Why do men think it's okay to let babies CIO?

chucknorris11 · September 2009

Because it's so NOT at her age and I have told him that a million times. I am glad he's trying to help, but seriously? Go to work. I can handle it. If she's crying, she needs something and you need to pay attention to her.

::Sigh:: So much for "I'll take her, you go take a shower"

Vent over.

July_2009 · September 2009

Because they are dense. Sorry for the generalization, my DH pissed me off today.

MrsWanee · September 2009

my dh does the same thing

Jimsgirl5821 · September 2009

I know...I went through the same thing. Finally, DH happened to come with me to her doctor appointment and I asked about CIO and he said not til about 3 mos. I think after hearing someone else say it, it sinks in. But I felt the same, he would let me go work out and I'd be in the basement hearing her cry the whole time and I felt bad...

katie_cj · September 2009

Honestly, I think a lot of it is because they listen to others for advice. I know a lot of old school thinking is all about CIO.

Whereas, we tend to read and research more about it. In all honesty, I didn't know the reasons why CIO or sleep training isn't recommended before 6 months until I read about it on the bump. Then I went and did my own research and read about it.

If he's really hell bent on CIO, I would print out some articles against it and ask him to read it. IMO, 2 weeks old, is much, much too young to CIO.

srex_ee · September 2009

July_2009:
Because they are dense. Sorry for the generalization, my DH pissed me off today.

Hey, my DH is on my good side and I agree with you on that one..haha

sandyk51306 · September 2009

My DH and I had this same argument over and over when DD was around your LO's age. DH swore up and down that a co-worker's friend of a friend of a friend was able to get their 3 week old to sleep through the night using CIO. My gut kept telling me that it was unhealthy to let DD cry when she was that young, and I researched it and was finally able to convince him that it was NOT a good idea and that we would not be doing that for DD. He finally gave up on the idea. Hopefully your DH comes around soon!

IncubusChic619 · September 2009

FI ticks me off about this too. No matter how many times I tell him we ARE NOT letting her CIO at all. He thinks if his mom did it with him then our DD will be fine. Makes me want to smack him some times haha

katypresson · September 2009

I don't think CIO is ok either...but my DH once told me, "all babies have to CIO at some point. If he won't stop crying, and he's fed, clean, and tired...he'll eventually fall asleep".....uh NO! He needs to be comforted! He's still only 3 months old...as soon as I take him and start walking, soothing him, he stops crying and starts to fall asleep. GEEZE!

sam19 · September 2009

Because that was the way my husband was raised. He doesn't understand that a baby can't self soothe this early. He's of the mindset that she'll stop crying "eventually". Sorry buddy, I don't want to listen to my newborn daughter scream if I know I can calm her.

chrisna05 · September 2009

My husband is the same way. He says if she is fed, burped and her diaper has been changed, there is no reason for her to cry. I hate it and I end up picking her up myself.