Community› The Bump Message Boards› High-Risk Pregnancy
High-Risk Pregnancy
New Discussion

What to do for a friend on bedrest?

jessica_blockjessica_block
in High-Risk Pregnancy

My friend is on hospital bedrest until the baby is born (she is 27 weeks). I want to do something that will be uplifting or helpful. Any ideas or advice would be appreciated.

Image and video hosting by TinyPicBaby Birthday Ticker Ticker
Report Reply to Post

Re: What to do for a friend on bedrest?

  • beastmel04beastmel04
    Go visit her and bring a movie. See if they will let you do her nails (that always makes me feel better). 
    Report Reply
  • Loading the player...
  • misscinnmisscinn
    rally her g-friends & have a wkly movie night :) i've been on limited activity for most of my pregnancy and have been disappointed by my friends lack of stepping up - though trying very hard to have a different perspective. it's great that you're so aware, very sweet :)
    Report Reply
  • eacabraham@gmail.comeacabraham@gmail.com

    My heart goes out to your friend.  I've been on hospital bedrest for six days, and it sucks.

    I've been appreciating it when people bring me food.  The hospital food is pretty awful, and the nurses encourage people to bring me better things.  (Seriously, I think if someone waltzed in here with a platter of sushi and a tray of tequila shots, the nurses would be a-okay with it.) Call and ask her what she can have and what she would like.

    Call before you show up to visit so she can get the nurses to do things like non-stress tests either before you come or after you leave (if she minds them being done while you're there). Also keep in mind that she and her husband probably want some private time every day, and be respectful of when she tells you that is.

    If she's only 27 weeks, she probably hasn't had a shower yet, and there are probably unfinished projects at home.  Ask if there's anything you can do to help her get ready for the new baby.   Cleaning?  Painting?  Washing the baby's sheets and clothes?

    Speaking of washing, would she like you to bring her some clothes from home, and possibly do a load of laundry for her?

    Naturally, you care very much about your friend and her pregnancy, but also go in prepare to talk about something else.  Everyone in hospital wants to talk about the pregnancy and the medical difficulty, and no offense, but the lady on bed rest can get bored with it.  Do the rundown,  and then be prepared to discuss Project Runway or local politics or whatever other things she's usually interested in.

    Report Reply
  • mrsjrmillermrsjrmiller

    Everything blueshoes said is dead on. I am on home bed rest but was in the hospital for my first pregnancy and it sucks beyond belief.

    You are a good friend.... I know she will appreciate anything you do!

    I liked magazines, visitors and food.... 

    Report Reply
  • Angeline924Angeline924
    Having my friends stop by has been what has kept me sane in the past 5 wks of being on bedrest. For the past few weeks a bunch of them have come over all at once, brought food, magazines and other goodies and kicked DH OUT OF THE HOUSE! Its so nice just to be able to talk and laugh and feel like I have a "normal" social life again :) GL to your friend
    Warning No formatter is installed for the format bbhtml
    Report Reply
  • LadyJavyLadyJavy member
    What a great friend you are! I'm sure just going and keeping her company when you can will be much appreciated! You could also bring in movies, books or little food treats.
    Warning No formatter is installed for the format bbhtml
    Report Reply
This discussion has been closed.
Choose Another Board
Search Boards
"
"