My update

zoology2 · September 2009

I have been staring at this screen for the past 15 minutes just trying to think of what to say...

As most of you know, Avery was admitted last week. She had an emergency operation on Saturday and things were looking up until Sunday night.

After an ultimate struggle and the most difficult times, Avery Grace flew with the angels and passed at 3:44 AM due to a number of things; mostly complications and an internal infection.

Thomas (DH) and I are trying to think of ways to tell the LOs about their baby sister. DD could not even handle knowing about DH's dog and the idea of Heaven. How can I accomplish this? Not only did we find out about what Avery had, it was possibly linked to why the other two never made it. We have set up bereavement counseling and DH has the next two weeks off. Family is coming in this weekend for Avery's memorial on Saturday. This all happened way too fast and I just don't know what to do anymore. I feel like the life has been sucked out of me and it's difficult for me to stay strong for my DS and DD when I can't even stay strong for myself. I have officially lost hope all in all. I have so many unanswered questions and it seems that it will forever remain that way as I'll never get to know my little Avery and see the person she would have become. It was one thing losing two babies while pg but then the one that ultimately survived, did not survive for much longer. Why wasn't there some sort of warning? I just hope she didn't suffer...

I'm so sorry for babbling, I just thought I would give an update. Thank you ladies SO much for the support. I couldn't have imagined a better support system (you ladies, my family and friends...my DH) for my Avery and she felt all of your prayers before being lifted to Heaven. Thank you for your kind words and prayers. I am very appreciative of them and probably even took them for granted...

Kate

gigimarie · September 2009

Oh my word my heart is breaking for you right now! I am so incredibly sorry and so wish there was something I could say or do to help ease the pain. Please just know my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family and let us know if there is anything you need.

ibfloridagirl · September 2009

My heart breaks for you and your family and sweet Avery. I honestly don't know what else to say, but i'm sorry and i wish there was something i could do for you. ::hugs:: just doesn't seem like nearly enough, but ::hugs:: to you and family.

MrsTotty · September 2009

I am so sorry for your loss.

mikey&amie · September 2009

I am so, so sorry. I am in tears right now, and my heart absolutely breaks for you. I cannot imagine such pain, and so many unanswered questions. My deepest condolences to you and your family during this incredibly difficult time. I don't know what else to say other than I am so, so sorry. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

sethsgal · September 2009

I am so upset for you and I know that nothing I say will help you right now, just know that I am keeping you and yours in my prayers...if there is anything I can do to help, please let me know...

mustangsallie · September 2009

Wow, I am speechless and crying right now. My heart is broken for your family. You are living a nightmare and I wish I could change it for you. You have my deepest sympathies for your loss. Please continue to let us know how you are doing as your family grieves.

God bless.

amanda7207 · September 2009

I'm sitting here at my desk bawling. My deepest condolences to you and your family. I can only hope that your other two don't have a too difficult time coping with the pain of losing their sibling. If you need anything, please let us know.

daveshell1 · September 2009

I am so sorry. No parent should have to go through what you are going through... Its just not fair. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

reynah · September 2009

Oh, I am so, so, so, sorry. I am literally in tears for your family. I am sure there is nothing anyone can say or do, just know she is with God. My heart if broken after reading this. I can't even begin to imagine how you are feeling. Please, if you need anything, and I mean anything, even though you don't know me, please let me know. My sympathies are with you.

jfarmer27 · September 2009

My heart breaks for you. I can't even begin to imagine the heartache you're experiencing. May all the sweet times spent with Avery help bring a smile to your face when you've lost all hope. Prayers that God's arms will be wrapped tightly around you and your family for peace, comfort and strength. (((hugs)))

Kim&Jim · September 2009

I cannot imagine what you are going through right now. No parent should ever have to bear this sort of pain. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

For what it's worth, I've heard that books are great ways to deal with death for young children. You may see if the counselor had some good recs based on your kids' ages.

AustinBride06 · September 2009

I'm so, so sorry to hear this. Your family is in my thoughts and prayers. It's just not fair.

flygeah · September 2009

Oh my goodness I am so sorry for your lost. You have my deepest condolences. This is so sad

sars1202 · September 2009

I am so sorry for your loss. Please know that I am praying for comfort for you and your family.

missjanel · September 2009

I'm so sorry Kate for your loss. I cannot fathom what you and your DH are going though right now. I will continue to keep you in my prayers. Please don't hesitate to ask if you need help with ANYTHING.

jenlynnc · September 2009

I am very sorry for your loss.

bnljane1988 · September 2009

There are truly no words.

Your precious angel, you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

aggielauren · September 2009

I am so sorry for you and your family. Y'all are definitely in my thoughts and prayers.

char-char · September 2009

I am so sorry. I don't even know where to begin and know that nothing I say can lessen your pain or the loss you are suffering right now. Truly, I am bawling at my desk reading your post and cannot even fathom what you must be going through right now. I will be praying for you and your family, peace for Miss Avery now that she has joined the Heavens and strength and comfort for all of your family and your other darling little ones. I am just so, so sorry.

idoinjuly · September 2009

I am so sorry. God bless you and your family. I'm close to Colleyville if there is anything I can do for you.

MrsSoapbox · September 2009

I am so very sorry. You and your family will be in my thoughts. I wish I could do something to ease your pain.

dec05gurl · September 2009

i don't know what to say. My heart is seriously aching right now for you. Prayers, thoughts and hugs for you and your family. I'm so sorry for your loss

Mrs.Donkey · September 2009

I am so terribly sorry. What an awful, unfair thing to go through. I wish I could give you a big hug right now. I can't imagine the pain of losing a child. This is so unfair. I will be thinking of you and your family and little Avery. Please, please let us know if there is anything we can do to help you. ((hugs))

Shan_te_xas · September 2009

This hurts my heart! I am so sorry for your loss. As you said, she's with the angelsand the Lord is looking after her. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

lizzyjames · September 2009

Kate-

I'm so sorry for your loss. Your family has been in my thoughts and prayers and will continue to be. There are no words to express the sympathy. Please know that we are here if you need anything. I wish there was someway I could help. I'm so sorry. ((hugs)) I'm so sorry.

TexasLadyBug · September 2009

I am so sorry for your loss. You gave her the best, love, while she was with you. Hugs

kljs1978 · September 2009

My deepest condolenses to you and your family. I can't even begin to imagine what you and your family are going through.

punkfiction · September 2009

omg i am so sorry

prayers for your family.

WyWysMommy · September 2009

I am so sorry for your loss. You are all in my prayers.

mrspresley · September 2009

I am so sorry for your loss. if there is anything we can do, please let us know *hugs*

katherinemichel · September 2009

I'm speechless.

My heart breaks for you and your family. I'm so incredibly sorry and this is the worst thing a mother could go through. Please know that your family will continue to be in my prayers. Please let me know if there is anything I can do. I'm just so sorry.

curlyworms · September 2009

i cant even imagine what you are going thru. I am so sorry for your loss and will pray for your family.

techdg26 · September 2009

I'm sorry for your loss.

jenn4 · September 2009

I am torn to pieces for you guys. I can't imagine what you're going through. I have just prayed for y'all. I don't know what else to say. (((hugs))) I know God is enjoying her presence.

dondraandluis · September 2009

I don't normally post here, but occasionally lurk from the DFW nest. I just want to say that I am so sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my prayers.

allieoop80 · September 2009

I am so very sorry. You and your family are in my prayers.

sweetpea18 · September 2009

I am so, so sorry for your loss. My heart hurts for you and your family. I pray that you find the strength to get yourself and your family through this tough time. I pray that you eventually find peace in this awful situation. If you need anything at all don't hesitate to ask. You, your family and your sweet baby girl are in my thoughts and prayers.

sabrina&andy · September 2009

I am so very sorry for all of your loss. Please let us know if there is anything that we can do for you and know that you are in all our thoughts and prayers.