Is anyone NOT going to find out the sex of the baby?

annies123 · August 2009

We are thinking about not finding out. We are not super big planners, but I sort of feel like it would make things easier if we knew. Then again, it would be a nice surprise to wait. What are your thoughts?

anabell0920 · August 2009

We are finding out. Dh also pointed out how I will love to shop once I find out the gender lol. I think both would be very fun!

g8trkim · August 2009

I am definitely finding out but I have a big respect for people who don't. Good luck in making your decision.

helovesmelots* · August 2009

definitely not finding out

bjmyangel · August 2009

Is it not a suprise when you find out at the ultrasound? For me that was the suprise. Just because you're not physically holding the girl or boy doesn't take away the suprise of finding out. It makes it easier to plan as well. A little girl wearing all green for the first few months would suck!

mzovoce · August 2009

We're aren't going to find out. It will not affect how we buy or decorate. I always thought that I would NEED to find out, but once we found out we were expecting that desire flew out the window. I have always heard that if you can wait it makes the birth just that much more special! Plus now I don't have to worry about my family buying us ugly clothes!

marzinelli17 · August 2009

I'm too excited to not find out. I even tried using the Chinese GEnder prediction.

michellejdent · August 2009

I will be finding out. I agree with not wanting my baby covered in green and yellow for the first few months...

mzovoce · August 2009

michellejdent:
I will be finding out. I agree with not wanting my baby covered in green and yellow for the first few months...

We told my parents and family that we will only dress the baby in white, black, grey, taupe and oatmeal. I was then told I would have a bland baby, now that's a running joke.

IrishBrideND · August 2009

We are HUGE planners and we probably won't. I don't see what we need to plan that requires knowing the sex. BUt then again, we aren't into pink/blue stereotypes.

IrishBrideND · August 2009

Wait: green and yellow = "ugly clothes." Seriously?

pinkcallalily · August 2009

I'm leaning towards not finding out. I think it would be amazing to find out after the baby is born. I'm not worried about my baby wearing yellow or green for months, I think it will be more like a few days before we start receiving pink or blue. I plan to take a boy & girl outfit to the hospital to bring it home in and I may also buy a few onesies or sleepers for each sex ahead of time and then I can return the others at some point (it's not like someone won't be going back to the store soon after the baby is born, especially if I get them at Target, which is our grocery store). I also have the somewhat irrational fear of being told the wrong sex. A few weeks ago at work one of my co-workers granddaugter came out a boy and that just made me want to wait until after birth even more.

michellejdent · August 2009

IrishBrideND:
Wait: green and yellow = "ugly clothes." Seriously?

Most are usually gender neutral and therefore come in things like onsies and sleepers... seriously for 3 months to only have them in two options isn't appealing to me, but maybe others are cool with it.

I however want my little girl to look like a girl and my son to look like a boy. No guessing will be required.

But it's okay for others to have a different opinion.

mzovoce · August 2009

michellejdent:
I however want my little girl to look like a girl and my son to look like a boy. No guessing will be required.

I feel my cousin put it best, she has a pink stroller, and Claire dressed in a pink onsie, wrapped in a pink blanket, with a bow in her hair. People still walked about and asked about her son. IMHO babies look like babies for the first 3 months, not yet gender specific.

pinkcallalily · August 2009

michellejdent:

IrishBrideND:
Wait: green and yellow = "ugly clothes." Seriously?

Most are usually gender neutral and therefore come in things like onsies and sleepers... seriously for 3 months to only have them in two options isn't appealing to me, but maybe others are cool with it.

I however want my little girl to look like a girl and my son to look like a boy. No guessing will be required.

But it's okay for others to have a different opinion.

I don't understand why the baby has to wear the gender neutral clothes for 3 months. I highly doubt you wouldn't be given any gender specific clothes before then or buy them yourself. I don't think there is anything wrong with wanting to plan and knowing the sex, but to assume the baby has to wear yellow for 3 whole months because you don't find out at 20 weeks seems a little much.

IrishBrideND · August 2009

michellejdent:

IrishBrideND:
Wait: green and yellow = "ugly clothes." Seriously?

Most are usually gender neutral and therefore come in things like onsies and sleepers... seriously for 3 months to only have them in two options isn't appealing to me, but maybe others are cool with it.

I however want my little girl to look like a girl and my son to look like a boy. No guessing will be required.

But it's okay for others to have a different opinion.

People are still going to ask you. Thats fine if you want gender specific clothes, but I think its false to call them ugly. You might think they are ugly, but thats different from saying they are flat out ugly.

I personally don't get having to have everything scream BOY or GIRL. Its just not something I can comprehend the need for. A baby is a baby. But thats just me. I don't mind some pink or some blue, but I don't understand why some can't fathom leaving the house without their child covered head to toe in their gender specific color.

juliane2004 · August 2009

bjmyangel:
Is it not a suprise when you find out at the ultrasound? For me that was the suprise. Just because you're not physically holding the girl or boy doesn't take away the suprise of finding out.

This is exactly how I felt, and is why we found out.

bjmyangel:
A little girl wearing all green for the first few months would suck!

I had to laugh a little at this, because your baby is due in March and your siggy has a lot of green in it because of St Patty's Day. Ironic, no?

BelhurstBride · August 2009

We're not. We'd rather be surprised- at least with our first.It's just a personal choice we made together.

And do you honestly think that NO ONE is going to run out and buy clothes for three entire months? That's a silly argument. Besides, I'd rather people not buy us a ton of little cutesy outfits that the child is not likely to ever even get a chance to wear.

annies123 · August 2009

Thanks for all the different opinions. We still have a long time before we have to decide. I see everyone has different thoughts on it. First I thought everything in the nursery would be blue or pink themes. But now I see that was just the excitement of it all and now I'm being a bit more practical.

michellejdent · August 2009

IrishBrideND:
michellejdent:

IrishBrideND:
Wait: green and yellow = "ugly clothes." Seriously?

Most are usually gender neutral and therefore come in things like onsies and sleepers... seriously for 3 months to only have them in two options isn't appealing to me, but maybe others are cool with it.

I however want my little girl to look like a girl and my son to look like a boy. No guessing will be required.

But it's okay for others to have a different opinion.

People are still going to ask you. Thats fine if you want gender specific clothes, but I think its false to call them ugly. You might think they are ugly, but thats different from saying they are flat out ugly.

I personally don't get having to have everything scream BOY or GIRL. Its just not something I can comprehend the need for. A baby is a baby. But thats just me. I don't mind some pink or some blue, but I don't understand why some can't fathom leaving the house without their child covered head to toe in their gender specific color.

Thus the discalaimer that we are all allowed our differing opinions... I am allowed to have one - right?

If you don't mind green and yellow- go for it! It's your baby:)

katymichelle · August 2009

We are not finding out. I love the idea of the gender being a happy surprise that capstones the birth. Besides, I wanted a more neutral palate for the nursery anyway. I can't say I'm worried about the baby being dressed in green or yellow for the first few months, as many people purchase gifts after the baby is born. I think it's fine to find out if you want, but we just like the idea of being surprised at the birth. The bedding we chose for the nursery is yellow, cream, and brown. It's very lovely and will work for either sex and then it will also work for the next baby if we want to go that route also.

metzy144 · August 2009

We are going to find out. I am not very good with suprises and I am a big planner. I just think it will be better to have the room and all of the baby stuff in order before the baby comes without having it be all gender neutral.

g8trkim · August 2009

IrishBrideND:
Wait: green and yellow = "ugly clothes." Seriously?

I think she just meant she wanted some variety. Not that it's ugly. I can understand where she would be coming from.

nestinginjapan · August 2009

we're still decided but are leaning towards having it be a surprise - that's what my mom did with me and my brother and she said it was exciting to hear after we were born!

ervin412@gmail.com · August 2009

IrishBrideND:
Wait: green and yellow = "ugly clothes." Seriously?

Ditto.

KABKD · August 2009

This has been a very amusing post to read. We did not find out with my son and by no means was he wearing green and yellow the first three months. I think he had a few sleepers and that was all. The minute he was born people were bringing over "boy" clothes to last us a year!

We will not find out this time around either.

hotpinkprincess82 · August 2009

We're not going to find out the sex either. DH reallly wants to be surprised and I'm going along with him. I honestly don't care either way as long as the baby's healthy.

jennasita · August 2009

My husband and I will find out, but we're not telling anyone. We can't decide whether to tell at the shower or when the babies born. We want to do something special though. Big Smile

It's going to kill the grandparents, but they'll get over it. I enjoy being evil too much.

WonderWoman27 · August 2009

I could never do that! ?I want to know right now. ?Actually, I wanted to know the day I found out we were pregnant! lol ?GL either way you go!

jays_bride · August 2009

We aren't. We didn't with DD either. It drives our families crazy, but I loved hearing DH say, OMG, It's a girl!!!!

DANNI21 · August 2009

Its hard to tell what I'll actually end up doing, but I dont think we are finding out. It is one of life's biggest surprises and I'm not into pink or blue....I'd rather have a gender neutral nursery for babies to come! I love the whole green orange and brown themes!

michellejdent · August 2009

g8trkim:

IrishBrideND:
Wait: green and yellow = "ugly clothes." Seriously?

I think she just meant she wanted some variety. Not that it's ugly. I can understand where she would be coming from.

This exactly!

IrishBrideND · August 2009

michellejdent:
g8trkim:

IrishBrideND:
Wait: green and yellow = "ugly clothes." Seriously?

I think she just meant she wanted some variety. Not that it's ugly. I can understand where she would be coming from.

This exactly!

Ok good to know. It was an interesting way to say "I prefer to have some pink or blue clothes along with all the other colors because I want more variety." but I'm glad that you didn't mean it how it came out.

ktsnshn · August 2009

We are leaning towards not finding out. I plan to do the nursery with a neutral theme that I can use for all of our babies. My sister didn't find out and I don't think my niece ended up with much that was yellow and green, and as soon as she was born she had a pink and purple "girly" wardrobe thanks to all of her hospital and home visitors.

prazenjc · August 2009

imo, it is every bit the surprise @ week 20 as it would be the day of. why not find out when you can. you will be pleasantly surprised then, too. i just don't get why one is more of a surprise than another--that's just not logical to me.

eleventofive · August 2009

I'm certainly a big planner and DH isn't so much, but ironically, he wants to find out the baby's gender and I don't. He (and everyone else who posted) is right that it's as much as surprise at 20 weeks as at 40, and since he's excited about being able to pick out gender-specific clothes, I think I'll let him win this battle. I still plan on decorating the nursery gender-neutral, though, so that we can easily reuse with future child(ren).

kate3636 · August 2009

We are leaning towards finding out, but have a few months till we need to make that decision final

Aliki · August 2009

g8trkim:
IrishBrideND:
Wait: green and yellow = "ugly clothes." Seriously?

I think she just meant she wanted some variety. Not that it's ugly. I can understand where she would be coming from.

Variety!? She's talking about clothing her kids in either JUST PINK or JUST BLUE, based on their gender! LOL! That's LESS VARIETY!

katieketner · August 2009

We're going to be surprised! We will be moving a month or so after the baby is born, so don't need to know for the nursery, etc. My mom lives to shop, so she can run out and buy some things after the little one arrives!

g8trkim · August 2009

No one said just pink or just blue. If you know the sex you can get girl/boy related things as well as all the neutral stuff, rather than just gender neutral stuff. That's all I meant by variety. I definitely would hate to have all blue or all pink. I love all the colors.

Mizz&Shizz · August 2009

We are not finding out, because I feel like if you know the sex, you know the name, you somewhat know what the kid looks like because of u/s, and then the kid is practically born before its born. So we are waiting, much to DH's dismay, but he is getting to be more ok with it.

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