my very high energy toddler has made this extremely difficult. I think a 3 year age difference would be so much better for everyone. I'm sure they'll reach an age however where I'll be very glad that they are so close in age (although I'm already scared at the thought of having 2 teenage girls). I also agree that you are going to do what you want and what's right for your family. GL!

ka2005 · October 2009

We always knew we wanted them close together. Our plan was to get DD to 1yr and then all bets were off. When she turned 1 we were still happy with that plan and if all goes well, #2 will be 20 months younger. I would say we did have to do some financial planning/rearranging/evaluating. We can do this, but it means I still have to work full time (and budget budget budget). I had originally hoped to move to SAHM and could have if we waited longer for #2. But time is ticking!!!!

runnergirl79 · October 2009

1. I really like having my first two close together. It definitely has it's challenges, but I could tell when my daughter was around 17 months old that she was ready for a sibling (and I was ready for her to have a sibling). At that point, I was already pregnant with our second.

2. We started ttc our second when our daughter was 10 months old. For us, that's just when we were ready. It took 3 months (4 cycles) to get pregnant. I really like having 22 months in between their ages. So much so, that we're planning our next one to have a similar spacing.

GL!

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