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Anyone else going to have a no touching policy for the baby with strangers?
Me and DH have decided that we'll pass our baby around like a joint with family and close friends (but we will request people wash their hands first), but we will not allow strangers to grab at her outside the home. The rule is, if I don't know your first name, no touchee.
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Re: Anyone else going to have a no touching policy for the baby with strangers?
lol. Great rule. We plan on doing the same.
I haven't really thought about it, but i guess with flu season upon us it's probably a good idea!
I think i'm going to go a little further if i don't know your surname no touchee either!
Good Luck with that! While I'd prefer to have it be that way with us too, I just know there are those people (the same who just come up and touch the belly) who just don't see why some people will have a problem with it.
I'm just going to look at it as building up my kids immune system.
I despise random touch, personally. For example: when I am in a restaurant and the waitress puts her hand on my shoulder while she asks if I need anything.....I HATE that.
I am with you. No strangers touching my baby, please!
We're going a step further... people that will be around Charlie for extended periods of time during his first year will have to get their tetanus - pertussis vaccines updated, as per my doc's suggestion.
I have also stocked up on anti-bac soaps and wipes for the house. Having a newborn in winter is some scary $h!t!!
I couldn't think of anything else that people pass around. I guess I could have said Paris Hilton's herpies.
I'm not sure how you will prevent it. Swat their hands away?
I think its a nice goal, but it will create some pretty awkward situations (I would think).
Yes! And church people are the WORST!
JUST because you go to church does not mean you are germ free. You are still a stranger to me.
LOL!!
I wonder this. I have NEVER EVER had anyone ever attempt to touch either of my kids when they were babies. People look and that is fine with me, but no one has ever tried to touch.
{Ava 5.16.06} {Ella 12.29.07} {Drew 2.9.10}
OMG even better hahahahahhaha
Ah, see I'm going to wear her in a sling out in public and to be honest I give a mean glare. DH seems to attract people, I deter them. I've got a whole Wednesday Adams thing going on.
I'm with you. No baby touching, no belly touchng.
i will swat their hands away.
Yup! Sounds good to me!
Nope. I mean, I won't hand him off to every nutcase on the street, but I don't plan on being overprotective.
Kids need to be exposed to dirt, germs, etc. Once he's out of the newborn stage, I have no problems letting people hold him.
Due to the swine flu mania, stroller signs like these have seen an increase in sales. I feel bad though, because the strangers that usually come up to touch the baby are lonely or elderly. I'll seem like a prissy mom but you just can't let anyone touch your baby. Especially since mine will be born during FLU season.
she's NOT getting passed around to my family and friends either. i'm waiting till she gets her first set of shots and everything seems to be going well before we start welcoming visitors.
it's going to be january and i don't want well-intentioned germy people popping by to spread their viruses.
During the first 6 weeks, I'm not planing to take the baby out of our house exept for doctor appointments - no reason to in Jan/early-Feb in NY. Anyone who comes to visit must wash their hands or use Purell before touching the LO. And if you are sick, no visit. I don't care if people think I am mean or nuts. I know someone whose infant died of RSV and we intend to do everything we can to prevent. Once we do go out, I'm hoping my death glare will keep people from touching.
big brothers 12.2009 and 02.2012
I know- this freaks me out too.
I don't even want to bring the baby to work to "show him off" afterward b/c I know all the women around here will want to touch/hold him.
I agree with this. Plus if the baby is born at the end of Feb and we don't really venture out until 4-6 weeks later it will be spring and hopefully flu season is over. I'm not going to hand my child to strangers but I'll def let all my friends/family hold him/her or kiss him/her.
No one is touching the baby unless you get the ok from mom and dad! And that means going through a huge thing of washing hands..etc. I dont care if your family or not.
And even if I know you, I am still going to Purell your hands before you touch him either. People laughed at me for this with my first baby but 'my baby, my rules'. Strangers can look from a distance but they shouldn't try to touch--IMO. I did find that some old ladies are hard to stop so you have to keep your eyes on them if you are out in public.
LOL
I was really strict about this with DS b/c he was 4 weeks early and I was terrified he would get sick. I basically only let immed. family hold him for a long time -- like months. When we finally started going out after 6-8 weeks, I had him either in a sling or in his car seat carrier. That was probably the most effective for keeping people away. I did bring him to a hospital where his cousin was being born at 10 weeks, but I didn't let anyone touch him.
I was REALLY paranoid about germs. Now that he's a toddler, I am fighting a losing battle. His hands are on EVERYTHING.
This but stricter. Hubby and I have pretty much a no visit policy towards extended family and a restricted visit policy for immediate (especially our brothers, sisters and nephews--all but 1 are school aged and day care aged so massive amts of germs--ranging from age 10-26 for our sibs and 1 and 2 for nephews) Our parents (baby's grandparents) are different IMO, they can come and spend hrs here (if I know they are coming and am up for it) but until about 8wks this is our rule.
I was the baby with RSV hospitalized. Obviously I made it but my poor mom had to go through that and I sure don't want to. After 8wks or so, we will have a 'meet the baby' and baptism reception for extended family but a sniffle and they don't get to hold baby (I won't kick anyone out unless they are really sick)...This is when visitation becomes okay with hubby and myself. I agree babies need to be exposed to build up immunities but hubby will bring plenty home with him from work to begin and I'd rather go slow and cautious than plunge them into the world at large at 6-8wks...
It drives me nuts that random strangers think it's OK to grab at babies. If I see a particularly cute baby in a store or something, I always put my hands behind my back, just so the stranger-momma knows that I'm not going to be all touchy when I say hi. I figure there's too many grabby crazies out there, I don't need to be one. The mothers usually look so relieved.
I tend to hibernate in the winter months, so me and baby likely won't have too much to do in the way of strangers until march-ish anyway. I only go out if absolutely necessary. Anyone who comes to visit I obviously know well enough to be more than welcome to hold my little barfbucket.