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Got a question, please no flames
So I had my big u/s yesterday and found out it was a boy. I was hoping for a girl, this is my last pregnancy and now I know I'll never get to have a daughter and it makes me so sad. I cry every time I think about it. How do I get over that? I want to be happy I'm having another little boy. How has anyone else dealt with gender disappointment? I know this wouldn't bother me at all if I were having (or could even have) more children but my husband is now fixed.
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Re: Got a question, please no flames
I wish I had advice for you. I know how upset I would be if I never had the chance to have a daughter. I would think once your little baby is here things might get better.
GL!
I would just let yourself go through your range of emotions.
And know that you will love this baby 100%
I think I would feel like this too. I know it is silly and we should be happy that we have healthy babies but I know what you mean. I always wanted a boy first then a girl. In my crazy mind our boy would take care of his little sister. Everyone thought we were having a boy and the ultrasound came back girl. Now I always wanted a girl too but I was a little sad. Once I started shopping for her I felt better. I am pretty girly so I am excited now. I don't know how to tell you to get over it though. It just kind of happened for me.
i was 200% sure i was having a boy and wanted to tell the tech she was wrong when she said girl. i called hubby and he said he was disappointed(like i creat boys). i cried!! but it lasted only that afternoon. been excieted since then. every child is different, i am sure the excietment would set in soon.
This.
Soon, you will get to the point of understanding that it is a boy and you'll forget you ever wanted a girl. Just think of all the fun the brothers will have growing up together. Boys are so much fun! It'll be great. And soon, you'll be able to really understand that. The emotions you are feeling now aren't all that bad, you just need to be real with yourself and the joy will come after you resolve your disappointment.?
awe... I'm sorry you're sad. But don't be...Once you see a healthy baby in your arms I'm sure you're not gonna be thinking, "man, wish you were a girl!" ..guess you'll just have to live vicariously through a family member or friend!
We find out monday what the sex is. I just have a feeling it's a boy, and think I might be a little "awe" if it's a girl. And I think I suck for that. If that makes you feel any better...
I am going through exactly the same thing--
This is our last child. While we were hoping for a girl we are blessed with another boy. I know that I wont get to shop for little dresses and have the make up and hair partys that I did when I was younger and that disheartens me some.
I dont think there's any way to get over it- until he's here. I hope that my sister or BIL's have little girls so I can be the awesome aunt to spoil them and do with them what I dreamed to do with a daughter.
and like someone else said you almost never hear of a boy hating his momma. thats the girls that go through that phase.
If you feel like you need someone to talk to thats going through the same thing lemme know- I understand where you are coming from!
Thanks ladies, I hate feeling this way. It's like I'm betraying my baby. My son is super happy he's got a brother on the way.... maybe I'll talk to him about why he's happy.... that could cheer me up.
I know I'll love this little boy, he's my fate baby.
Just chiming in to say I can understand. This is my last pregnancy and I really would love to have a girl. I feel like this one is a girl. I feel like it's part of my destiny to have a girl and share my knowledge about the world with her. I also feel like I am supposed to have a girl so I can right some of the wrongs my own mom has made along the way and so I can be the best girl mom imaginable and make up for that somehow. So, you can imagine that if the u/s tech says "it's a boy" I will feel some loss. It's okay.
You're not crying because you're having a boy, you're crying for the girl you know you won't have. Of course you'll love your little man.
Just give yourself some time.
I love that you call him your fate baby.
Thank you
I know I would be disappointed if I never got the experience of having a daughter. I think it's okay to let yourself feel that sadness--it doesn't mean you're not going to adore your son (congrats, btw!), it just means you're coming to terms with not parenting a girl.
THIS! Although we really wanted a girl! but i felt the same way as you.
You just have to go through the motions and let your emotions play out, Im sure once you start to come to the realization your having another boy im sure you will be happy as can be!
Brothers have a very Special bond! it will be amazing! once day at a time is all you can do!
There are multiple things that previous posters have said that I read and said, "Yeah!! I totally agree!"
I was a little disappointed when I found out this baby was a boy as well. So I know how you feel. I'm trying to focus on how close my boys will be and how much fun brothers have along with thinking of the female teenage drama that I will not have to deal with.
I guess one of the main things that I am very sad about missing out on is after the babies are grown and married, having an adult mother-daughter relationship. I know that daughters tend to have more roots at home then sons. They seem to follow the lead of their wife more. I just hope that my future DILs like me and want to visit often! I'm hellbent on making mama's boys out of my sons! lol
I'm sorry that you didn't get the gender that you wanted. Like others have said, once that little boy is here and you see his little personality shining through you will not be able to imagine life without him.
It takes time to get over but you'll get there! BELIVE ME. I have 2 little boys and thought this was a boy too. Just get those feelings out and dont let anyone tell you different. Besides, boys loooooooooove their moms!!!