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Talk to me - What DRAMA are you experiencing in your life right now?
Get it all off your chest. (putting out a plate of zucchini bread and tea)
ME:
Husband's crappy job. No time, money and motivation to do upgrades on our home because his job is so sucky and he can't find a new path that suits him. Every morning I hear him talk about his work and I feel so bad for him and yet we are kind of stuck right now.
Baby Shower - My mom and aunts want to throw one and I don't want one but I do...I mean there are two people that would be invited that are annoying as all hell and I have to get over their personalities before feeling comfortable enough at my own shower. Sucks. I can't change them only my perception of them.
Being an older 1st time mom - scares the living crap out of me. I barely have enough energy to take care of myself let alone a little baby that is a "surprise". All in all, we are so excited to be given this blessing and I just worry I will fail at everything.
That's it for me. Anyone want to join in?
God Bless our sweet baby James.
Our son, born 11/22/09.
Unplanned, Emergency C-section
"Wearing his BING CROSBY clothes and crooning...buuuh buuh buuuh"
"Wearing his BING CROSBY clothes and crooning...buuuh buuh buuuh"
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Re: Talk to me - What DRAMA are you experiencing in your life right now?
cliffs notes:
work stress & uncertainty.
a sister who somehow always wants to cause drama (and is so good at it).
other than that, nothing too huge.
(though i feel like work stress is enough)
Work + douchey boss + having to go to the Drs. 2x/week = stress
Home renovations
Photography site | Photoblog | ...into the womb| My beachbody
Stress at work...I have to go at least another week to qualify for FMLA.
I have cholestasis, and itch like crazy, and have for about 3 weeks.
My hands have started to swell and I have a killer headache (off to the dr shortly).
*PGAL/PAL Welcome*
My Ovulation Chart
DH and I couldn't be better right now! My sister on the other hand is causing major drama for my family and it is driving me nuts.
She decided to move out of the house as soon as she turned 18 which would be fine if she was done with high school, had a job and a car. She moved in with her crack head boyfriend who tells her how fat she is and shoves diet pills down her throat.
My mom and sister don't get along which is tearing the family apart. Mom gets mad when you even speak to my sister but my sister likes to cause drama when she talks to anyone.
Long story short they are both dragging everyone into the middle of this situation and it's making me crazy because I'm the one they come to.I have always been the mediator and now that I live 3 states away nothing is being taken care of because they don't talk to each other without yelling!
I love my family but they make me want to cut all contact and hermit with my DH and child!
a possible move VERY soon after baby gets here
budget crisis in our state and wondering if I will get laid off when they FINALLY pass a budget that is 2 months overdue
worried about how my relationship with dh will change once dd gets here and if his family will try to be too pushy and how we will deal with that
Uh oh! You asked!!
Hubby - Lost job in June so money is tight. However, he has been the BEST lately. Doing stuff around the house and just downright awesome to me.
Work -Stressing about getting everything done and cleaned up before baby decides to come.
Family - My sister is a complete bee-ach and pathalogical liar. She has always been like that but finally it came to a head and I wrote her off a week or two ago. Her and my cousin both. They both started crap and I am not going to deal with it. Grow up! My dad may have to have surgery soon on his knee. Nothing major, but I still worry about him
Son - He starts Kindergarten in two weeks and I am super emotional about it. My little boy is growing up
Trying to buy a house, everything is so uncertain, best case scenario won't have us close til baby is at least 2 weeks old. I'm in full on nesting mode with no nest to prepare other than our tiny apartment that will just have to be all dismantled for the move.
Dh's sister is currently driving me nuts.
Worried about finances...even though I've budgeted and rebudgeted for my leave while I'm on STD, I'm still worried there won't be enough $$ to cover everything.
HOSPITAL BEDREST!
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Trying to find an apartment.
Money problems.
Hubbs & my friend- who to believe (see post below)
Ugh. Drama drama drama!
Work - Stupid boss passing off her responsibilities onto me.
Mother - Overbearing and assuming that I'm incapable of making a smart decision. Plus, she needs to give me her two cents on EVERYTHING! (i.e. breastfeeding will probably not work so don't waste money on classes, get the circumsicion because that's just what you "do," don't get an epidural because it's not natural, don't keep reading books/websites/message boards for advice because every mother just KNOWS how to care for their babies, etc."
Father - self-absorbed a$$ who has never offered any help of any kind. When I asked him for help to make him feel "involved" in this process, he called me ungrateful.
I could hug you! My two biggest sources of drama are:
One of our dogs died just over a week ago, after 9 days in IUC, 2 surgeries and a lot $$ we didn't have. I am so sad and almost in denial about it, I miss him sooo much. I hate myself for all the times I complained about the amount of work 2 giant dogs. And now I am worried about how hard my other dog is taking the loss of his brother (litter mates to boot).
My BIL is getting divorced, with 2 small kids, and he call me several times a week to vent, has me read letters to his wife, and asks me about dating. He doesn't have many friends, so he needs a lot of support. It is stressful to be involved like that.
Let's see...
1. Money. Or lack of it, rather.
2. Stress. Don't get me started.
3. People who are ungrateful. I feel so taken advantage of much of the time.
4. Lack of confidence in myself with my business. I need to stop having that issue, the sooner the better. I am over worked and underpaid and in the end I am the only one I can blame for that.
5. My sudden back pain. Oh, this is the worst. I am WAY too busy to have more physical issues. I've been held back by physical problems for far too long now. It's just not fair.
6. Family... most of them are awesome, some of them just aren't around enough.
7. This economy SUCKS. And we're feeling it big time.
8. Did I mention stress?
9. Puking. I am SO sick of puking.
Okay I'll stop now...
Thanks for the zucchini bread. That sounds amazing.
Honestly, not a lot of drama in my life. DH has been traveling a lot for work, and will probably be gone this week tonight through Friday night. I hate that we don't know for sure even though he could be leaving tonight, and that I am full term and he will be gone. I think this will be his last trip though, so that is good.
I am estranged from my father, and it has really been weighing on my mind knowing that he will be a grandfather soon. I keep having dreams about him and his evil wife. I just wish he would realize that the fact that the family has cut him out is because of HIS decisions. He is blaming his parents and brother for everything bad that has happened in our family and is now trying to suck up to me even though he tried to ruin our wedding and was emotionally abusive to me for years. I just wish he would accept responsibility for his actions so we can move on. I will not reconcile with him until he realizes his fault in the situation with me and with our other family members. Right now, I am just wondering if I should send him a birth announcement and fill him in on my life, or if I should keep lines of communication totally closed.
I guess I don't have as much drama as everyone else, but a couple things are stressing me right now...
Worrying if I am going to remember how to parent a newborn after 10 years of no babies...
worrying about finances when I am out of work (I make twice what DH makes, so we are trying to save a little to get us by for the month Ill be off)
Juggling my two older kids schedules now that school is starting tomorrow... we had a great summer of NOTHING, and now we are going to be back to doing something every night of the week... and throw in a baby and we'll see how that goes...
Having to be monitored twice a week and wondering why the insulin isn't bringing my numbers down as much as it should be... (biggest stresser of all)
My job - My boss is becoming more of an a$$hole in direct coorelation with the expansion of my belly and doesn't want me to go to doctor's appointments or anything else and no longer feels that I'm entitled to take any of my vacation time. I had to use my last vacation day last week before my employment anniversary because we are not allowed to roll any time over.
Yesterday he called me into his office to tell me that he intended to doc my pay for it since he "didn't feel" like I should have been able to use it and should have forfeited it since I had doctor appointments. (Which, BTW, I now have to make up the time for, and did, even though no other salaried employee has to do this.)
He also told me that he doesn't think he'll keep my job open for me to come back because it "compromises the position," whatever that means, and that I would be putting too much strain on the company by taking 6 weeks off (as my doctor requires) for maternity leave and that I was being unfair. Oh, and that he doesn't want to pay me for any vacation time (which I've earned) while I'm out because, "it doesn't amount to much anyway."
We're too small to be covered by FMLA but I did work a very similar clause into my employment contract when I started so now I think I have to start looking for a lawyer. It just sucks especially because I'm the primary breadwinner and the insurance is through me and I've already paid the $3000 deductible and will be completely screwed if he decides to fire me.
Ugh, vent over for now...
I have it relatively easy, I suppose. I am tired and unable to sleep more than about 3 hours a night (allergies, pee breaks, hip soreness, typical pg.-related shiz). That causes work stress, as I am exhausted, and am losing patience with my patients (psych. nurse). I am also trying to train the nurse who will be covering my leave.
DH and I both have steady incomes, but it's hard not to worry about finances with a little one on the way. My car has been acting up, which has eaten up a lot of money this month.
Fortunately, my DH, family and ILs are awesome, and more than helpful/supportive. Good luck to those of you who don't have supportive families!
same ol' story.
broker than broke.
hate my job. don't wanna come back after FMLA.
DH still in school. just started what i pray to freaking god will be his last semester & he'll get a job lined up before graduating in dec so i won't have to keep freaking out about how to support 3 of us (since i can't really support the 2 of us now). except motivating him to do his f-ing homework and just get. it. done. has been the bane of my existance for how many yrs now? ugh!!
didn't mean to rant. you asked.
LOL, Where to begin?
Moving this weekend and living in a sea of boxes and bins. Money issues. BIL's wife cheating on him and blaming him for it, we are his support. BIL suffering from things over in Afganistan. In-laws are devastated and calling us at all hours. My family picking on me about my weight. Husband work stress. Trying to do everything myself so less stress on hubby dealing with work and family stress. Uggh. No sleep due to BH, Leg cramps, bathroom runs, and a little girl that is getting signed up for Tykwando as early as possible. My insides are all bruised. Plus my husband has been sick. I probably left things out, but I really can not think right now!
How the heck are we going to afford daycare...we have WAY too much debt and it's totally our fault.
Shower: Mom wants to invite her entire family to my shower including her druggy sister, alcoholic enabling sister, and super "push her religion beliefs on you" sister. She doesn't realize that by inviting them, the people I actually want to be there may not come.
Finishing our basement. Stressful, plus (see point 1) we don't have the money to do it. DH is dead set on having it done before baby comes though whether we can afford it or not.
This is going to sound ridiculous but my cat is driving me effin' nuts. I've had him for 6 years and usually have a high tolerance for his antics but lately he's been driving me nuts. I am worried he's trying to tell me something is wrong but too pissed at him to care. That sounds awful when I re-read that.
Money, money, money. My husband has racked up about $1100 in emergency room bills in the last three months because of his hobby. (Which he has since put on hold for my sanity). I'm worried about not saving enough.
1. I have my first day of class on Monday night and I haven't been back to school in 4 years! I am sooo nervous!
2. Every year we take a camping trip to VT two weekends in a row and we take the dogs the first weekend so they can have fun and then don't take them the second weekend so we can have fun. We're not taking them at all this year because I am so pregnant and can't handle them and I feel soooooooooooo guilty. It's not like they know they're not coming to VT this year but still! : (
I hate my job - I can't imagine coming back here at any point, but I don't know what I am going to do if I can't find something else. We can't afford for me to SAHM, though I would love it.
My mom is BSC - beyond belief - and I still (after 26 yrs of knowing this is the way she is) haven't learned to deal with it successfully. DH wants to kill her for stressing me out, and I am having a hard time keeping him from getting involved (which would only make things 1000 times worse).
FIL is not speaking to MIL b/c he is BSC - and it's tearing DH up, but he doesn't really want to talk about it. I don't push, but I am trying to think about how to be there for him.
DH is my only saving grace - he has been awesome helping out around the house and listening to me vent. I haven't been overly crazy with hormones, but when I lost it the other day and started crying (for NO reason) he just sat with me and held my hand. I just want to run away with him and this LO and never talk to any of these selfish crazy ppl again.
My hubby has been in Louisiana for pre-deployment training since August 5th (he deploys in January). We haven't been able to talk almost the entire time. The last time I heard his voice was on the 7th and I have had some random middle of the night texts, which I save because I am a loser and like to be able to see him tell me he loves me and our baby girl. I am staying with my family in Michigan while he is gone and I love my family, but they are not my husband and I just want to go home and sleep in my own bed with my husband's arms around me. He was supposed to be coming home on the 27th and now instead he's coming back on the 30th. 3 days is a long time when I've been counting since day 1!
I have no idea how I am going to handle this deployment and even though it's his second deployment, it is our first as a married couple and with a child and that seems to make it so much harder.
Thanks for listening.... I feel selfish saying that out loud, typing seems a little better
1. School work
2. House renovations and the money involved in all these changes
3. Insurance issues
4. Getting my glucose levels in order after being diagnosed with GD.
BFP #3 -mm/c @ 7wks, discovered at 9wks, D&C 9/28
BFP #4 5/29 EDD 2/9 - please be our rainbow
not talking to my family b/c I felt left out at my family vacation.
They are being asshats!
DH got laid off in May. There are absolutely NO job opportunities in our area right now. Our plan was for me to be a SAHM and now I am the primary income and responsible for our health insurance.
My step mom is the devil. We exchanged some pretty harsh words almost a year ago and I haven't really spoken to my dad since then. I used to be really close to my dad.
My stepson's mom takes being poor white trash to a whole new level and we are in the process of trying to get custody of my two stepson's.
(1) Our old landlord won't return our security deposit so we have sued him for its return
(2) the contractors working on our new house have screwed everything up and it probably won't be done in time before baby Connor arrives
Money, Money, Money
Finding a new apartment after DS gets here
I'm tired of feeling like a failure because I don't feel up to working anymore. I just can't deal with the pain and discomfort. Seems like everyone else manages to work right up until they pop out the baby, but I can't.
My inlaws visiting us this weekend for the first time in 18 months. They've never been to our home so I want it to be perfect and spotless and I don't have the energy to do it.
Gaining too much weight. I didn't want to gain so much but it just kinda seems like it happened. Oh well.
Just being ready for this little guy to come home kinda scares me a little. He was planned and we'd been waiting years to be ready to have a baby (wanted a house first, conceived the month after we moved in!) but it still freaks me out at times.
Being afraid my mom is not going to listen to our wishes and treat my son the way she thinks is right since she's that type of person. It drives me crazy.
We have been working on plans to build a house and deal with the land for over 2 years now. So of course, NOW is when it's time to finalize the contract, loan, etc. and deal with how we'll pay for it, what we can't get for the money we have, etc. And I desperately want this part done before I go into labor anytime. I'm already a mess emotionally from the stress and lack of good sleep-I can just see my insanity increase with the little fella's arrival. So on top of that, dealing wtih building a house with a newborn, selling the current house and possibly having to move twice, every family member's opinion on what we're doing, etc. etc. It's a bit overwhelming that's for sure.
Owning our own business and all the stress that comes with it. We are having serious cash flow problems because now our supplier wants to get paid before the job is completed and our clients don't want to pay until after the job is done. We don't have the money to float the timing difference here. We also have a client that is refusing to pay and it is a lot of money. I could really use that money right now. Especially since the first of the month is coming up and I need to pay my mortgage.
We pay DH at the beginning of every month, but we can't do that if there is no money in the account. We would be totally fine but w/in the past year we have been sued (so all the costs of a lawyer and everything that went along with that), a job went bad out of state and we had to pay out of pocket to get it fixed, and we had a client pay us with stolen credit cards so we are out that money as well.
I just want something to go right, so much has been going bad. I can't take it anymore. I want to be able to pay my bills without worrying if I can pay all of them each month.
I fell last week and now have an abruption. I had the BEST/healthiest pregnancy and now I am on bedrest. I have had 4 ultrasounds in the last week and another Thursday. There is a lot of uncertainty about whether I will have to deliver early. (I am very lucky though that my boss is supportive and found work for me to do at home so I don't have to use up FMLA.)
DH decided when I was 6 mo. pregnant that he wants to start law school. (Which will help us in the future with his job, but he has to spend three nights a week in class and countless hours preparing for the LSAT).
My brother is a recovering drug addict. He was sober for awhile but is now drinking again. This is putting a lot of stress on my family and mostly I feel bad for my parents.
However, writing this post does make me realize that I do have lots of blessings. For instance, my baby is doing completely fine after the fall. My husband is amazing and my family and his are completely supportive. I think we all have stress all the time, and it can really affect our mental well-being, happiness, relationships, etc. if we let it get to us. I constantly have to remind myself to put things in perspective and to not let those bad things make me forget all the good that I have in my life.
We're building a house. and the scheduled "move in" time is when I am 36 weeks... My son was BORN at 36 weeks!!
Dealing with contractors, buying everything, making sure we have the $$ is alot of stress on both of us right now..
Plus my MIL who insisted on doing the painting - instead of letting me hire someone- is doing a crappy job!!!
JobUncertainty/Money -- My job told me that I may not have a job to come back to after leave, that they may be eliminating my position and will let me know if Nov/Dec(while I'm home with baby). With my job and our bigger income up in the air, it kind of throws a damper on planning - luckily our families have been amazing and have gotten all of LO's furniture and bedding for her room. I've come to terms with the idea of losing my job, and sometimes hope that it is eliminated. While money would be more than super tight, I'd love the opportunity to stay home with our LO and collect UI while I look for another job. If I do have a job to come back to, I have no clue how we'll find the money needed for daycare... it's insane! we'll make due, but it will be tight.
Other than the normal pregnancy misery, in the middle of a drawn-out divorce that is being drawn out simply because the court system in MD takes SO FREAKIN' LONG. At this rate I'll be lucky to get a court date in January. And that's the initial court date - if ex decides to fight about something, it could go on and on.....
AND ex won't talk to me and I want to unload the house we own. We bought in 2007 when housing market was crazy and we way over-paid for it and it's been nothing but a money pit. He was supposed to fix it up but never did while he lived there, so I had to sink $$ I don't have into making it livable for a baby, meanwhile I still don't have $$ to replace the roof or plumbing, both of which it needs.
Plus I am not getting paid while out on maternity leave. Grrrr.
And yesterday at my u/s they saw an abnormal mass in the baby near her bladder which we won't know what it is until the baby comes out and they can test her.
I'm scheduled for a C-section in 3 weeks but it's going to be a loooong 3 weeks to find out what's wrong with my baby.
AND I HATE my job and am SO depressed about having to come back here after baby........totally wishing my boyfriend would land something that would allow me to stay home with her, or at least just work part-time somewhere in a happier environment. BLAH!!!!!
My mom suffered cardiac arrest on July 28th and passed on Aug 11th after we deciced to withdrawl life support due to severe brain damage. I miss her so much, my heart is broken. I cry every night, non stop. I replay her voice in my head over and over. I wake up in the middle of the night to pee, and can't go back to sleep because my mind just races.
She was supposed to be our sitter once I went back to work. Now DH and I are freaking out about finding daycare and coming up with the money - which is NO where in our budget. My father has given up on the house and wants to sell it. It was my childhood home and all my memories are there, but I have to support his decision. My older 1/2 sister (same mom-diff. dads) has not talked to my twin sister or I since our mom passed. She thinks we are trying to push her out of the family now that my mom is gone. She was supposed to throw my shower on Aug 22nd, which was cancelled due to my moms service being that day. I planned my moms whole service and paid for most of it. My older sis didn't come to the service because of the anomosity towards my twin and I. She has said nothing about rescheduling the shower..(since she hasn't even talked to me). So my best friend and MIL are throwing something together for me in the next few weeks. My twin sister who still lives at home with my dad and her boyfriend (of 8 months who is unemployed) have just decided to get married in 2 months. They have no money and she keeps asking me for help.
We started renovating our home in Jan. when we bought it. Complete reno. It was a disaster foreclosure. We have gotten lots done. But we still do not have a hallway guest bathroom, just a master bathroom. I mean it is completely gutted and now after going over finances we realized it will not be done until we get our tax return early next year. So I have no guest bathroom, and no tub for the baby. Hope she likes showers!
Pheewww, that was a lot. Felt good. and made me cry.
I know I'm late on this one, but here goes:
Mom being completely unsupportive..she's trying not to be invasive and instead she comes across as disinterested. It's awesome, really.
Sister always has drama in her relationship - I hate her bf, he's a no good, abusive, controlling loser and it has strained my relationship with her.
$$$$$. Do I need to say more about that one?