Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: Truth or Dare Game (per request!)
OH, funny you should ask!!
That is also my answer to the truth question I posed to you!
That is probably one of the few things I will not, ever, no kidding do. (no judgement to those that enjoy such things).
Which is fine... DH says it's one step away from doin' a guy so it's not for him either.
To be perfectly honest, I would have chickened out too! I can dish it out, but I can't take it!
So truth: Biggest lie you have ever told you DH
Edit: anyone daring enough to take the dare? a "newbie" would probably work best...
I'm going to ask what someone asked earlier but wasn't answered.. Have you DTD or anything with a woman?
Intriguing....I'll play
Truth.
Hmmmm.... Home Depot parking lot, back of the Jeep? Shady.
do you get in on with your DH with the pugs in the same room?
If your DH was your "one and only" ignore this one! Was your DH your best "lay" ever?
Ditto. Though I'm kinda leaning towards posting something DD worthy on another board.
What famous man and famous woman would you do anything with?
Hmmm...we are very honest with each other but I have told him once or twice that I had an orgasm when I didn't - I just wasn't in the mood and wanted to be done
I've only slept with DH... so being with another man. But DH is amazing, and I am above and beyond sat-is-fied. Just curious more than anything. He has been with PLENTY, so I am honored that he's with me forever and that somehow validates that I am smokin'. Ha!
amazingly - he's my only lay. I think that's why I have absolutely no inhibitions with him. He thinks I am a freak
yes I have
one of my bff and I have would always say that if we tried it, it would be with eachother. So, one night, we went out and had lots of wine, and began talking about it. Well, we went back to her place, put on some porn, one thing led to another...
Yes.
Something else in common, Shan. interesting...
I think I'm also leaning towards you posting a DD worthy post! LOL
A truth to pass the time while you ponder though: during your TTC process, was there anyone you were TRULY pissed off at when you found out they were KU?
Megan Fox and Matthew McConeghay (sp)
OOOHHH, let's team up on the DD post together!
Giselle "Brady" Who wants to be preg. while she is!!??
Honestly, no one IRL. There are a few people I know that are KU that aren't in the "ideal" situation for themself, but it just makes me thankful that DH and I have all our ducks in a row!
*hugs* we really are twins!
Nice, yea Megan Fox does it for me... lol
Any one in DH family that you really, truly don't like?
Anyone can answer this one..
what is one thing (toy,role play,position,etc) that you really want to try but are too scared/embarrased to tell DH?
Oh bust. It just ended with Matthew McCaughlsljfdaksjdfskdfjbj.
I really cannot stand the man. ESP his Texas twang and arrogance. Ugh.
I'll let it slide though.
How old were you when you lost your virginity?
Hmm...I'm thinking that's parents over the age of 35 (parenting over 35 board) are too old
OR
breastfeeding (breastfeeding board) in public is disgusting and should be illegal
Honestly, nothin'! We're very open to talking about things, and are up for anything (except my previous truth response).
Yes.. I absolutely cannot stand his cousin and his wife
lol
How about the AP board? They seem to be a testy bunch.
umm.. this is hard to answer, but I'll be truthful. I was 5 when I was raped (don't worry, its ok
, ) and I was 15 when I lost it technically :P
To have someone else watching us have sex, like a video online or something...
Nice. The AP board gets angry easily too. As long as no one on THIS board will get offended by anything. (since some post on other boards) I'm down for whatever!
I'm so sorry to read this. I'm glad it is "ok" though.
Thanks for being so honest!
Nothing really.. there is one thing I wanna do more than anything, but DH isn't interested in the least bit, so I try not to talk about it with him lol. I wanna do a 3 sum
lol sorry!! but he can bring me breakfast in bed anyday!
OK ladies... I am hittin the road in a few to go home. Will be back online while I wait for DH to pick my up for the bday date.
We MUST have a dare executed, or this will be a "truth or truth" afternoon...
C'mon! Someone do a dare....?
Lots of fun though! Great way to pass time, thanks everyone.
Damn, I feel like a total tool now. So Sorry!
Ooh me too Rls.. I thought about that too before, and wont tell him. I forgot about that XD