drive by BFP clarification? (warning, ticker inside)

prazenjc · August 2009

i have a tendency to be a people pleaser and also worry that i might be considered what you define as a BFP.

i came to TTTC just in july when i was doing my first IVF attempt. i do come in and check posts and respond when i see "SAIFW" somewhere in the OP. i did support and post a lot during the IVF cycle i went thru. when i do see that SAIFW is in a post, i freely post my encouragement. but, i am truly sensitive to the fact that even though i am in the tenuous 1st trimester and not out of the woods yet, that b/c of my enthusiasm w/this 1st pg, i put a ticker in my siggy and others could be frustrated seeing that.

so, b/c of that, please confirm that i'm not a drive by BFP!

i do have a heart for all of you and would LOVE to post in every post words of support and encouragement. but, i also want to be respectful, so i don't post in OP's that don't indicate the SAIFW code.

(((hugs to every one!)))

smilee · August 2009

It is someone that has NEVER posted and posts a BFP.

You have NO worries!

Dragonfly1226 · August 2009

Just the fact that you posted this tells me that you're not in this category. The OP was someone who never posted here until she posted about her BFP last night. That turned into a 3TC bashing on another board. I have SAIFW in my siggy b/c I love to hear advice from women who have been successful. Please continue to hang around here and offer support to those of us who are still having TTTC

Echloe · August 2009

I don't think anyone would consider you a drive-by.

njdcgirl · August 2009

Nope, not a drive-by. Thanks for still coming back and giving support too!

lnle · August 2009

not a drive-by - you were part of the IVF check-in!

Aliki · August 2009

prazenj: I've seen you post replies, even before you got your bfp. I remember you asking questions, giving suggestions, volunteering information about yourself and the procedures you were going through.

I think is VERY different than what happened last night (and happens on occasion) where someone from GP or BOTB drives by, has never posted before on TTTC, and goes "BFP!" and then runs off, never to return. Sad

I'm also very early along and I hope I dont step on anyone's toes by staying here a little longer. After TTC for so long, it's hard to move on.

orthomom · August 2009

I have only been posting here as well since my IVF started a month ago. I am new so my thoughts may not reflect everyone's but having been thru 2 m/c and posting a tentative BFP yesterday I can say that I am not offended by early pregnant women (first trimester) posting advice. Personally if I could figure out the SAIFW siggy thing I would post it. Having had two m/cs (one that was probably just a c/p discovered late since I was on progesterone) I feel that you really aren't a SAIF until you have a live birth. Of course I am happy for everyone that has a BFP but I know how often things go wrong.

After that post from the drive-by person I was worried that since I have only been here a month people would be mad at me too. I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings either. Though I am new here I have been TTC#2 for 18 months and I thought I would be welcome here...but I did worry just like you. I hope that this BFP is going to work out for you and for me too and I plan to come here to answer questions too if I am welcome.

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