Seriously. I canNOT freaking take it anymore.

mamarazzi · September 2009

The kid HAS to sleep. He has to. I'm so freaking tired of holding him while he dozes. And lately that hasn't even been enough. He's been up for at least an hour each night for the past week and won't go back to sleep unless we bounce/walk/sway him. It's like having a newborn all over again.

He needs his sleep and I NEED him to take a nap and sleep at night. I'd like to maybe cuddle with my H at night or take an effing shower during the day without the baby losing his sh!t.

We've tried the Sleep Lady Shuffle to no avail. It worked for like a minute and then he was right back to needing to be held all.the.time. I'm trying CIO right now and it's breaking my heart, but something has to give. The kid will be dead asleep and the second he feels his body hit a mattress, he starts screaming and no amount of stroking, shooshing or patting will calm him down.

OMG.

DandelionMom · September 2009

Are all his GI issues controlled? I only ask b/c that sounds so much like J when she was a baby (before we knew about and fixed the GI problems).

panama389 · September 2009

How old is your baby? You didn't say.

sooosie · September 2009

I am sorry - I thought we had it rough with Max not really STTN or napping much, but it sounds like A is having more trouble. Do you have his mattress elevated? If the reflux isn't fully controlled, maybe that would help? I don't know, grasping at straws here but at this point I am not against CIO myself...

GL

DaiLyght · September 2009

mamarazzi:
The kid will be dead asleep and the second he feels his body hit a mattress, he starts screaming and no amount of stroking, shooshing or patting will calm him down.

Have you tried pre-heating the mattress? Lay a heating pad on the mattress for about 15 minutes before you lay him down. Move it first obviously! Going from a warm body to a cold mattress would piss me off too!

joseysbride · September 2009

We went through that exact thing with Rory when she was around 9 months. I have no advice, just sympathy.

becoming_untied · September 2009

I don't know how old he is or any back story, but the first thing I thought of....does he have an ear infection?

My DD had one and I didnt' even know until I took her in for something else. She had ZERO other signs except I couldn't lay her down to sleep. It would take her forever to fall asleep and then she wouldn't stay asleep.

I hope you find the answer soon for both or your sakes!!!

mamarazzi · September 2009

He's 9 months. Dande -- he's doing really well health-wise. I can't even remember the last time he spit up and he's having completely normal bowel movements. What other symptoms did your DD have? Perhaps I'm missing something? I do really think that it's just that he's been so used to sleeping on/with us that he's a bit "spoiled" (I know you can't really spoil a baby, but I think he's just gotten in the habit of being near another warm body and doesn't like to sleep any other way).

FWIW, I finally got him to sleep. In his crib. Without a swaddle. Thank God for small miracles.

lilpiglet · September 2009

Does he have an ear infection??? When Mason was little and did that it was because he had an ear infection.. something about laying flat and how the drainage or something the pedi said...

We also had issues with laying him down before we discovered he had reflux...

my first guess right now though being that it sounds like this is something new is that he might have an ear infection...

minnasmommy · September 2009

you are describing how S was! I know the feelings--you're so tired that your eyes burn!! It will get better! promise!

Angela814 · September 2009

Have you been co-sleeping and want to stop?

DD still sleeps with us. She sleeps great that way, just scoots closer to one of us if she wakes up and goes right back to sleep. I'm hoping that at some point she will grow out of it.

She actually takes great naps at daycare on her cot, so I know she can sleep alone. Well, even then the rest of the kids are all sleeping in the same room so she's not truly alone.

mamarazzi · September 2009

Angela814:

Have you been co-sleeping and want to stop?

DD still sleeps with us. She sleeps great that way, just scoots closer to one of us if she wakes up and goes right back to sleep. I'm hoping that at some point she will grow out of it.

She actually takes great naps at daycare on her cot, so I know she can sleep alone. Well, even then the rest of the kids are all sleeping in the same room so she's not truly alone.

We never really wanted to co-sleep, (as in bed-share. We co-slept with DS1 in our room, but in a co-sleeper attached to the bed and planned to do the same with DS2). We just sort of fell into it. He has multiple food allergies and he was so uncomfortable and fussy before we discovered them that he needed the extra soothing 'round-the-clock. I wouldn't mind co-sleeping part of the night, but H and I both want some time in our bed to ourselves and DS would get much better naps if he slept in his bed. Having him sleep on me while his noisy brother runs around and plays right next to him isn't exactly quality sleep.

AnnapolisLari · September 2009

DD was doing the same thing. Dead to the world, and screaming the minute I laid her in the crib.

I finally just let her CIO for naps. I went in every 5-10 min, but it didn't take long. Now I can put her down completely awake, and she'll put her head down and go to sleep.

Bedtime is a different story. She is still cosleeping and won't go down without me. Gonna have to do something about that.

Angela814 · September 2009

mamarazzi:
Angela814:

Have you been co-sleeping and want to stop?

DD still sleeps with us. She sleeps great that way, just scoots closer to one of us if she wakes up and goes right back to sleep. I'm hoping that at some point she will grow out of it.

She actually takes great naps at daycare on her cot, so I know she can sleep alone. Well, even then the rest of the kids are all sleeping in the same room so she's not truly alone.

We never really wanted to co-sleep, (as in bed-share. We co-slept with DS1 in our room, but in a co-sleeper attached to the bed and planned to do the same with DS2). We just sort of fell into it. He has multiple food allergies and he was so uncomfortable and fussy before we discovered them that he needed the extra soothing 'round-the-clock. I wouldn't mind co-sleeping part of the night, but H and I both want some time in our bed to ourselves and DS would get much better naps if he slept in his bed. Having him sleep on me while his noisy brother runs around and plays right next to him isn't exactly quality sleep.

I hear you. I never planned to have DD in our bed either, but somehow that's exactly what happened. So far I've chosen to get good sleep with DD in our bed instead of having that extra time with DH. He probably wouldn't like me much if I was cranky and overtired anyway. I have no idea what we're going to do when we have #2.

A-baybride · September 2009

You're describing DD's whole first year - ugh. Have you tried letting him sleep on his stomach? That finally gave me the ability to be able to put her down *some* of the time - didn't always work, but it was a huge improvement. The frequent waking and needing to be walked/bounced/rocked didn't improve until I broke down and did some sleep training when she was a year. I was so against it, and part of me still hates myself for doing it, yet another part kicks myself for not doing it way sooner than I did. A human being can only exist on that little sleep for so long before completely losing it. That year did a lot of damage to our marriage that we may never completely recover from.

Hope it gets better for you soon!

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