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Were some days better than others?

Kristen0709Kristen0709
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I am really struggling coming to terms with the fact that I have to go back to work.  I desperately want to stay home but that just isn't in the cards for us right now.  I know that all of you working moms have talked about it being difficult but it's already so difficult and he's not even here!  My poor DH, I called him crying and he didn't know what to say, I don't want to make him feel bad but it's really difficult for me today for some reason.  I know that Braxton be fine and it's me that needs to get over it but that's easier said than done.  Please tell me this will get easier.  I have had good days and bad days but I'm not having so many good days anymore when it comes to this.  What helped you get past this?
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  • balihaigirlbalihaigirl member

    Honestly, I still have a hard time leaving my son every morning.  I went back to work when he was 8 weeks old and I still wish that I could be home with him.  But, you do what you've got to do.  I have to work & so I've just learned to accept that.  The first few weeks were HARD - I cried every morning, through my lunch hour, when I put him to bed.  All the time.  I haven't cried since.  I hate leaving him but I have just learned to cherish every minute I have with him.  Once you get back into the swing of things everything just becomes routine & it won't make you as sad anymore. 

    But, you still have time before your baby gets here and time with your baby for your maternity leave.  Don't stress yourself out about this yet!  You still have so many wonderful & exciting things to look forward to.  Being a working mom is hard, but you will have a wonderful baby that will be SO HAPPY when you go to pick him up every night.  I promise.  I look forward to my son's hands reaching out for me more than anything! 

    Let me know if you need anything.

    ((Hugs))

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  • brads_divabrads_diva

    I'm so sorry.  It helped me to stop by at lunch time if that's a possibility for you.  It really does get better with time. 

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  • flymansWifeflymansWife
    i've been wondering about this too... one of the main reasons we haven't started TTC is that i just can't come to terms with the fact that i'd have to go back to work at 8 weeks (and DH would probably get to stay home). i hope other moms chime in with more words of encouragement!
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  • bobcatstephbobcatsteph member
    I had to go back at 6 weeks and, in my case, dreading going back was worse than actually doing it. I cried a lot about it before I went back and I cried in the car after I dropped her off the first time...and that was it. I haven't cried since. I knew I was not going to be able to SAH before we started TTC and I had to make peace with it. DD loves her teachers and interacting with the other babies.
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  • CollieJadeCollieJade
    Oh, I'm so sorry love! :(  I wish I knew what to say to make it all better or to make it work out for you.  I may be overstepping my bounds here, but I honestly think (from what I know of you and your personality) that in the long run you will prefer to be working at least a little bit.  I could be TOTALLY wrong, though.  I know it's hard imagining how you are going to feel once he's here.  I will say, though, that I am really glad I have at least enough work to keep me busy on a PT basis; I'm already looking forward to the day I get to go do my business and not be at home 24-7. i think you may be the same.  At any rate, Ido think you and T will find a way to strike a balance that works for all of you. you'll find you can sacrifice things you didn't think you would want to, because your priorities change.  It will work out. I promise. Right Hug
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  • lilrunnerlilrunner

    One of my BFFs is a working mom, and she wouldn't have it any other way.  I remember her being sad when it was time to go back, but now that's she's actually back, she loves it.  I seriously doubt she would have it any other way. 

    Positives about working away from home:  (a) There is something to be said for having adult time.  (b) You have a reason to get dressed and look nice every day.  (c) You appreciate every moment you spend with your DC - not saying SAHMs don't, but I definitely appreciate her more when I've been away from her for a couple of hours (I SAH, so that's just my experience sometimes). 

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