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So I told coworkers...

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I supervise a department of 12 staff in a social service agency. I sent them this email this afternoon and I'm scared about it. We work at a small agency so I know the gossip will be flying. I guess I just felt that I needed to explain myself. I'm a relatively private person when it comes to my personal life, so this took a lot of courage for me...

Hi everyone,

I?m sure you all know that it is not like me at all to call out at the last minute. I just want to apologize to everyone for my unexpected absences. I?m currently facing several personal challenges and I feel that explaining this will help you understand where I am.

On Thursday morning I received the news that over the course of my pregnancy, the baby stopped growing and its heart stopped beating. As you can imagine, this news has been devastating to Tim & I, especially considering that this will be my 3rd miscarriage over the past year. We have been to specialists and have had extensive testing done, so this is especially hard following all of the needles and procedures. I am currently waiting to miscarry naturally, and hope to be back in the office on Monday.

I hope you all understand the difficult time I am having right now, and bear with me as I try to get myself back to "normal." I also trust that you will respect my privacy and keep this information to yourself.

Enjoy your weekend,

BFP#1 1/27/09 :: Natural m/c 2/6/09 @ 6w
BFP#2 5/11/09 :: Natural m/c 5/27/09 @ 5w5d
BFP#3 7/24/09 :: Missed m/c, baby stopped growing at 6w4d :: natural m/c 8/28/09 @ 8w6d
BFP #4 11/27/09 :: DD born 7/27/10
BFP #5 2/29/12 :: DD born 11/6/12

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  • Kara5109Kara5109
    Good for you! I think you worded the email very well.
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  • *kendrick**kendrick* member

    I admire your willingness to put your story out there. For every person I tell, I feel a pang of regret for giving up my privacy. But, at the same time it is nice to then not have to pretend I'm okay when I not. Knowing I don't have to put on the front actually genuinely puts me in a better mood. It is so hard to know when to tell and when not to.

    I hope your return to the office goes well and that they are supportive!

     

     

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  • picaronapicarona
    I admire you as well.  There are some coworkers that I would like to share this with, but it just feels....I don't know weird to suddenly tell them.  And I don't want them to feel like they have to comfort me, I just want them to know.  So anyway I stay silent.  I admire you for sharing.
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  • vkbaby09vkbaby09
    Good for you!  I hope you find a little comfort from telling your story to more people and hopefully from the people that you reached out to so eloquently. 
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