2nd Trimester

lets talk cirumcision....

so my DH is from england where no one is circumcised....

in america everyone is cirumcised for the most part....

i never really thought about this before...

so....My Dh said he doesnt want the baby circumcised and i said this isnt worth the fight because i don't really have a preference eventhough i think he should be. MIL says you HAVE to circumcise the baby!!! and i said i agree and the discussion was over.

moral of the story...Baby is gettting circumcised..

What are all you mama's of boys doing??!!

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  • If we have a boy, he will be circumcised. Joint decision, plus DH is as well.
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  • I left it up to DH. I figure he's the one with the penis. Our son will be getting circ'd.
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  • Henry will be circumcised. 
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  • imagegoldenleaves:
    I left it up to DH. I figure he's the one with the penis. Our son will be getting circ'd.

    This (if we have a boy).?

  • We're not circumcising - DH & I are in total agreement. I would never, ever, run this decision by anyone else. I don't want to hear my MIL's opinion on it or anyone else's. It's none of their business.
  • I don't think we are going to (if we have a boy).

    IMO, "because that's what's normal" or "it's what most other people do" is not good logic. I definitely wouldn't make a decision based on my MIL's opinion.


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  • We really didn't even have a discussion...but our son will be circumcised.
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  • I did a little of my own "research" via the interwebs, but I mostly left it up to DH (who is circumcised).  We did get DS circumcised.  Why did you tell your DH you didn't have a preference if you did?  Has he come around to the idea?
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  • We decided against it.
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  • this is one of those kinds of decisions that are immensely personal from couple to couple. if we have a boy we would circ, which my H feels very strongly about.

     one thing about your story that i think is curious is that your DH is against it, but his mother is all for it? interesting.

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  • we are having a boy and he will be circ'd.
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  • Our son will be circumcised.
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  • We won't be circumcising.  As I've said before, we wouldn't circumcise a baby girl, so why is a baby boy any different?  Completely unnecessary IMO.
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  • Ugg...I hate this topic because it is the only thing dh and I don't agree on :(  He is circ'd and wants the baby to be as well.  I think that it should be left up to our son because it is his body.  I can see the pros and cons to both sides but I am still upset about it. 

    The circ rates are actually declining in the U.S. - only about 50-60% of boys are getting circ'd now.  Also, it depends on what area of the country you are from.  We are from the Midwest where there is a very high circ rate. 

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  • If we have a boy he will be circumcised. 
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  • While I would prefer to not do circumcision, I am letting the hubs make this decision and since he is Catholic, we will circumcis if it is a boy.
  • My son was circumsized. People are all in a tizzy over getting their son's circumsized. It's a personal choice whether to do it or not do it.

    I feel I made the best choice for my son, it reduces the chances for infection and it's one less thing to clean when changing a diaper, all the boys in the family are circumsized.

  • Nope...he will be left intact.

    My oldest is circ'd and I have had more issues with his penis than with my second, who is not. It is much easier to care for an uncirc'd penis, and it's not a needed procedure. I wish I wouldn't have gotten the oldest done in hindsight.

  • We haven't really discussed it; however, I have a friend who made an interesting point. She wants it to be mainly up to her husband to decide and they chose not to do it b/c they want their little boy to be the same as Daddy. (I guess to avoid questions/confusion as to why Daddy's penis looks different from the little boy's).

  • If it's a boy, he will be circumcised. We didnt have any discussion really, just something we both agreed on.
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  • becasue i didn't feel very passionate about it and he said i don't understand the point of it! to me it was just something that you do before the baby leaves the hospital i didnt think that much into it! i didnt want to argue and when his mom belted out that we should i just agreed with her...i normally dont welcome others opinions on these types of topics but she was so passionate about it! she changed his mind and that was end of discussion!

  • imageS2BMrsO:
    If we have a boy, he will be circumcised. Joint decision, plus DH is as well.

    This.

  • imagelilbit923:

    My son was circumsized. People are all in a tizzy over getting their son's circumsized. It's a personal choice whether to do it or not do it.

    I feel I made the best choice for my son, it reduces the chances for infection and it's one less thing to clean when changing a diaper, all the boys in the family are circumsized.

    I have no issues with those that circ (as I've said, one of my boys is), but there is no extra steps to cleaning a boy who is intact. You wipe it like you would wipe a finger, or an elbow. I actually have to be more diligent about cleaning my son who is circ'd. 

    Just thought I'd clear that up.

  • We circumcised D. 

    However, if you and your DH decide not to do it with your son - that is great, it is your decision as his parents.  Do not let your MIL tell you what to do with your child.

  • imageibis:
    . I would never, ever, run this decision by anyone else. I don't want to hear my MIL's opinion on it or anyone else's. It's none of their business.

    This I totally agree with! It was DH and my decision. Not anyone else's. We didn't ask family members' opinions.

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  • We're having a girl but DH and I had this discussion early in the pregnancy and decided if it was a boy, he would circumcised.

    Our big reason was that an uncircumcised penis is a lot of work to keep clean and if the boy is lazy he's going to have problems. My own brother had to have his foreskin "jerked back" by a doctor because he wasn't keeping it clean and it was starting to grow shut (he was in his teens). He really enjoyed the experience. My nephew had to have a circumcision done at the age of 3 because his foreskin would never full retract. My father and my uncle both had to have one done in there 50's because of various problems. I would just prefer to avoid all of that for a future son of mine.

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    I don't think we are going to (if we have a boy).

    IMO, "because that's what's normal" or "it's what most other people do" is not good logic. I definitely wouldn't make a decision based on my MIL's opinion.

    exactly! I think it is funny that we execpt genital mutilation to our baby boys but get in an uproar over the horrible female circumcision that goes on in some contries in Africa. It is the same thing! If my son choses to be circumcised later, it will be his choice, we are not going to take away a normal body part just because it is accepted as standard. Circumcision was not even popular in the US until Victorian period when people were prudish about sexuality and only did it to try to prevent boys from masturbating....which obviously did not work anyway. If you do not have an objection to masturbating or you are not doing it for religious reasons...why are you mutilating your little boys! check out this site: https://172.24.0.126/bluecoat/deny.cfm?category=Adult/Mature Content&link=www.udonet.com&bluecoat_ip=162.58.82.136&client=172.25.224.138
  • yeah i couldnt believe she was all for it! she said that she didnt know anything about it so she just left DH uncircumcised!
  • imagesarahmae8:
    While I would prefer to not do circumcision, I am letting the hubs make this decision and since he is Catholic, we will circumcis if it is a boy.

    What does Catholicism have to do with circumcision?  I'm not Catholic, but have lots of family and friends who are and have never heard this.  P.S. This is an honest question, not snark - I really had no idea.

  • I'm pretty much against it and DH is for it.  We both have good arguments and conflicting evidence.  I'm letting him have the final say. 
  • imagekieransgirl09:
    yeah i couldnt believe she was all for it! she said that she didnt know anything about it so she just left DH uncircumcised!

    So, just out of curiosity and nosiness, why is she all of a sudden so passionately for it in regards to your child?  It just seems strange to me...

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  • Personally I think it should be up to the male to decide.  My SO thinks we should circumcise so we are probably going to do that.  Even though my midwife and doctor don't recommend it.
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  • imageCBL:

    imagesarahmae8:
    While I would prefer to not do circumcision, I am letting the hubs make this decision and since he is Catholic, we will circumcis if it is a boy.

    What does Catholicism have to do with circumcision?  I'm not Catholic, but have lots of family and friends who are and have never heard this.  P.S. This is an honest question, not snark - I really had no idea.

    In the Old Testament a convenant was made with God that all of God's chosen people would be circumcised.

    That is why all Jews are circumcised.

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  • Our son will be circumcised, hubby was pretty adamant about it and I agree.

    A friend of ours needed to have a circumcision at age 36 and another friend's son needed to at 7, both due to infection issues. Poor kid, "Mommy, why are they going to cut off my penis..."

  • imageNikibug:
    exactly! I think it is funny that we execpt genital mutilation to our baby boys but get in an uproar over the horrible female circumcision that goes on in some contries in Africa. It is the same thing!

    Circumcision of male children and "female circumcision" are NOT.THE.SAME.

    To suggest otherwise shows a gross misunderstanding of what circumcision entails.  Comparison of the two is thoroughly disgusting and uninformed.

  • We're not doing it.  DH isn't and since he's the one wih the equipment I let him decide.  I don't really care either way.  I did stipulate that DH be the one that had to show him how to care for it and if there's ever any problems, DH is the one to handle it.  None of the men in DH's family are (it's some sort of tradition) and he's not aware of any problems so he's not worried.
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  • imageLittleMamaB:

    Nope...he will be left intact.

    My oldest is circ'd and I have had more issues with his penis than with my second, who is not. It is much easier to care for an uncirc'd penis, and it's not a needed procedure. I wish I wouldn't have gotten the oldest done in hindsight.

    If you don't mind my asking, what problems have you had with your oldest's penis?

     I would also like to add that the advice I was given on the topic was that the son should be the same as dad.  If Dad is circ'd LO should be as well if not, then LO should be left intact.  This makes sense to me.

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  • Circumcised. DH was dead set on it. It's the norm here so I'm just going with it, not a big issue for us. 
  • imageMrs.tlcS:

    imageNikibug:
    exactly! I think it is funny that we execpt genital mutilation to our baby boys but get in an uproar over the horrible female circumcision that goes on in some contries in Africa. It is the same thing!

    Circumcision of male children and "female circumcision" are NOT.THE.SAME.

    To suggest otherwise shows a gross misunderstanding of what circumcision entails.  Comparison of the two is thoroughly disgusting and uninformed.

    I'm not sure that I would agree with you.  It is a fact that many nerve endings that cause pleasure are being cut off.

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  • imagekieransgirl09:

    becasue i didn't feel very passionate about it and he said i don't understand the point of it! to me it was just something that you do before the baby leaves the hospital i didnt think that much into it! i didnt want to argue and when his mom belted out that we should i just agreed with her...i normally dont welcome others opinions on these types of topics but she was so passionate about it! she changed his mind and that was end of discussion!

    Not sure what the policies are at your hospital but you may want to check.  At my hospital they will not circumcise.  I guess because it is not a medically required procedure they no longer do it.  Apparently there are only a few docs in the area who still do it and you have to make an appointment and take the baby a week or so after birth.

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