"The" Talk (C&P'd from Ctrl PA Board)

***C&P'd from the Ctrl PA board: 

This is the first time I'm talking about this openly...

 So, DH and I have been talking a lot lately about starting our family.  We're both really excited to have a baby - he's been ready since we got married - and we're both at really good points in our lives career wise and marriage wise.  I have a great job that I love (most days!) and with even greater benefits that will come in handy while pregnant/after baby is born.  DH is in the police academy (hopefully graduating Nov. 19th!) and with an excellent department that is more like a big family.  He is excelling in the Marine Corps Reserves as well.  We settled right into our house and love it - sliding glass doors, deck, and fence are all in and looking fab!  Our families are awesome - no pressure about grandkids, just all support.  So why the hesitation?

DH is set to deploy next year some time.  I think I mentioned this in an earlier post.  We were going to wait until he got back, but every month that passes, the deployment keeps getting pushed back further and further.  Right now, we're looking at the end of next year already before he leaves.  Two months ago, he was leaving in December of this year.  I certainly don't want to be a single mom, persay, for 8 months while he's in Afghanistan, however, I also don't want to keep putting off TTC until he gets back.  If the deployment keeps getting pushed back, I could be waiting forever to start our family.  If he does leave next year, he would most likely miss the birth, and would certainly miss all the "firsts."  I'm scared to go through it without him - he's my best friend and I would hate for him to miss all that.  My mom already said if it happens, she'd be out every weekend and would take 2-3 weeks off work to move in with me after baby is born.  My SIL is currently living with DH and I until she gets the bar exam results & finds a job, and she said she would stay and help out til he got back too.  I can't stop thinking about starting to TTC, and I've already met with my family dr to catch up on vaccines pre-TTC, and I see the OB/GYN next week to discuss going off the pill and starting this roller coaster ride.  I cut out caffeine already, I'm taking a pre-natal and have been for 3 months now, I've changed my diet, started losing weight to lower my BMI a bit, and of course, I've started reading everything I can about TTC. lol

This was more of saying it all out in the open than really looking for advice, but any thoughts would be much appreciated!   Thanks girls!!!