hosting my own.....thoughts??

Brittany Nasn · September 2009

almost 23 weeks and too far away for family to through onefor me. i have brought up doing our registary and things like that ( not being obvious) to my friends. and none of them have offered to through me one. ( alittle sad cuz its our 1st and i love the games and everything about a baby shower + i would do one for them in a heart beat) though they are all excited to start buying for us....so my thought :

(out side) my husband wants to invite all of his guy friends and get a keg but in order to drink from it you need to bring dipers.

(inside) the girls all hang out and in there invites ask them to pick a babyshower game that they enjoy to play and brings it to the party. put all the games in a hat a draw what games we play when.

what are your thoughts....

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homebird · September 2009

Why spend money on food and supplies for your own shower when you can just use the money to buy baby stuff instead?

You could consider having a "meet the baby" party after the baby is born instead. It's a little less ... tacky than throwing your own baby shower.

Shell24 · September 2009

homebird:

You could consider having a "meet the baby" party after the baby is born instead. It's a little less ... tacky than throwing your own baby shower.

This. And it's a lot less tacky, not just a little.

whit022109 · September 2009

im sorry no one has offered to throw you a shower! but actually, i think throwing your own will come off as tacky. if you dont get one, you are better off having a "meet the baby" after LO is born.

kysses18 · September 2009

I dont think there is anything wrong with that. Celebrating the bundle is awesome and that actually is a good idea for the drinking think LOL. Its defenitly different and something you will remember.

I dont think its tacky either because if you dont have people that would throw one for you why not have the enjoyment of having one anyway? I think its a good idea. Good luck in whatever you decide.

ScissorTailedFlycatcher · September 2009

I don't think I can think of anything that is more tacky than throwing your own shower.

P.S. There is a specific board for this question.?

mooeta · September 2009

Throwing your own shower jsut looks like you are grubbing for gifts. I'm traveling 16 hours because we live that far away from family and they want to share this with us and have a shower. It's unfortunate that no friends have offered I do think a meet the baby is much more appropriate

caremore37 · September 2009

whit022109:
im sorry no one has offered to throw you a shower! but actually, i think throwing your own will come off as tacky. if you dont get one, you are better off having a "meet the baby" after LO is born.

I agree... every baby deserves to be celebrated, but throwing your own shower is like requesting gifts, IMO. I know you love the games and such, and it's so sad that no one has stepped up, but I wouldn't be comfortable at all doing it myself, and I would be put off by being invited to one put on by that person. My goodness, there was even a question as to whether my mom should host my bridal or my baby shower, as that might be a (albeit minor) breech of etiquette!!

Again, sorry, but that's my honest opinion...

cabinwife · September 2009

Having people excited to buy off our registry without having to prepare for/clean up after a party and/or listen to my grandmother call me fat 67 different ways for 2 hours sounds like an ideal situation to me, actually. I'd say go with the "meet the baby" post-birth get-together idea instead.

sunnybrook. · September 2009

Tacky, schmacky...who cares. I say go for it. Celebrate your baby. Twenty years from now, it may bother you if you never had a shower. It will not bother you that you had one and had to throw it yourself. I never had a bachelorette party b/c my MOH and BMs sucked. It still bothers me and I wish I had just thrown it myself. GL!

JaysonandKristin · September 2009

sunnybrook.:
Tacky, schmacky...who cares. I say go for it. Celebrate your baby. Twenty years from now, it may bother you if you never had a shower. It will not bother you that you had one and had to throw it yourself. I never had a bachelorette party b/c my MOH and BMs sucked. It still bothers me and I wish I had just thrown it myself. GL!

F'ing THANK YOU!! I am sick and tired of reading that women on here think that throwing your own shower is tacky. Who cares!?! Really?!? In twenty years, are you going to remember that some anonymous women on a chat board thought that you were tacky for throwing your own shower? If you have friends that are at different stages in their lives or are without much money of course their first reaction isn't, "OH! Let me throw you a shower!" And, it's been my experience with all parties that people who don't want to buy you things won't buy you things regardless of whether or not you throw your own shower.

I do agree with pp that said that a "Meet the Baby" party afterward allows for you to save money and spend it on the baby instead, but if money's not the issue, just throw your own!

Shell24 · September 2009

Leah&Jack:
I am having a hard time not marking up this post with my red teacher pen. Yikes!

Yeah, this too. It's worse than most.

JaysonandKristin · September 2009

Shell24:
Leah&Jack:
I am having a hard time not marking up this post with my red teacher pen. Yikes!
Yeah, this too. It's worse than most.

Agreed that the post is more tacky than the "throw your own shower" issue.

getnmarried910 · September 2009

I think throwing your own shower is tacky, but having a meet the baby party is a really great alternative. Because it's our third, we don't get a shower, but we're doing a meet the baby party because I HATE that DS's baby shower page is blank in his baby book. I think every baby should be celebrated. People don't need to bring anything-we have a boy and a girl so we have pretty much everything we need, but baby still deserves to be celebrated! I wish we'd thought of this for DS.

fiftysixty · September 2009

I have to admit, this bothers me a bit too. I live very far from family, and not even in the same country. It's extremely unlikely I will get a shower. Part of me wishes I could just throw one myself, but really... the people I want to attend couldn't come.

I'm not going to throw one, because it'd just make me feel pathetic. The baby isn't going to feel slighted in 20 years that it didn't get a shower- so why should I? Suck it up. And I'm going to tell the next person who demands we 'stop keeping it a secret' or 'go get another ultrasound' to give us the $300 for the ultrasound, and we'll talk to the midwife about it. (which won't happen. she doesn't want us to have an unnecessary one.)

mlf625 · September 2009

omg.

Um, no. ??

mrs.oz · September 2009

I really don't think I'm getting a shower. I would never host my own because my thinking is, if no one wants to throw me one, maybe the people I think are my friends really don't like me that much after all.

I'm getting ready to move in less than two months and none of my friends have offered. I'm a little upset that no one has offered since I've co-hosted 4 showers in the past year and a half. So I guess I'm going to take a hint that people just don't like me enough.

ncavitt · September 2009

NO WAY! Why don't you just ask one of your friends that is talking to you about this to host it for you. Tell her you'll even pitch in, but you don't want to host your own shower. Most of the time it's tacky to even put where you're registered on the invitation. People are going to get you a gift, but you don't want to ask for it. I think one of your friends would agree to host if you asked.

kimberleigh30 · September 2009

shortyred919:

I don't think I can think of anything that is more tacky than throwing your own shower.

Here Here!

homebird · September 2009

JaysonandKristin:
sunnybrook.:
Tacky, schmacky...who cares. I say go for it. Celebrate your baby. Twenty years from now, it may bother you if you never had a shower. It will not bother you that you had one and had to throw it yourself. I never had a bachelorette party b/c my MOH and BMs sucked. It still bothers me and I wish I had just thrown it myself. GL!

F'ing THANK YOU!! I am sick and tired of reading that women on here think that throwing your own shower is tacky. Who cares!?! Really?!? In twenty years, are you going to remember that some anonymous women on a chat board thought that you were tacky for throwing your own shower? If you have friends that are at different stages in their lives or are without much money of course their first reaction isn't, "OH! Let me throw you a shower!" And, it's been my experience with all parties that people who don't want to buy you things won't buy you things regardless of whether or not you throw your own shower.
I do agree with pp that said that a "Meet the Baby" party afterward allows for you to save money and spend it on the baby instead, but if money's not the issue, just throw your own!

The purpose of a baby shower is to give the mother-to-be gifts. So, if you're throwing your own shower, you are asking people to give you things (not celebrating the baby). THAT is why it is tacky. And yes, you shouldn't care what people on the internet think, but you should care that your friends and family will probably think you are being a bit greedy.

By all means, celebrate the baby! That's why I think having a "meet the baby" party is a fun idea. Just don't throw yourself a shower.

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