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2nd Trimester
Sharing a Baby Shower
So there are two other pregnant girls at the clinic I work at. One is due in November, I am due in February and I have no idea when the other one is due, I just know sometime in May or June. So one of the upper managment people come up to me this morning asking me when I find out what the gender of my baby is. No big deal, I told her the beginning of October and the she is like.. Well I was think about having yours and Brandi's (the girl who is due in November) baby shower together in the middle of October. I was kinda bummed.. Happy that they are throwing me one but why do I have to share with someone who is freakin' due in November..I am not even cute yet!! You can barely tell that I am pregnant, while you can definitely tell she is. I don't know maybe my hormones are getting the best of me and I am just being a selfish brat. What would you think about this?
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Re: Sharing a Baby Shower
I think its very generous of your co-workers to throw a shower for you and you're being very selfish. Maybe they don't want to have to throw 3 showers. If you're that offended, decline. I'm sure they won't be heartbroken that they won't have to spend money on a gift.
Apparently you haven't heard that showers aren't a right and the world doesn't revolve around you even if you are pregnant.
I will apologize for the person above that wrote this, because we all have our moments when we want it to be just about us. Believe I understand what your feeling because I am pregnant with my sister and my niece. And my oldest sister that lives 3 hrs away mentioned me and my sister sharing a baby shower and I said no this is my first child and I want my own shower. I didn't mention that she isn't the host of either of our showers, so I told her to deal with it she can drive to both if she wants to come. If your getting another shower from your family or your friends I wouldn't stress too much about sharing one at work. We all have hormones and we should be nicer to each other on this board. There are tactful ways of saying things.
Personally, I think it's nice that they're giving you a shower at all! Being that it's a WORK shower, not a big family and friends shower, I wouldn't have a problem with it at all. Now if it's your first child and your family and friends' shower is being made into a shared shower, I would protest unless it's something that I really wanted. That is very special, and at that point I think it should be all about the one mother-to-be. I'm sure if the 3rd co-worker was going to find out the gender of her baby (or was on the green team and past that first 'iffy' trimester) that she would be included in your shower as well. With the economy being what it is... showers are expensive to throw... food, cake, decorations, etc, etc... I can't blame them for wanting to consolidate where they can!
No, it's not going to be all about you, no you might not have a cute belly, but I'm sure it's not going to be the only shower that you get. You'll have another, much bigger and much more personal shower when you're nice and big and cute!
I'm sorry, you're apologizing for another poster? lol
Nobody has to throw you a shower at all, and you should be grateful you're getting one regardless of who you have to "share" your precious day with.
FYI - This has nothing to do with my "hormones". tia.
Evelyn (3.24.10), Graham (5.30.13) & Miles (8.28.16)
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MHO... I think that its wonderful that your job is even considering throwing you a shower. Be grateful for that, because not all places give a crap about their employees. I'm sorry that you aren't able to share this time with your family let alone your mom because you live so far away. I don't have my mom so this entire experience is very emotional for me not having her around to share it with, so I feel your pain on that one. I agree with some people that you don't even have to be given a shower, it's just usually the normal thing to do and so most women get them. In saying that, since most women get them the day usually is about them and who doesn't love a party that is for them? I personally would be a little bummed and disappointed too but on the other hand I would just suck it up and go. At least there are people around you who want to celebrate the big day with you regardless. Besides, I would be happy that there is another woman that you could share this wonderful time with. None of my friends are pregnant yet or even have kids and I feel soo lonely being the only and first one. Just as long as the other woman doesn't take all the spotlight and shoves you in a corner, I'm sure the day will be wonderful!?
I'm sorry that you will have to miss that experience. I believe everyone deserves to have their special day. I am a very sentimental person and I would feel the same way in your shoes. Enjoy your pregnancy!
I'm sorry that you're far away from your family and that you feel you're missing out on some mother/daughter bonding. Really - I think it would be hard to go through this sometimes without the support of good family and friends. But I don't really see what missing mother/daughter bonding has to do with your work shower.
Also - if you don't want honest answers, you probably shouldn't post a question on a public message board asking strangers for their opinions.