Why the need for split boards?

epphd · September 2009

skoorbnibor:
epphd:
They were explaining that they felt like it was hard to get pg posts answered, not accusing anyone of deliberately ignoring them. We are ALL trying to express a need that has felt unmet - as I explained in a previous post, I was unaware that there are some new moms who feel that their posts aren't answered either. It's not just pg SAIFers who are expressing a concern.
We're all doing our best here - let's not get hypersensitive.
You know what, though, E? I am hypersensitive about it, myself. I go to TTTC, and post about the endless waiting for my next IVF and I get overwhelming support, and a nasty PM or 3. I post here, and TTTCers are upset that we 'abandoned' that board. I think WE all sometimes feel our posts aren't answered. I know I do, and I think most people here know me... It makes me feel sad and unpopular and insecure, but really, intellectually I know that it is more likely no one had answer, didn't have the time to reply, or didn't even have time to read... I think Efooey said it really well, we get out of it what we put in... Yes, there are friendships that grew from the board, but I also think that new friendships could come from others, if only they reached out, too...
I will say, I try to answer all pregnancy posts about late heartbeats, bleeding or diabetes, because that was my reality... but I don't respond if what I was going to say has been said, or if I have no intelligent answer. I try to answer any reflux or allergy baby questions, or sttn or making your own baby food questions... sort of like I answer PCOS, blocked tube, IUI and IVF questions on tttc, I answer about what I know best, you know?
But still, I am sad that some TTTCers are not feeling as if they want to join SAIF. I think we are a decent group, but there is a group that really seems to dislike us... I can't change that, although I would like to..

We're all a work in progress. I fully agree that WE - wherever WE are, ALL sometimes feel left out -whether that is on this board, TTTC/now Infertility, or even the tri-boards.

I also feel like for some sh!tty reason you have been picked on over there - I have NO idea why and it's LAME. I think (and hope) you are the exception to the rule and I hope the crappy PMing stops, period.

But anyway, it's not really about SAIF versus IF - let's try to address the needs on this board - not just the needs of the pg SAIFers but of the new moms and those TTC#2 also.

I really hope that by doing so we can keep our board intact but also be a "full service" board for the infertiles on the IF board.

LisaandBryan · September 2009

Coming in late but I don't really want a split board either. I love this board and usually get all my questions answered and try to answer questions as well. I admit that I don't answer too many pregnancy questions anymore (some if I have experience in that area) but honestly some of it is because I don't know/remember anymore! I never at all felt weird posting here pregnant and did a ton but there were a lot of girls who moved TTTC to here at the same time asme so maybe thats why.

I don't have time and can't be bothered to check a million boards and that's why I like it here . I come here and get everythig I need. the only other board I go on occasionally is preemies and mulitples.Plus, I feel like I "know" a lot of you. As for the TTTC'ers not "knowing" us just keep posting and I think you will get to know us and pretty soon your pregnancy questions will turn into parenting questions as well!

I have never even ventured onto the babies 0-6 boards at all...and never wanted to. Don't split this board!

Radler · September 2009

Oh no! I would HATE a PG after IF board, and a Parenting after IF board. You SAIF mommies are my role models. We were in the trenches together, dealing with doctors and adjusting meds and losing three clicks of Follistim when it squirted across the living room. (OK, maybe that only happened to me.) Seriously, though, I TRUST you because I remember you from the other side. I love reading the parenting posts because I know I can trust what you say, and I look forward to getting to that next step.

Similarly, anyone who comes from TTTC, even if I don't recognize the screen name, I feel a bond with them. Anyone who is TTC #2 and infertile, same deal. I don't see any posts going unanswered, but maybe it's the job of the now-pregnant ladies (or at least those of us who don't have kids yet and have more free time to post) to bridge the gap because we kind of have a foot in both worlds. I still read TTTC, I'm just posting over there less when I don't see SAIFW or when a question has already been adequately answered (don't see the point of adding a pg ticker to the end if I'm just going to echo what everyone else is saying, the last thing I want to do is hurt people). Seriously, I'm all for more community, less splitting. I'll answer every pg post if I have to!

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