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nikinikinine
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career and IF, how to find balance
nikinikinine
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I'm in a job with excellent benefits but I am incredibly bored and underutilized. Recently I've gone on several interviews for a much more promising job. I'm excited about the opportunity...but
I've always envisioned myself as a SAHM and DH and I have saved for years so that I can stop working when the time came. Now that we're 16 months into this process with no end in sight I don't know what to do.
I don't want to start a new job and then leave, but I don't necessarily want to sit here indefinitely in the meantime.
Anyone else experiencing career woes because of IF?
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Re: career and IF, how to find balance
I totally understand what you're talking about. I'd talked for years about leaving my job after I have a baby and finding a job closer to home. I currently have an hour commute each way. I really do love the people I work with and I like the work I do, and the company I work for has great benefits for both infertility and adoption.... but I've been here for a long time and I'm definitely bored at times.
If I really pursued it, I could get more responsibiities here and get on some more interesting and challenging projects, but I've been pretty much coasting b/c I didn't want to deal with the stress of doing something new. Plus when I was cycling, it was nice to have the flexibiity, not to mention all the vacation and sick leave I've accrued over the years, to come and go as I needed.
I think a big part of me though is also scared to do something different. *sigh*
yes tell me about it. I honestly thought i would be pregnant by now before i knew i had PCOS almost a year ago.... So i stayed at this job feeling the way you feel. Wish I would have moved sooner on a more promising career.
however since you have the financial stability you could move to any job and you can leave anytime since you want to be SAHM....go after what makes you happy....
besides with IF you never know when you may get pregnant. its all a suprise is how i see it. this is where i had to stop planning and let an RE govern it lol its hard to accept at times for me.
add me to the list! I am very happy at my job, but want to move back to my home city. It has been very difficult to plan a move and new job while balancing IF. I don't want to start a new job and than immediately take maternity. At the same time, i could be in this waiting game for a long time.
It has made me realize how much we women have to balance (in a way men don't).
Wow nikinikinine, you just described me 6 months ago.
I left the job with excellent benefits for my exciting opportunity and I haven't regretted it, even though my new company's insurance doesn't cover IF treatments. Even when IF things aren't going well, I think I am happier knowing I took a risk and pursued my career.
I think you have to make a decision about how much you want to let IF run your life. I think about how much I want a baby every day, but you shouldn't stop living today for something that will happen in the future.
-Sky AKA c0debabe
sort of same here - my job is fine, I work at the same university that DH works at, but I would really like to expand my opportunities here - but I'm gunshy about planning anything because who knows what might (or likely might not) happen next month...
i never thought this would be so difficult for us and I feel like my career is in limbo too...I don't want to start something only to have to drop it in 2 or 3 months....